obsessing prior to going on vacation

[brian 0]

I wanted to to tell my story because the nightmare that i go through when something major involved me traveling   I am a corporate man in shape with a loving wife and two adorable children  I have suffered over 20 years with anxiety. I feel like a child when it comes to how i feel in the wake of my trip. I and going to disney with my family for a vacation and fore me its a living hell before and during the trip . I am not sure why but the craziest thoughts run throuh my head and feel like i have andrenaline firing through my veins I can seem to get a good thought throuh my mind  I feel helpless to the unknown I feel like a beaten man and i dont know what to do. I am scared like i have never been my mind wont stop thinking the worse.

 

I have been to Florida before and i end up fine but i dont know why i get so twisted before a trip  I work so hard during the year to travel and i end up being a nervous wrkeck  I thoughts of ending up in a mental instituition keep playing over and over  The simpliest though plays in my head over and over why do i punish myself  Why do i get so nerved up   Why does my mind not stop,  I am hoping somebody can help me understand this.

 

I really know the answer to my questions   Its myself thats who can help me but i am so scared i am reaching out to anybody that has similiar issues

[Gilly 1085]

Hey brian, welcome to AC. I suffer anticipatory anxiety before anything big and I think sometimes our minds run with it, it's totally normal to be anxious in someway about a trip, lots to prepare, lots of unknowns, even excitement can be misinterpreted with us. Once the anxious thought ball is rolling, it just won't stop until whatever set it off is over. it sounds like a holiday/vacation is a trigger for you, out of your 'comfort zone' You say you have suffered for 20 years, have you tried medication in that time? This is a perfect example of when it is fine to take a xanax, or ativan or some other type of sedative. Just to get you through the rough patches and settle the anxious thinking. Even just having something with you that you can take could be enough to help. Something to consider. 

 

I know one thing, you won't end up in a mental institution, that thought is part of the anxious thinking, we all think that at times, trust me. You aren't alone feeling this way, I couldn't contemplate what you are going to do!! AND I'm doing much better than I was. I'm in the UK, and planning a trip to Texas in a couple of years, OH BOY! I know you hear me  

[brian 0]

thanks fpor the the response ..   i am a fighter but one of the things i fear the worse is getting a thouht stuck in my head and in have no whee to run.  i feel so defeated and i am not able to focus on anything . i still have a week to go befor the trip and i am going crazy  what would you recommend to end the hamster cycle of what if"s

[jonathan123 2363]

Hi brian. There is one fact in anxiety anticipation and that is that the anticipation is always worse than the event. We stew up, don't we. All sorts of thoughts go through our minds and being 'taken away somewhere (we never seem to be quite sure where) is a very common symptom. I was convinced when I had GAD that I would finish up in a hospital. There were no websites like this then so I had no advice available. I found some but that is another story. First of all, as Gilly says, you WILL NOT finish up in an institution. Your post is perfectly legible and could only have been written by someone in full control of what they write. So forget that one! Short term medication is helpful and your GP can probably suggest something but the most important thing is not to despair. That takes you down further. You say you are a fighter. That is the one thing I honestly suggest you stop doing. I know, it is the natural response to your feelings but it creates more anxiety and fear. You sound a sensible person so what does the word 'fight' mean. "To enter into combat with" is the dictionary explanation. That takes a lot of energy so give up the struggle. What to do? I want you to go along with the feelings there. ACCEPT them as part of the recovery process; you are learning so much about yourself but the lessons are lost because you allow the feelings to get in the way. "Nowhere to run". Then don't run anywhere. STOP. Take deep breaths when you feel anxious. Don't fight and struggle with the thoughts. The battle is tiring and depressing. I am not suggesting 'putting up with', no. ACCEPT the thoughts as part  the state you are in at the moment. You are right. Adrenaline is flowing through your veins. But it is the result of the fear you are feeling. You are caught up in the fear-adrenaline-fear cycle and that needs breaking. Can you talk to anyone? Does your wife understand? A relative or friend. You say you have been to Florida before and ended up fine. You will on this occasion too if you stop struggling with the symptoms. "'There is nothing to fear but fear itself". I know, that is a much overworked expression but it is so true. You WILL be fine. Send us a post card!!!!!    Good luck.     Jon.

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