angeldust 31 Posted July 1, 2014 Hello, I will chat with you anytime. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
JOYCICLE 654 Posted July 1, 2014 Hi James, that is a bind but here's the good news. It's going to get better. This is a rough spot and not permanent. I hate phones sometimes too. When I'm highly anxious, making even a phone call to order pizza seems a nightmare. But when my anxiety is low , I can chat with my friends for a long time. Hang in there ! Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Gilly 1086 Posted July 1, 2014 Hi James, I'm sorry things have gotten rough for you, and things with your girlfriend didn't work out. Ok, I can relate as even though I have been seeing doctors my whole life I still hate going, still scared of them, and I don't handle phone calls too well either. This is what I would be thinking, if you don't get back on the meds and don't get the therapy, are you going to feel any better than you will making that phone call? Probably not. The therapist sounds like an ass, and thats not good, you need your therapist to 'get you' so I wouldn't think about that too much now, you need to find a new therapist who is more understanding and helpful, but you don't have to deal with that just yet. The meds first, either take your time and collect yourself to make a call to the doctor, of if its easier for you can you go into the office and do it? But make the first thing getting a refill, and get yourself back on them. Don't think about sorting out your therapy problem until you are feeling ready to. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
danielle53 2 Posted July 2, 2014 Hey! First of all, it sounds like you pretty clearly don't gel with your therapist. I've tried CBT and other talk therapy for months and years on-again/off-again. Because my family relocates a lot and for insurance reasons, I've also seen quite a variety of therapists and psychiatrists for therapy, counseling, or medication. Therapy is supposed to help with your anxiety, right, Not make it worse! I would stop seeing your CBT therapist immediately and either find another CBT therapist or choose another form of treatment. I know this has been a bad experience, but don't give up yet! I would do a Google search for therapists in your area that take your insurance. Read over their profiles and narrow it down to a few that you like, and then see if you can have a free phone consultation (or another kind of consultation if phone calls freak you out). I would definitely recommend some kind of consultation though before you commit all that time, energy, effort, and money into another treatment regime. I would explain to a new potential therapist exactly what's been going on and why you didn't like or didn't think your current CBT therapist isn't working out. That' way you can be more confident on this try. Best of luck! P.s. I also get really scared of phone calls. I'll avoid talking to even those I love to talk to on the phone if I'm feeling really anxious. It's also really hard for me to get up the nerve to listen to voicemails which, as a natural consequence of avoiding phone convos, I tend to rack up a lot of. Try emailing whenever you can do that instead. That's what I try to do Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Steve4AM 14 Posted July 3, 2014 yes, try a new therapist - not every one works well with every person. you can also check out if their web page lists a specialty in your areas of importance or not. i hate phones also, but just remember - the person on the other end is just there to do their job, and that's to help you! Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Gilly 1086 Posted July 4, 2014 It's ok james, no need to apologise, we get it! And good man, well done, you have done the right thing Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
