taking.infinite.chances 0 Posted March 4, 2013 Hello everyone! I am a 15 year old girl who's extremely self conscious of her appearance, and has a very low self-esteem. I'm hoping to get some support here. Thanks! Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Gilly 1086 Posted March 4, 2013 Hey taking, welcome to AC Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
jonathan123 2368 Posted March 4, 2013 Hi. taking. Why do you feel low on self esteem? Perhaps you feel you are not as good as other people and that you need to try and compensate for this by making your appearance better. These days, when everyone is trying to' look good' it is sometimes forgotten that it is what goes on inside us that is important. You are a unique person. There is no one in the world like you and you have attributes and virtues that no one else has. How could they have. You are you. Don't knock yourself down mentally. Try and think of all the good things about yourself and not the negative things you feel are wrong. You are young enough to develop a strong character and to do that you have to feel good about yourself; as you ARE not as others would want you to be.If you want to talk some more we are here for you. Best wishes. J. 1 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
taking.infinite.chances 0 Posted March 4, 2013 Thank you Jonathan! I'm in high school and I'm very conscious of the other girls opinions of me. I'm a social climber(I know that's not a good thing) and I care a bit too much about how others think of me. I suppose I'm not as worried about my appearance, (I wear makeup and clothes that other girls wear) but i feel unstable and that I'm a people pleaser. Trying to please and be liked by everyone seems to be eating away at my self esteem and giving me a bit more of a fake personality which I project that isn't necessarily me, but it's what I interpret society to want of me. It doesn't seem to be working very well. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
JungleJulia 235 Posted March 5, 2013 Hey Taking, welcome to Anxiety Central Its good that you're aware of your self esteem issues, hopefully you will be able to work toward feeling better soon. It's natural to want to fit in with your peers, but if its become stressful for you then you know it's a problem. Good luck and hope you get some helpful advice here! Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
jonathan123 2368 Posted March 5, 2013 Hi. taking.Like all things social climbing is not necessarilly bad or good, it depends on the lenghths you go to to achieve any sort of status. One thing you will learn is that it is impossible to please all the people all the time. Whatever you do in life you will only get as much out as you put in. Try and sort out who your real friends are. Not the critical ones but those you feel comfortable with. The others, while being repectful to them, you can ignore. Anyone who knocks another's confidence (self esteem) is not worth knowing anyway. I would suggest you are a sensitive person and will get hurt if you do not protect yourself from the critical ones. No one is perfect and cannot expect to be. Life is not easy as you are finding out but you can make it less difficult by stopping trying to please everyone. Make up and clothes; fine. What's wrong with that? Feeling 'unstable' at your age is to be expected. Go along with it and do try not to worry overmuch about yourself. Evrything comes right in time if you do the right things. Only do what you intuitively feel is right for you. Lots of luck. J. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites