lonewulf71

I haven't finished the book yet, but what I get from it is to accept your physical symptoms instead of fighting them. My big thing is my chest starts to get tight when I am feeling anxious. I also start to tense up. I try to just breathe through it and go on about what I am doing. As Kylie said, the biggest thing is not to add fuel to the fire. i.e. second fear. I am managing my anxiety better by not adding the second fear, so I don't have that shot of adrenaline running through my body. I have multiple physical health problems, and by stopping that jolt of adrenaline from second fear anxiety is taking less of a toll on my physical health. It's takes time, but if you practice it every day you will start to notice a difference. I hope that all made sense or helped a little bit.

Thanks so much for your reply Jon. I am really hoping that he will try to contact the lady from the grief support group again. She did make an impression on him. For so long I think he thought he could just shake things off until he finally reached a breaking point. I was able to talk with him a little more today when he stopped by for dinner on his way to work. He confided in me that he did cry off and on at work Sunday when he was alone. Every time I do get to see him, I try to let him know that I am here for him, and just having him open up to me today even a little bit helped. Even though I'm having a hard time , I let him know that I am doing what I can to take care of things at home. I was able to share a few of my anxieties and get his input on solutions to deal with them, and I think we both felt a little better when he went to work today.

I am trying to type here, and nothing is showing up. Not sure what is wrong. Today I have been separated from my husband for three months by his choice not mine. He is deeply depressed, and we are just in limbo because he will no longer try counseling. We went to marriage counseling, and he had an appointment with his own counselor but he refused to go anymore. I recently found out that I have Apserger's on top of anxiety and sometimes panic attacks. I am lost and sad and lonely. I really have no one to talk to but my mother as I have no close friends. Being in limbo and not knowing what will eventually happen is scary. I am also worried about my husband, but I barely see him. I am seeing a therapist, and I take Klonopin but that doesn't help or change my situation. I can't work and have applied for disability. My two dogs are the only thing keeping me going. It is very stressful trying stretch money when we are living separately. I just wish I had someone else to talk to sometimes. My husband is/was my best friend but I am not sure if that person exists anymore. I have realized that many of his issues don't have to do with me, but that doesn't make me feel better. He never dealt with the c****r deaths of both his parents. He went to a grief group once, but he wouldn't talk because he was so upset. The counselor running the group stopped him when he left and told him she would see him separately but this has yet to happen. He called one and she wasn't in, and I don't think he has called back. I'm sorry if this seems to be rambling.

Hi, I have suffered my anxiety off and on most of my life. I've been doing pretty good lately, however my Alaskan Malamute started having seizures last week. Needless to say this has ramped up my anxiety to the point of panic. My resources are limited in my area as far as counseling, and the nurse threw up her hands because I refused to take any more SSRIs. I have a limited supply of Klonopin, and no real support system besides my husband.