davide.h 26 Posted October 13, 2021 It's bad tonight. If I'm going to spend the rest of my life alone I'm not sure I want to live at all. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
MARC 431 Posted October 13, 2021 You are still young, so that may not be the case at all. There is a person I know who is 73 and he got married at 58. He met someone on line from Chile, who was living in Texas. He gets punched by his wife if he does not listen to her. He has come to Starbucks with a black eye, bruises, etc. She mentally abuses him too. He told me that he would rather take the abuse then be alone. To me he is a big sap, who is better off being alone. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
davide.h 26 Posted October 14, 2021 Why'd you tell me that? That's upsetting. 😞 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
MARC 431 Posted October 14, 2021 I am trying to tell you that in some situations it is better to be alone and being alone is not the end of the world. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
MARC 431 Posted October 14, 2021 You don't have any family or friends? Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
davide.h 26 Posted October 14, 2021 20 hours ago, MARC said: You don't have any family or friends? Not very many. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
MARC 431 Posted October 15, 2021 How about at your workplace? I would become involved with your place of worship. Volunteer at a non profit of your choice. Join a club. You need to make an effort to meet people. It may take time, but your effort should pay off in the long run. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Doug97 19 Posted October 15, 2021 15 hours ago, davide.h said: Not very many. But you do have some? I don't have many either, but you don't need a lot, even just one good relationship (with anyone, doesn't have to be romantic) makes a world of difference. Believe it or not, one of the best relationships I have is with my dog. He's such a good boy, and I love him so much. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
davide.h 26 Posted October 15, 2021 5 hours ago, Doug97 said: But you do have some? I don't have many either, but you don't need a lot, even just one good relationship (with anyone, doesn't have to be romantic) makes a world of difference. Believe it or not, one of the best relationships I have is with my dog. He's such a good boy, and I love him so much. Yes but I used to have more and they just seem to disappear over the years. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
MARC 431 Posted October 15, 2021 A friend of mine is a physician. He told me he used to be close to his family and had more friends. He said his friends seemed to disappear over the years too. He has 3 cats and tries to keep himself busy, but gets down too at times. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
davide.h 26 Posted October 16, 2021 Seems to be inevitable when you get old, but I hate it. 😥 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
MARC 431 Posted October 16, 2021 You need to make a concerted effort and you will feel better and get results. The key is to not give up. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Wonky 92 Posted October 16, 2021 On 10/12/2021 at 8:53 PM, davide.h said: It's bad tonight. If I'm going to spend the rest of my life alone I'm not sure I want to live at all. I hope your feeling better today *hugs* Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
davide.h 26 Posted October 18, 2021 On 10/16/2021 at 3:56 PM, Total Eclipse said: I hope your feeling better today *hugs* Not really. Life is hard without friends. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Wonky 92 Posted October 18, 2021 2 minutes ago, davide.h said: Not really. Life is hard without friends. I'm sorry it's been so hard. COVID and isolation has left a lot of people feeling this way. Do you have any pets or hobbies? Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
davide.h 26 Posted October 19, 2021 On 10/17/2021 at 8:39 PM, Total Eclipse said: I'm sorry it's been so hard. COVID and isolation has left a lot of people feeling this way. Do you have any pets or hobbies? No, not really. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Wonky 92 Posted October 19, 2021 1 minute ago, davide.h said: No, not really. There has to be something that you love(d) to do? Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
davide.h 26 Posted October 19, 2021 1 minute ago, Total Eclipse said: There has to be something that you love(d) to do? I really wish there was. Anhedonia, unable to find joy in anything, is a hallmark of depression. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Wonky 92 Posted October 19, 2021 1 minute ago, davide.h said: I really wish there was. Anhedonia, unable to find joy in anything, is a hallmark of depression. I know how that can get. But does anything at least feel soothing? Sometimes movies help me cope when I'm really bad? Or music. Sometimes a long bath or shower. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
davide.h 26 Posted October 19, 2021 30 minutes ago, Total Eclipse said: I know how that can get. But does anything at least feel soothing? Sometimes movies help me cope when I'm really bad? Or music. Sometimes a long bath or shower. I guess music, sometimes comedy, or just a change of scenery. My home is terribly lit. It's constantly dark. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
davide.h 26 Posted October 19, 2021 I can't stop crying. I just wish someone would reach out to me. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Wonky 92 Posted October 19, 2021 19 minutes ago, davide.h said: I guess music, sometimes comedy, or just a change of scenery. My home is terribly lit. It's constantly dark. Would going for a walk be helpful? What about some breathing meditation? Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
davide.h 26 Posted October 19, 2021 Maybe. Someone told me about a youtube channel called Slumberland but i've not looked into that yet. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Wonky 92 Posted October 19, 2021 1 hour ago, davide.h said: Maybe. Someone told me about a youtube channel called Slumberland but i've not looked into that yet. I do meditation before bed each night and fall asleep. Why don't you give it a try tonight? Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
