Steve4AM 14 Posted October 17, 2014 The worst kind of OCD might be Relationship OCD. These are the doubts that drive people apart. How do you know for sure if the person you're dating is the right one? and so many other little things. My psychologist told me i would never find the right person. Terrible! What did she mean? I assume that I could change that if I learn to accept the imperfections in my partner, and the reverse. What about you? Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
jonathan123 2368 Posted October 18, 2014 Hi Steve. I can't believe she said that! How would she know, and what a ridiculous assumption to make. No one is perfect and to try to find the perfect partner is a waste of time. We have to accept each other as we are, imperfections and all. This problem is the cause of so many failed marriages and partnerships. Living with someone is not the same as courting them. Your 'perfect' partner may have habits you disapprove of but which were not apparent before. To look constantly for perfection in this world can cause anxiety because you can look for ever and never find it; so becoming frustrated and angry. But often imperfection in a partner can cement the relationship if we are prepared to be generous and accept that we too have faults. Ask your psychologist what she means by the remark she made. Jon. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Steve4AM 14 Posted March 11, 2015 i have another psychologist now, who understands things better. i'm single again, and dating - my last short lived relationship was ended by OCD as much as anything else - she loved the outdoors, and pets kept jumping on the bed. it's not easy to find someone to date, but always there's the fear in the back of my mind - what happens when she finds out am an OCD freak by regular standards? Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
