Finances stressing me out

[davide.h 26]

I don't make enough to live on and expenses are putting me thousands $$ in debt. Requests for a raise have been denied, SSDI was denied and all attempts to find a better paying job have been unsuccessful. My family has helped me out already this year. I don't want that to happen again. I'm so ashamed. I don't know what I can do! 

[MARC 390]

I would try to get a part time job to help you get out of the problem you are in. I too had to do the same thing when I was younger. 

[davide.h 26]

I'll see what I can do. I already work full time. 7 years of my life I've given to this company and they won't pay me enough to live on. Some nights I don't eat. 😭

[MARC 390]

I used to work for a CPA firm as a principal of the firm, but not a partner, and I was there for 20 years. I was forced out as they claimed I was making too much money which was a bunch of bunk. 

[davide.h 26]

3 hours ago, MARC said:

I used to work for a CPA firm as a principal of the firm, but not a partner, and I was there for 20 years. I was forced out as they claimed I was making too much money which was a bunch of bunk. 

What did you do then? Was that recently? 

[MARC 390]

That was a little over 19 years ago and I was forced to start my own small business, which has been very hard and which I would never do again. 

[MARC 390]

Many years ago, I knew someone who was an international jet pilot for the now defunct Pan Am airlines. He was married with a wife and 2 kids. He told me that one day he was flying on an international flight in Europe and he was thinking how great his life was with a loving wife, 2 wonderful kids and a great job. Pan Am went under and he lost his job and he could not get another job which paid so well. His wife left him and took the kids. He ended up living with one set of friends for a while, then he went to another set and so on. He never fully recovered and I never found out how he ended up. 

[MARC 390]

I had a boss who once told me the following saying which I have always remembered. He said, there will always be someone better off then you and someone worse off then you, so you just have to hope you are somewhere in between. 

[MARC 390]

The worst thing you can do is to compare your life to others. I don't do that either as it can be depressing. Try to keep a stiff upper lip and continue to move forward and think positively. That is how I try to operate, although it can be difficult at times. The key is to not to give up or quit as then you will lose.