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For the past couple of months I've been feeling really lonely which is causing my depressing to feel worse because the more im alone the more I think. Thinking always makes me feel down and remember all the bad things in my life.

The reason I feel so lonely is because I don't really have any friends or a boyfriend or really anyone to relate to. My sisters are ok but sometimes you just need someone new to talk to. :(

Anyone else feel like this ?

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I'm so sorry you're feeling so lonely - I can relate. I used to feel this way as an older teen/young adult a lot. Please feel free to talk to me, and I'm sure anyone else on this forum - many of us can totally understand your feelings. What sort of interests do you have? Maybe you might consider pursuing a club or something that will help you to meet others with similar interests. For instance, if you love to read, consider joining a book club. I know it's hard, because many of us with anxiety have social difficulties as well. Lots of hugs.

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Oh, such a familiar feeling!

I've been in this world where no matter who is in your life, family, loved ones, you just feel so alone.

I don't have any friends either. I don't share any aspects of my "personal" life with them when I find friends.

A lot of people just don't understand or don't care. Many people are selfish and don't care to listen, so I chose to

sit back and wait till it passes, if it passes.

I write, draw, read, photograph, garden or whatever I can in an attempt to keep myself busy.

Some days I just don't want to do anything. I can't actually do nothing, I have a 5 year old to care for, so I plug on

hoping that it passes.

I am on medication for Bi-Polar, thankfully they are helping. The exact disorder isn't known if it's a mood-disorder or Bi-polar.

Couple that with ADHD and it's frustrating in general.

I really hope that you can find comfort in talking to the friendly group on here. From what I have seen so far, they seem open and very kind. I believe this to be genuine and very helpful.

A genuine caring friend, even over the internet can save a life.

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Absolutely. Been here, struggled with that, sigh.

The only tip I can really offer is to try to meet new people then. Even just hanging out on a forum like this or using the chat section can help. For me personally, it doesn't matter what I talk about, but just that I have someone to talk to, ya know? So even if I don't make a long term friend while chatting online that particular time, I often end up getting distracted long enough that I feel a bit better by the end.

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I also often feel lonely. Sure I have my family to hang out with, but it kind of stinks to not have anything more than them to go do things with. At least with forums like AC and other online communities with people of similar interests I do not feel quite so lonely, but yeah sometimes it would be nice to have someone to just hang out with in person.

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Absolutely. Been here, struggled with that, sigh.

The only tip I can really offer is to try to meet new people then. Even just hanging out on a forum like this or using the chat section can help. For me personally, it doesn't matter what I talk about, but just that I have someone to talk to, ya know? So even if I don't make a long term friend while chatting online that particular time, I often end up getting distracted long enough that I feel a bit better by the end.

Yes I know exactly what you mean sometimes I feel lik I just want to talk about anything. When I do find someone to talk to like at college or something I notice that I will keep the conversation in the back of my mind thinking I don't want it to end.

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I'm so sorry you're feeling so lonely - I can relate. I used to feel this way as an older teen/young adult a lot. Please feel free to talk to me, and I'm sure anyone else on this forum - many of us can totally understand your feelings. What sort of interests do you have? Maybe you might consider pursuing a club or something that will help you to meet others with similar interests. For instance, if you love to read, consider joining a book club. I know it's hard, because many of us with anxiety have social difficulties as well. Lots of hugs.

I'm interested in film and stuff like that films really move me. There aren't really any clubs where you can talk/watch films it's more if a thing you do on your own.

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Thanks for all the comments guys :) just reading them makes me feel a little better. I've only been on AC for a couple of days and I've already found this site to be a wonderful place to talk to people. I really think that this is a site that I will be staying on to get to know you all.

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Sorry to hear you're feelin lonely, I get that way often myself. Feel free to pop into the chat room on here and have some fun and make new friends :) xo

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I also often feel lonely. Sure I have my family to hang out with, but it kind of stinks to not have anything more than them to go do things with. At least with forums like AC and other online communities with people of similar interests I do not feel quite so lonely, but yeah sometimes it would be nice to have someone to just hang out with in person.

I've been where you are, as a matter of fact, my boyfriend just broke up with me a few days ago making the loneliness even worse. I didn't see him anyway, he lived an hr and half drive but I don't see my children or grandchildren very often even though we live in the same town. But I have been in situations where you have everyone around you, yet you still feel alone, not a fun feeling. It's like no one can quite understand you or maybe you feel like an outsider to the rest of the family. I did at times, but then I realized some people don't have anyone literally. No one but themselves, everyone else is either gone, dead, or in jail. :) So try to keep that in mind and maybe it'll help you with it.

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I'm sorry you feel that way, although I can't really understand. I have a profound detachment from people including my family and so I just don't feel lonely. However, I would advise you to take up a hobby or exercise schedule since on the one hand it would distract you from your thoughts and on the other it would give you something to talk about with others which may well prompt a friendship or two.

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Studies suggest loneliness is increasing, more and more people suffer from loneliness. Society is more lonely than ever, more people are living alone, and even though we are more connected through technology, this results us being more disconnected on an emotional level because our interactions are superficial. My point is, you are not alone. The solution is to try and build new relationships, be open to people.

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I think everyone feels lonely at one point or the other. Use this as a way to go and meet some new people! There's a lot of possible friends out there in the world. :)

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I'm sorry you are feeling so lonely. I often find myself feeling lonely as well, so I usually go for a walk. I know it doesn't help with the lonely feeling but if I'm forced to concentrate on walking I can't let my mind wander as much.

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I understrand what you are going through. I feel very lonely and isolated. Even when I am with someone, I still feel lonely. I guess if we aren't around who we REALLY want to be around thats how it feels. It sometimes even gives me feelings of bitterness towards the people I am around.

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Everyone feels lonely at times, even when we are surrounded by people. Human beings are incredibly complex, we will feel lonely at times. When the feeling of loneliness is constant you have a serious problem which needs to be corrected. You have to ask yourself why you feel lonely and what you can do to overcome it.

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I also feel lonely alot...even tho I have my family and friends. Its probs alot my fault tho!! I use to be very social and have lots of friends and things to do but now I just dont feel like giving the effort.

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Yes, it is sad that even though we may speak to many more people online we are not really personal with them.No matter what we tell someone online the odds are we will never meet them. We could be superman or a bum using a public library to post. I am the same though I may have someone right next to me an dfeel lonely. It wasn't until I realized I was missing a part of me that I could fill in the loneliness. I wouldn't let myself be close to people for fear of judgement. I still have amssive issues with large social places. I feel so akward I start blabbering on about nothing in particular or stick my foot n my mouth saying stuff meaning something totally different than it sounds. Beyond that my depressions can be so black and unpeneratrable that it is amazing I didn't do something morbid. Life does go on though. i am here and in a somewhat stable frame of mind. I still have good days and bad. Now I actually have GREAT days. I reached a peace within myself and accepted myself for me. there will always be things I cannot change. There are several things I wish I was better at but I am me. Feel good about you. Find things you are great at and like to do. Depend on yourself, and try to stay postive.

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Try spending time outside.

Sometimes even walking outside in public can become a form of interaction with the world around you. Obviously, creating new relationships is going to take time, but it can be done.

You have to commit yourself to making the change. It is all about what is inside of your head.

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I'm older,have no one to really hang with,that gets me,,I'm stressed totally from pain physically and emotional loneliness pain,,I think to love yourself is a good start,,I just need a purpose and others to speak life into,thanks all

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I have been a patient of anxiety and depression for years. I WAS IN A SITUATION WHERE I WAS UNABLE TO RECOGNIZE myself! Being a kid who was always bullied in highschool and was neglected by parents it was tough for me to live a normal life. I was always that notorious kid and a depressed teenager. The depression took me over and I was diagnosed with clinical depression. I had no friends and family. I had sleepless nights. With my solitude. And isolation. The inferiority complex took me over. And guess what? Anti-depressants stopped working on me. There came a time when I lost all the hope. But then I decided to love myself. Started changing things in me. Took therapies and maintained my health. For depression I took medical marijuana and till today I am on marijuana. It has helped me alot throughout my recovery journey  https://mdberry.com/ways-marijuana-superior-opioids/ I made a thorough study on it and took it! Alongside I worked on myself and today I am much healthier and better!                    

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