AnneBoleyn 50 Posted October 19, 2021 I just have so much going on right now and I'm so tired of trying to put on a happy face for everyone. My mother has breast cancer and suffers from depression. My sister is also suffering from a severe bout of depression. My husband is so miserable at his job that all he does is complain to me about it and I feel like a punching bag. I think I may have found a lump in my breast but I'm not sure. Then my 13 year old son was a jerk to one of his good friends the other day and now I think the parents hate me. Sorry this is a jumbled mess but I needed to get that out. I wish I could change who I am Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Total Eclipse 91 Posted October 19, 2021 You have a lot going on Anne! I am so sorry you're dealing with so much stress. I know that you must feel powerless in this situation. For your mom, just try to be there for her. Try to encourage your mom and sister (also yourself) into therapy. This is just a lot to. handle. For anyone. And keep reaching out to us here. I don't think the boys mother hates you because your son was being a butthead. Boys do that sometimes. Is there a way you can explain to your husband that your under a lot of stress and encourage him to find a new job? I know this still feels a lot like it's being unfairly put on you. Hugs Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
AnneBoleyn 50 Posted October 19, 2021 Also I'm pretty sure what I'm feeling in my breast has been there but its setting me off because my mother has cancer Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Total Eclipse 91 Posted October 19, 2021 55 minutes ago, AnneBoleyn said: Also I'm pretty sure what I'm feeling in my breast has been there but its setting me off because my mother has cancer It probably has. Also understandable why you're nervous. Next time you see your PCP or OBGYN you can bring up your family history. It's good to have on file. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
AnneBoleyn 50 Posted October 19, 2021 I'm supposed to have it checked tomorrow but I'm terrified. I also have an appt at the end of Nov for my annual visit. I might just make it then. the appointment tomorrow was made out of panic Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Total Eclipse 91 Posted October 19, 2021 15 minutes ago, AnneBoleyn said: I'm supposed to have it checked tomorrow but I'm terrified. I also have an appt at the end of Nov for my annual visit. I might just make it then. the appointment tomorrow was made out of panic It will be good to tell the doctors about your anxiety, and stressors at this appointment. Even if that isn't what it's about. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Doug97 19 Posted October 19, 2021 Just go tomorrow, get it over with instead of having another 6 weeks of worry. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
MARC 428 Posted October 19, 2021 I have had many stressful events in my life. From the period September 2012 through August 2013, my mother, father and uncle all passed away. Our daughter when she was born had a birth defect and had to have multiple surgeries to help correct it. My friend got murdered a year after he was married and had a young child. His wife and son were never the same. I was in a head on collision at around 40-50 miles per hour in 1998 and I actually saw my life pass before my eyes before the impact. Luckily I was not injured badly. When I was 18, I was working at McDonalds and we were robbed and I was held up at gunpoint and the gun was held against my left temple and I was told if I moved, I was dead. Around 25 years ago my wife was working as a pharmacist when she was held up and handcuffed to two other girls in the backroom. She thought she was a goner. I have had a painful esophageal ulcer and basal cell carcinoma. I think I have said enough. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Bobnnat 496 Posted October 20, 2021 On 10/19/2021 at 4:53 PM, MARC said: I have had many stressful events in my life. From the period September 2012 through August 2013, my mother, father and uncle all passed away. Our daughter when she was born had a birth defect and had to have multiple surgeries to help correct it. My friend got murdered a year after he was married and had a young child. His wife and son were never the same. I was in a head on collision at around 40-50 miles per hour in 1998 and I actually saw my life pass before my eyes before the impact. Luckily I was not injured badly. When I was 18, I was working at McDonalds and we were robbed and I was held up at gunpoint and the gun was held against my left temple and I was told if I moved, I was dead. Around 25 years ago my wife was working as a pharmacist when she was held up and handcuffed to two other girls in the backroom. She thought she was a goner. I have had a painful esophageal ulcer and basal cell carcinoma. I think I have said enough. You really should move away from Baltimore. Seriously, not a joke. My kids lived there for a few years after my divorce from their mother. When visiting it was scary. Route 40..enough said. Finally my daughter grew up, went to college in NY and lives in South Jersey. My boys, in their 30s now both got into trouble there and still live in Baltimore. I’ve washed my hands from them at this point. I lived in Maryland near DC in the 70s and it was wonderful. Maryland went downhill since in a very bad way. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
