Alicia1988 0 Posted July 18, 2012 I have been with my boyfriend for 13 months and all I've done throughout the relationship is worry and make problems up. I don't believe anything he says to me and i always find a reason for whatever he has said for that to not make sense or for it not to be true. I feel like people are laughing at me whilst he's cheating on me behind my back, I am so insecure and so worried that horrible things are going to happen to me. I can twist a situation that is so simple into meaning that he's lying. It can be about the most stupid thing. I drive myself insane and I'm behaving oddly, I am beginning to feel mentally drained and quite poorly. I just don't know what is wrong with me and why I over analyse everything that is said to me by my partner. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Gilly 1086 Posted July 18, 2012 Hi Alicia, welcome to the forum. the thing with anxiety is we over analyse way too much, sounds like there is some paranoia involved too, unless you have reason to not trust your partner? Is there anything else going on that may have your stress levels high? Anxiety can make you paranoid, it can make you think things that aren't really happening or going to happen. Intrusive thoughts, thinking worst case scenario etc are common symptoms of an overly anxious mind. I would advise seeing a doctor, get yourself checked out. Don't suffer, they can help. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
shaun 6 Posted July 20, 2012 You accept you have a problem and that your mistrust is irrational. The next step is to try to change your behaviour by challenging your irrational thoughts. You can't go on in a relationship with no trust, you need to decide to trust him or consider ending the relationship and working on your issues. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Twiztidcree 1 Posted August 30, 2012 U got kids? Nothing to fret over then U assume he cheats? Leave him 13 months!? Try 11 years! Sorry I'm blunt N if all u do is worry n stress Shut up or get stepping. Been with my wife 11 years, finally expressed I love you, 2 years ago. Love is not *************** Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
ProLogiC 2 Posted August 31, 2012 That was a little harsh Twiz, and a little explicit, above all we need to respect each other, especially on these forums, everyone here has issues and that is why we come here to express those issues and to try and find someone who can help them deal with it. I see what you are trying to say but your wording could have been a little more thought-out were not here to compare our issues, it's not a competition. To the OP (Original Poster) In these situations with what you are experiencing, it's probably best not to dwell on them too much, although that is easier said then done, I know. Maybe taking the backseat for awhile could be a good idea, meaning: Instead of worrying about if he is cheating on you or not, instead, give him the benefit of the doubt until you atleast have proof I often over-analyse things and all it does is make trouble, the best thing about your post is that you admit the problem, half the battle is knowing why you are fighting so that is a good start. and ofcourse, welcome to the forum Sorry if I flamed you a little here Twiz, I just felt that the manner of your post could have been toned down, No offence was intended on my part. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Twiztidcree 1 Posted September 1, 2012 That was a little harsh Twiz, and a little explicit, above all we need to respect each other, especially on these forums, everyone here has issues and that is why we come here to express those issues and to try and find someone who can help them deal with it. I see what you are trying to say but your wording could have been a little more thought-out were not here to compare our issues, it's not a competition. To the OP (Original Poster) In these situations with what you are experiencing, it's probably best not to dwell on them too much, although that is easier said then done, I know. Maybe taking the backseat for awhile could be a good idea, meaning: Instead of worrying about if he is cheating on you or not, instead, give him the benefit of the doubt until you atleast have proof I often over-analyse things and all it does is make trouble, the best thing about your post is that you admit the problem, half the battle is knowing why you are fighting so that is a good start. and ofcourse, welcome to the forum Sorry if I flamed you a little here Twiz, I just felt that the manner of your post could have been toned down, No offence was intended on my part. No worries. Kinda in the same situation but I got kids. Reality is a mean on and it's more twizitid when your anxiety filled Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
