The Vent Your Anger Thread

[Melannen 5]

I have found this thread at the best moment ever. I've had abuse and vitriol from various people on Facebook for over two weeks, all because of my Asperger Syndrome. I stupidly told someone (who I thought was a friend) about it and she - having taken a great dislike to me being 'different' - decided to tell certain people in the group that they could bully me because of it. I have left the group, but their bullying left me even more depressed than before so that I'm now on Sertraline and being referred for CBT as a matter of urgency. I just wish people could learn to be nice to one another, even if they are different.

[Gilly 1086]

I couldn't agree more mel, some people make me so mad grrrr Ignorance. You are so much better than them, head up hun!

[kinser 3]

I'm so pissed at my husband - he has been an absolute jerk to me over the last few days. Last week, the line on our toilet burst and practically flooded several parts of our house - it was horrible. I was the only one home when it happended, and it was awful. As water was spurting out of the line with huge pressure, I quickly realized I had no idea how to turn it off - on the toilet, or for the entire house. Once I got a neighbor to help me turn the water off, a lot of damage had been done. We have had to file an insurance claim. So, as you can imagine, that in itself was a horrible experience for me to go through. THEN my husband decides that it must be something I did to damage the water line to the toilet (nope - sorry - just cheap shitty materials they used when they built this crappy house 11 years ago). Several of our neighbors have had the same problem, but he just feel like he needs to blame someone when a disaster happens. Anyway, when I angrily denied breaking, or even touching the stupid toilet line, he decided to hold some sort of ridiculous grudge for me not knowing how to turn off the water!! Okay, I admit it's something every homeowner should know, but it never occured to me to find out! If I had ever thought to ask how to do it, I would have. Maybe he should have thought to tell me (or maybe, since he noticed the line was leaking that morning, he should have shut the damn water off then).

So anyway, thanks for letting me vent for my husband's asshole behavior toward me. I know it's the result of his anxiety issues and his difficulty in dealing with stress, but I still don't accept it as an excuse to treat me badly.

[kinser 3]

Here's another vent - I'm tired of being just sick over money problems and feeling like there's no hope for me to get ahead financially. I went back to school two years ago, worked my ass off, racked up a crap load of debt, and graduated Cum Laude in December, only to find that even with a Bachelor's degree decent jobs are currently non-existent. In a month I will be expected to start paying back my student loans, and we can't barely afford to keep our heads above water now. I'm constantly sick about it, and trying to keep telling myself that I have no choice but to be patient for the economy to improve, but I honestly just feel hopeless. I am working part-time just to make end meet, and I'm grateful to have that income, but it's a job I'm way over-qualified for. Why bother to go to school, borrow money, and work your butt off if you can't even find decent employment when you finish? It just pisses me off to no end.

[Gilly 1086]

I'm so pissed at my husband - he has been an absolute jerk to me over the last few days. Last week, the line on our toilet burst and practically flooded several parts of our house - it was horrible. I was the only one home when it happended, and it was awful. As water was spurting out of the line with huge pressure, I quickly realized I had no idea how to turn it off - on the toilet, or for the entire house. Once I got a neighbor to help me turn the water off, a lot of damage had been done. We have had to file an insurance claim. So, as you can imagine, that in itself was a horrible experience for me to go through. THEN my husband decides that it must be something I did to damage the water line to the toilet (nope - sorry - just cheap shitty materials they used when they built this crappy house 11 years ago). Several of our neighbors have had the same problem, but he just feel like he needs to blame someone when a disaster happens. Anyway, when I angrily denied breaking, or even touching the stupid toilet line, he decided to hold some sort of ridiculous grudge for me not knowing how to turn off the water!! Okay, I admit it's something every homeowner should know, but it never occured to me to find out! If I had ever thought to ask how to do it, I would have. Maybe he should have thought to tell me (or maybe, since he noticed the line was leaking that morning, he should have shut the damn water off then).

So anyway, thanks for letting me vent for my husband's asshole behavior toward me. I know it's the result of his anxiety issues and his difficulty in dealing with stress, but I still don't accept it as an excuse to treat me badly.

Sounds just like my husband. No matter what it is that goes wrong, it is ALWAYS my fault. Just cos he has anxiety and don't like to deal with stress, and I do? pfft I hear you kinser, men :grrr:

[char2011 1]

Another vent !! I hate college because my group is being lazy and don't want to get the work done. !!!! I'm sick of it really considering moving for my last year.

[SarahLizzie 2]

Thank you. That's more or less how I'm trying to see it. My mantra when things get like this is 'this too shall pass.' It doesn't make it any easier, but I do feel stronger.

My vent today is about my children, whom I love but drive me batty at the same time.

If you want to do something that you know or suspect you will get in trouble for, why do it? If I got a nickle for every time I hear "Because I didn't want to get in trouble" as a response to me asking why they didn't tell me they did something and I found out later (which I always do), I'd be rich. Just don't do it in the first place, for crying out loud!!

I've even told them that that's what most criminals do. They break a law, knowing that it's a law and not caring because they want to do it for one reason or another, and then try to hide it so that they won't get in trouble. It's not the right thing to do.

I am sorry, but you post greatly amused me. We have six children. Four are my boyfriends from his previous marriage, I have one from a past relationship (though my boyfriend is her father, with the exception of genetics), and we have one together. Their ages are between 7 years old down to 22 months.

I have been trying to figure out why my children insist on doing things that will get them in trouble myself. When they get angry for being yelled at or punished, I always say, "did you know that what you did was wrong?" and then the answer is always "yes, mommy." Then it's like why are upset for being yelled at and punished? You knew it was going to happen in the first place.

Needless to say, I more than understand the frustrations you are feeling due to your children. Always keep in mind, exploration and testing their limits is always going to be their priority. I know it becomes difficult to not yell, and be angry, but kids will be kids. Sometimes I wish I could toss them out the window lol (not literally), or hide from them for 5-10 minutes.

I hope your day gets better!

[SarahLizzie 2]

I not know where to begin with my venting. I guess I will vent about my money situation, since that is complicating everything else.

It does not matter how much we work, or what we do, we cannot get even close to catching up on the bills. When I sit down to try to figure out a budget for us, and organize our bills, and all that fun stuff, the numbers always show that I should have almost $900 left over after paying bills and everything. Yet, come the end of the day payday, once the bills are paid, we always have about $50 to last us for two whole weeks. Which of course, is no where near enough.

Knowing how tight our money is, and I mean I have to skip paying bills for a month or two in order to keep up with my other bills. It does not stop my boyfriend from cleaning up the added money troubles his ex-wife causes us, and he encourages his ex to enroll his children in multiple sports. Which I am all for them playing sports and activities, but if we cannot afford a $300 start up fee, maybe we should find a community program else where that is cheaper.

My boyfriend does not worry about the bills, he leaves it all up to me. I cannot even afford to buy summer clothing for my kids, I can barely feed them...it just keeps getting worse and worse. Yet I work full time, my boy friend works full time, and I started doing several online jobs to bring in an extra $400-500 month.

It is as though money just vanishes. This is effecting my overall attitude, mood, physical health, mental health, my children, everything all around. This money stuff is having such an awful impact on me that I so not feel like myself anymore, and it is making it extremely hard to keep my anxiety under control.

There are times when I tell bill collectors, hey I am sorry my payment was only $25, but at least I sent something on the delinquent account! Stop telling me to get a better job, I actually enjoy cook in a restaurant, and I make okay money.

Incredible how a piece of green rag paper with print on it, can cause so much grief!

[classy_ally 2]

My weekend was a little irritating for me. Now couple of months, my mom and me go out of town to my grandmother's house. My mother does her hair, since she is fickle about who touches it. So I go along for support and comedy. This time my dad went too. He usually babysits the dogs until we get back. Now I love my mom, but she can really take me there. She started in on me about not wearing makeup. She is a diva and always has makeup on. Well, that's her, not me. So that REALLY pissed me off. I could have been at home with my dog, sleeping! So needless to say I got my anxiety meds out and took 2! lol!! Only family can really get under your skin. At least I don't have to deal with it until August! :haha:

[BeautifulAngel 1]

I am soo exhausted/upset at the moment. I just finished babysitting for 12 hours straight and I can't stand the little girl. She's only 2 years old but she gives me so much attitude and cries over EVERYTHING. Yeah, f*cking annoying. From now on I do not want to babysit that girl she is very annoying and she needs to learn that she won't always get what she wants even if she cries for it.

I've babysat since I was 14 and I am now 19, I've babysat many many kids and none of them were this bitchy/moody.

Anyways that's my rant!

[SarahLizzie 2]

I do not know where to start my venting! Everytime I turn around something is getting worse. My financial situation just keeps getting drastically worse. Meanwhile I work between 40-55 hours a week already, plus I have been freelance writing for some extra money. The freelance writing money is SUPPOSED to be being saved for our vacation in August.

Well, due to the our current situation, the vacation fund, which only had like $50 anyway, is being drained. All my energy and effort for nothing.

To add to it, the kids have just been insanely bad the last several days. Any my 22 month old, who is severely asthmatic, is sick and having a horrible time breathing again.

Can I tackle one thing at a time please? No? why not? Ohh because everything always needs resolved by the end of the day! *sighs*

[MrsRoryFromRunrig 13]

Argh... I hate people who think he say ok and they think you are being mean... It's like we are not allowed to acknowledge anyone anymore I am reckon pissed off at this person. I think a little ignoring is on the cards for next two weeks. Really don't need moaners right now!

End of today's rant!

[Melannen 5]

I'm fed up with people who think they can screw me over and get away with it. I joined a group to find friends, they screw me over. I join a bridal group, all is well for a few months then they screw me over. Will people stop screwing me over and start being nice to me?

[blackcapped 0]

I am so glad that I saw this thread!

I am currently living with the worst roommate of my life. (Even worse than my drug addicted cousin, whom I lived with for a short time.) Every day, there is something that my roommate does that frustrates me. What it mainly boils down to is just that she is dirty, a slob, etc. I am very bad with handling confrontation, so I have not addressed the issue with her. I keep telling myself that I am only living with her for two more weeks (until the end of July) and then I will be able to move out.

Some of the things she does that bothers me? My roommate never puts up the dishes or cleans up after heself in the kitchen. She'll just leave food, trash, and utensils scattered all over the counter. She will drip sauces over the stove top, down the face of the oven, and onto the floor. One time, she left a plate of meat on the counter. I was disgusted. She also takes bowls/cups/plates/tupperware into her room and won't bring them back out again until they start to smell. Then, when my roommate actually does bring them out, they smell horribly! When I get home, the smelly dishes will be in the sink, and the entire apartment will wreak of rotting, spoiled food.

Worse yet? Everything she uses in the kitchen is mine. She does not own her own kitchen supplies.

She never takes out the trash or replaces the trash bag in the kitchen. If, for some reason, I do not have a trash bag in place. She will just throw things in the trash can for me to dig out later or leave her trash on the counter to draw gnats. We officially have a problem with flies in our apartment due to her poor habits.

One of the biggest things she does that irks me is how when she carries things into the apartment, she'll drop some trash onto the floor, stop, look at it, shrug, and then just keep walking. It will literally be there for days unless I pick it up. It can be something as trivial as a wrapper, and she still won't pick it up and throw it away.

I am so annoyed and crossing my fingers that I have the patience to continue dealing with her. I never considered myself a "neat freak" until living with her. Two... more... weeks...

[vapidvector 1]

It doesn't matter what you do, something ALWAYS happens! When you get the least bit of money put back or start to see a little light at the end of the debt tunnel...BAM! The car breaks down or the roof starts leaking or the refridgerator goes south or...or...or...it's ALWAYS something!

[Hoshi 4]

I'm so angry right now at the nerve of my landlady's daughter!! She treats her mum so disrespectfully and always asks her for money when she's been cut off from jobseeker's because she can't be bothered to find a job or turn up for sign-on appointments. A couple of weeks ago she came to ME asking for money to get the bus to her boyfriend's house even though she knows I'm unemployed and living almost hand-to-mouth. And that was even after her mum refused to give her the money because she'd lied to her about going to a dentist appointment, which I heard about.

 

She never gave the money back to me even though she said she would, and she's been acting like she doesn't know any better about it whenever she talks to me. Then one day last week I went to have a shower to find that my whole bottle of shampoo was missing, and her mum had mentioned that sometimes her daughter had a habit of using other people's nice expensive (that I bought as a treat for myself!!) products in the bathroom, so I automatically knew she must've taken it. God knows where- but it reappeared later that day with lots missing from the bottle and nobody including her has said a word about it.

 

Now I hear her arguing with her mum and brother downstairs about asking them to lend her money for the bus again, and they told her no then went out somewhere. Five minutes later I hear a knock at my door and I know she's going to ask me for money so I don't open it but say 'Who is it, what do you want' etc. I tell her I have no spare change and then she still asks me if I have a cigarette she can have! I hardly ever smoke and even if I did have one I certainly wouldn't give it to you, you cheeky little mare.

 

Grrrrr!

[jazzie.o.o 10]

I guess imma control freak?

I dont know but im very intuitive and very observant and can see situations from diffrent perspectives perhaps beacuse my anxiety makes me come up with diverse outcomes. So when someone tells me thier problems I try my hardest to give them the best advise I can while remaining objective. ... but it seams they do directly the opposite of what I advise and end up in worse situations. It makes me very angry. I hate to be the one to say I told yu so... so im a bit of a control freak... I dont have children but I may act as a mother to my close friends and despite my warnings they get thier selves in worsened situations that could have been avoided. It makes me feel not only angry but completely disregarded I know I am young ... a lot younger then most but I feel that if they took my precautionary advice they wouldnt be in such dilemmas. Sometimes I get so angry when they ask for advice I feel compelled to not even answer and many times I dont.

I feel a good friend will tell yu something to feel good, maybe something yu want to hear but a true friend will tell yu what yu NEED to hear. Being the empathetic person that I am much of their stress affects me very much. I wish they would listen to me and take me seriously.... I never tell them things just to be opinionated...I speak out of genuine love always being honest. But I believe they disregard me as they feel like Im not old enough to understand......

I love helping people but I hate seeing them make the same exact mistakes over and over and over agian always expecting a hand to get them out of the same hole they dig and fall into themselvs.

It makes me angry at them and myself for even trying....

[Gilly 1086]

I need to vent. Today started good, went swimming, all good, apart from a lady was ill in the locker room, I did my best not to get in their way as they attended to her, and I didn't let it freak me out which was good. Next we went to the in laws as it is my sister in laws bday tomorrow, as we get there the car beeped and as we got out we could smell a mild burning smell. Popped the hood and I noticed oil around the chassis under and to the side of the engine. Awesome, this is a problem for me, something going wrong, miles away from home, my anxiety ramped up. My husband doesn't know anything about cars, neither do I, I dont even drive.

 

I did put some oil in about 3 weeks ago, I checked the dipstick and it didnt register much so i put in a litre, this didnt make any difference so I added 2 more litres. Now I'm worrying I have killed the car because too much oil can be very damaging. The car is so important to my recovery, as well as necessary for other things, I cant afford expensive repairs I'm really hoping my anxious mind is just jumping to conclusions and it will be something simple to fix, because i'm royally screwed if it costs too much, ARGH I'm SO sick of crap. 

[jonathan123 2368]

Who told you too much oil can damage a car? All that happens is that it will vent from an overflow pipe fitted for this purpose.  At around £6 per tin you can't' afford for it to do that too often. Cars have all sorts of safety devices fitted so I wouldn't worry too much, Gilly. Is it going ok now? If so leave well alone but make sure you check the oil levels frequently, you may have a leak. Get it checked. (Go to your GP. !!!) This could be the right time to google!

 If oil falls too low there should be a warning light that comes on on the dash. I have this thing about breaking down far from home. It happened once last year and I did have a bit of panic but it passed. I think it is the old instinct in us that does this. Many animals get run over because they try to get back 'home' when they hear a car. Squirrels dash back to their tree.  It is a bit of a swine when it happens to us. Danger!! Far from home!! oh dear, what will happen if........Blasted complaint.  My wife just stands and grins.   Some people! But she keeps me sane and how I would love to be like that.  Hope the car is not too much of a problem.     Jon.

[Gilly 1086]

I did google when I got home jon thats where I read too much oil can damage the engine, its good to know that there is safety measures and overflow pipe, I know nothing about cars Jon, well very limited, my dad taught me to check the oil, change the oil, I could probably change the spark plugs at a stretch.

 

The oil warning light flickered as we sharply stopped or turned a corner thats why I checked the dip stick a few weeks back, it was very low, barely registering on the stick, and well below the markers. We bought the car new in 2005 so its 8 years old and I'm not sure if we have put a lot of oil in before, so it made sense it might need topping up. I put in 1 litre, then checked again the next day, it didnt make much difference to the levels on the dip stick, thats why I bought another 2 litres and put that in, that was about 3 weeks ago, I hadnt bothered to check it again. The car started beeping as we got to the inlaws, and when we got out of the car we could smell a slight odour similar to burning rubber, popped the hood and there was a lot of black oil around the chassis under the engine, I have no idea how it got there, I thought a leak would drop directly to the floor, only a little was dripping onto the road. Logic says leak, it beeped every now and again and the oil light flickered on the way home and a noise was intermittently coming from the engine, a scratchy noise. Just not sure where I will find the money if it takes a lot to repair so my mind is racing with negative thoughts, I'm sure everything will work out, hopefully when its daylight tomorrow we can investigate further and see if there is a leak and where its coming from, it was too dark to see when we got home today.

 

Thanks for the reply jon, always appreciate some common sense

[Always-onguard 20]

I just angry! Angry at my anxiety, angry at my physical feelings, angry that it takes so long for test results. Aaaaaarrrrrrregggggh!!! I just want to explode. Also, with all due respect to the elderly, why the hell do they still use bank checks at the damn grocery store!? Debit cards are available. Learn to use them. You got a 250lbs 6 foot guy with anxiety and panic issues, you need to hurry up because I'm in a hurry to go nowhere! And if I have a panic attack waiting fôr you to fill out the check and the bank book, you're going to get run over damn it! Whew. I feel a little better now.

[jonathan123 2368]

Yes, Always. We used to have that problem in the UK but I have not seen anyone use a chequebook for a long time. It used to irritate me when in a supermarket. Cards go through so quickly and when I was anxious there was nothing worse than waiting around. What really still gets me is the nattering that goes on while people are waiting to get served. All about the previous nights TV or their love life. Conversation is fine but irrelevant conversation just lengthens the queue. I try and keep away from all activity like supermarkets and such. I just want a bit of peace and quiet. This is not anxiety related just that I have had enough of the antics that my fellow humans get up to. Is the world going mad or is it me!?  We are in the 'mad' season here. Guy Fawkes night. That is the guy who tried to blow up the King and parliament in the sixteenth century (I think it was) and we celebrate that for some reason. (No comment in case someone is listening).

 

"Forty barrels of powder below;

The House of Commons to overthrow"

 

Fireworks all over the place. I feel sorry for the animals; cats and dogs. I know how you feel but try and not get too angry. It is a very energy using emotion and the preservation of energy is important in nervous illness.   Best wishes.   Jon.

[Gilly 1086]

Bonfire night is my fave night of the year, I love fireworks! 

 

Hate check outs at the supermarket, viva self service!! 

[Jase 15]

My god why don't more people post here, I been looking for this place...ARGHHHHH... I'm so freaking tired of all my stupid behavior, I'm so sick of hating myself, I'm so tired of running away from people who try to reach out to me, im f*cking...ARGHHH...tired of being out of work ARGHHHH.tired of putting in freaking dozens and dozens of job application for even the most menial of jobs and no f***ing body ever calling me freaking back...ARGH..ARGH..ARGHHHHH.. I'm so tired of this @$/!?@$?! thing I call a digestive track....I'm so disgusted for the decades I wasted killing myself with drugs...so f***ing disgusted at all the scars all over my body from the years of hurtin myself...so sick of feeling ashamed of all the things I should feel shame for doing, and still ashamed at the sick things done on me...and freaking God, im just so sick of being sick of being sick of my sickness.. yep, think that covers it....ARGHHH!

please no replies, thank u...its just venting, and I have no doubt there be more...

[MrsRoryFromRunrig 13]

Well, not vented for a while but here comes a uber long one!!!!

 

Well, today is my birthday (last year of my 20's god help me). And my brother starts blabbing on about something that supposedly happened at his work last night (my brother has a tendancy to lie), and went on about work going to someone then being taken from them because someone else was suited better for the position, anyways, fast forward to my idiot brother MOCKING him and basically making fun that he never got the position, now I sopke up for the guy (who apparently can be a douchebag, but no reason to be mean tbh) and said to my brother that he was basically being a bully, to which he (my bro obv) was like "you fucking know nothing, you've never worked in a factory it's just banter", well sorry brother fuckwit (yes I know a lil contradiction there) but I do know what it's like to be mocked and bullied by others, it's been happening to me for the last 20 years, in school, college and work. And to be honest, how the hell does he not know that this 'banter' is tearing the guy up inside, he doesn't which is pissing me off and totally ruined my day. I was bleeding happy until he opened his mouth and thought it was funny to make a joke about someone 'sucking someone's d*** to get a position in work infront of me when whe knows I have gay friends who would think it is appalling to say that, but then again, out of me and my brother he is the one with a brain the size of a pea. I basically ended up coming back to my room started to cry cause he has totally ruined everything, like he does on every single birthday of mine.

 

Another thing is college, I try to work when I am there but can't cause of all the noise and distraction, I have ADD which doesn't help, and I have the class stoner mocking me for my love of Runrig (a Scottish band for those who as unsure), but no matter how hard the lecturers try and calm it, everything starts again. I really want to pass this course, but feel that the mega disruption of everyone being so loud and unbearable is going to stop me from completing my dream.

 

I have to words for this right now.......

 

FUCK SAKE!!!!

 

end of rant!.