boyuancy

I have been looking around for inspirations of people who have gotten over depression, and naturally, one of the first places I looked for was the glam world. Here's what I found: http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2011/08/31/celebs-with-depression_n_942771.html#s344898&title=Angelina_Jolie_ Also, I think this tells a lot: You and me aren't the only ones going through this... if they can do it, so can we!

Aww... One of the two things went wrong: either you shouldn't have posted this, or I shouldn't have read this... But now that I have read this, I cannot not answer this, to the fullest detail possible: I'm 20 now, and I haven't known a single girl on a personal level, let alone going on a date, having a relationship, and stuff like that. I was an outcast through school and college was supposed to change things for me. But unfortunately, that didn't happen. Right before college started, depression hit me, and it stayed there. The first 2 or so months of my college were good - I made an effort to look good, socialize and stuff, and that was the time when I could have gotten myself a girlfriend. But then winter came along and SAD hit me. I was done for. I just finished my first year, and I haven't been able to even make an eye-contact with a single girl, let alone getting to know her. Even if I feel that a girl in interested in me, I look away. I want a girlfriend, but I cannot seem to gather the courage. I know for a reason that it is going to be that way for the next 3 years. For some reason, I have come to hate girls now, and I'm taking no interest in them. If it stays that way, then I won't be having a love life. So, that's pretty much it - not lucky enough to love...

Have you considered an intermediate way out? Stay away from your parents, but ask them for some financial support? If I were you, I would probably do that.

I'm sorry JungleJulia; I have been through this too. Just before joining college, I had set a goal for myself - that I'll go to college as a changed man. I am still amazed at the changes I had made to myself - I changed the way I looked, walked, talked... pretty much everything! And boy! Did it feel awesome living out of the shell!!! But its so sad that all that was short lived; I relapsed soon after. So, it happens to all of us. Try setting a goal for yourself regarding your anxiety and depression, don't be too hard on yourself - something that you can achieve easily. Work on it, and believe me, you'll get out of it one day. Good luck.

I'm sorry Tajnz, you have been through some tough stuff, but believe me, you aren't the only one. I haven't ever been uncomfortable with myself, up until now. Whenever I'm at college, I try not to be seen alone. I have an issue in my knee, so I walk in an awkward way. I cannot even stand still without falling over. I try always to be with my local group of friends. I'm 20 now. So, I try, desperately, to look boring - I look very loose and ugly looking clothes, old shoes, flat hair, and stuff like that. Not that I cannot look good, or that I cannot try, but I just do not want to.

I do. I often watch T.V. for a full two hours to completely distract my mind. If I try to shut it off and try to sleep, I can't. So what I do is, I turn on the timer, and watch something light-hearted: comedies, movies (unrelated), etc. The latest routine includes 1 hour of The Graham Norton's show, and half an hour of The Family Guy. It often helps me sleep. Not the best of practices, as I sleep at about 1:30 in the night, but it certainly gets me through.

I've realized that my triggers are anything associated with academics, college, school, studies, etc. So, I was in the exam the other day, and it was a tough one. I started going through the question paper, and suddenly, I started feeling very weak. I started sweating bullets, felt nauseated, felt like just tearing up the paper and running away from the exam hall.... Then, I started breathing deeply, and distracted myself. Things got a little better. But it happens in every exam, and I have to go through it for the next 3 years! Any immediate tips that you can suggest me? :sos:

I've stuttered all my life, and amazingly, I got over it a few months ago (I remember every part of the trial-and-error process that I put myself through). So, basically, you should take note of the following few things: Your energy level: I've always noticed that I stutter when I'm hyperactive. Try to calm yourself; relax, take a deep breath, etc. Don't try to stuff in a lot of words in a single sentence: The title pretty much says it all; try to break up a really long sentence into smaller, more manageable chunks and say it out. Try to mouth your words: I had read somewhere that you should try to move your mouth along as you speak. I hardly ever did that, and that'd make me stutter. Try to move your lips as much as you can, but be careful not to overdo it (you can end up getting conscious about it). Watch your tone, pitch: This probably follows from the first point; speak in a relaxed tone, in a lower pitch. I noticed one day that whenever I spoke in a lower tone, my voice sounded really sexy So, it wasn't a move to get rid of stuttering exactly, but if it makes you sound better and more confident, it most certainly helps. Good luck.

Probably half the world knows this about me (not my close friends, but the online ones do) that I do not have a female friend. All through school, I have been the nerdy/geeky ones, I had my friends and never took an interest in getting to know girls. I have spoken to a few girls while being in school, and never had any problem with it - never felt nervous, or anything of the sort. Now, cut to a few years later, I cannot talk to girls. I am at college, and I discussed here at another thread that my college mates are 2 years younger than me. I know I can talk to girls, but I'm just not interested in talking to younger girls. There are older girls too, but they are seniors, and they have the whole senior attitude that I don't want to mess with. So in a nutshell, am I giving myself a fake excuse that I can talk to girls, or can I really do that? P.S: I have tried talking to a few of friends' girlfriends, while being in a conversation, and I had no issues with it.

I'm sorry if this looks very abstract, and all over the place. I'm writing this at 2:30 a.m., and I'm feeling very miserable right now. It probably all started when I went through a series of failures; the goals I had set for myself were never achieved, and I started to look at myself as a complete loser. It was the first time when I started distancing myself from my friends, started being alone, and all of that. There isn't much to it, so lets just skip a few years and get to where I am in life right now. I am now in my first year of college, when I should have been in my third! Going through college everyday is becoming next to impossible, day by day. I had made a few friends right at the start, but then, winter came by and ruined everything for me. I distanced myself from a lot of them, and I am left with a very few. Now, I still have a few friends, but they don't know why I behave the way I do, and I cannot connect with them on a deeper level. I do not go to movies with them, I avoid a lot of their hangouts, and they hate me for doing it. Today, my first year ended, and I guess it is too late to make changes now. If I do, they might think I'm crazy. So, I've just let it be as it is. They say college life is one of most important phases in a person's life. But I'm just throwing it away, for no good reason at all. The situation is extremely crazy: I can make changes, but I do not want to. I think that I will start over when my college is over, and forget about it all. I want friends, but again, I don't want them to know about me. At least, not now. Isn't this just insane?

Hey there, I'm boyuancy. For quite sometime now, I have distanced myself from the world around me, and I am experiencing most of the symptoms associated with clinical depression. I haven't gone to a doctor as yet, but I do have plans for seeking help in the near future. Till that happens, I hope I can find some answers here, while letting out some of what I want to tell the people around me (that I can't, for obvious reasons). So, off I go.