Stuttering

[antjezh 2]

I had a traumatic experience a few years ago. I blocked it out for a while but lately it has come back to haunt me. How can I make it go away for good and move on with life? I feel like I am stuck in limbo until it is taken care of. I have also always had social anxiety my whole life basically. I noticed I have started stuttering a few times during the day. I know my uncle had one of the worst things possible happen and he was the one who found his brother who committed s*****e and has stuttered ever since then. Any advice on my stuttering? I have always spoken well and inunciated and I am starting to mumble and stutter. Thank you.

[Gilly 1086]

Have you seen a therapist? Had any counselling for what happened? If you haven't that would be a good start.

[boyuancy 1]

I've stuttered all my life, and amazingly, I got over it a few months ago (I remember every part of the trial-and-error process that I put myself through). So, basically, you should take note of the following few things:

• Your energy level: I've always noticed that I stutter when I'm hyperactive. Try to calm yourself; relax, take a deep breath, etc.
  
• Don't try to stuff in a lot of words in a single sentence: The title pretty much says it all; try to break up a really long sentence into smaller, more manageable chunks and say it out.
  
• Try to mouth your words: I had read somewhere that you should try to move your mouth along as you speak. I hardly ever did that, and that'd make me stutter. Try to move your lips as much as you can, but be careful not to overdo it (you can end up getting conscious about it).
  
• Watch your tone, pitch: This probably follows from the first point; speak in a relaxed tone, in a lower pitch. I noticed one day that whenever I spoke in a lower tone, my voice sounded really sexy So, it wasn't a move to get rid of stuttering exactly, but if it makes you sound better and more confident, it most certainly helps.
  

Good luck.

[shaun 6]

You stutter because you feel self-conscious and anxious, when you feel like this your social interactions will be inhibited and you are not able to speak freely. My advice would be to forget about the stutter, don't focus on it or worry about it. It will naturally go when you build your confidence socially.

[josephconrad 1]

I speak from a lot of experience on this, because I used to be quite the stutterer. The most important thing is that stuttering is not an illness in itself- stuttering is a symptom of some underlying fear/anxiety/anger that is buried underneath. Once this underlying issue is resolved and those bad memories brought to "light" (consciousness) rather than being shoved down and buried undeneath ("suppressed") then the anxiety/fear/anger attached to those memories can be released, and the stuttering goes away immediately. That is exactly what happened with me. Once those deeper issues were resolved, I was shocked at how fluently I was speaking. The two cannot be separated.

So my advice would be to get to the root of the problem. Ask yourself, "What am I running away from?" A therapist might be a good choice, but if can't afford it and you're up for it, you can do what I did and use library books and internet resources to help get to the bottom of the unpleasant memories. Good luck!

[shaun 6]

You were not born with social anxieity, it is a learned behaviour and thus it can be unlearned. You are not destined to suffer from SA for the rest of your life, you have the power to overcome it, many people have done it.

I think the stuttering is due to being anxious and self-conscious, deal with that and you will not stutter.

[Esperahol 0]

Collect your thoughts, gather yourself, and speak slowly with precision. You must speak with deliberation and calm otherwise you will stutter.

[Ghost 0]

I've stuttered all my life, and amazingly, I got over it a few months ago (I remember every part of the trial-and-error process that I put myself through). So, basically, you should take note of the following few things:

• Your energy level: I've always noticed that I stutter when I'm hyperactive. Try to calm yourself; relax, take a deep breath, etc.
  
• Don't try to stuff in a lot of words in a single sentence: The title pretty much says it all; try to break up a really long sentence into smaller, more manageable chunks and say it out.
  
• Try to mouth your words: I had read somewhere that you should try to move your mouth along as you speak. I hardly ever did that, and that'd make me stutter. Try to move your lips as much as you can, but be careful not to overdo it (you can end up getting conscious about it).
  
• Watch your tone, pitch: This probably follows from the first point; speak in a relaxed tone, in a lower pitch. I noticed one day that whenever I spoke in a lower tone, my voice sounded really sexy So, it wasn't a move to get rid of stuttering exactly, but if it makes you sound better and more confident, it most certainly helps.
  

Good luck.

That is so me(even if my stuttering is only occasional, but it's enough to be a problem for me), but I haven't been lucky enough to get over it.

[jonathan123 2367]

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[Gilly 1086]

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