Dear friend - I know the hole you are in right now. I've been there too. In many ways I am still in my own hole. I can promise you one thing: you do know others with anxiety. They are probably just hiding it because they have the same feelings you do. It's like a stigma we carry around unnecessarily. Take this advice how you will. I've suffered panic attacks for 10 years now, always triggered by performance now. I hated the idea of medicine at first but I'm so glad I had it when I needed it. I have been on it a few times in the last 10 years and it has gotten me through some hard times. Then I get off and things are fine for a while until they are not. Just don't feel bad of you need it. We carry enough guilt around as it is.