Claire Weekes method

[anxietygonow 0]

Does anybody else not understand what the hell their doing wrong?

 

I get these attacks from time to time, where I'll feel weak, my heart race increases, I get hot flushes and a little panic.

 

When it happens I think to myself let it happen, accept it, surrender to it, let it do whatever it wants to do, let it have me, allow it, but no matter what happens I get more tense, my heart pumps faster, I feel worse and weaker and more terrible. 

 

I've read Claire weekes book like 15 times, listened to all the audios numerous times and still don't get it. No matter what I do or what I think, the symptoms, these attacks just keep coming and hammering me, seem to never go away no matter what I do. I've read at last a life, anxious truth etc and still don't understand, still terribly sensitised.

 

I don't get what I'm doing wrong.

 

Even if I lie down and let it come let it all happen, completely surrender and resign myself to them, I somehow get more tense and apprehensive and frustrated and my symptoms get worse during the attack 

 

Any advice?

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3 hours ago, anxietygonow said:

Does anybody else not understand what the hell their doing wrong?

 

I get these attacks from time to time, where I'll feel weak, my heart race increases, I get hot flushes and a little panic.

 

When it happens I think to myself let it happen, accept it, surrender to it, let it do whatever it wants to do, let it have me, allow it, but no matter what happens I get more tense, my heart pumps faster, I feel worse and weaker and more terrible. 

 

I've read Claire weekes book like 15 times, listened to all the audios numerous times and still don't get it. No matter what I do or what I think, the symptoms, these attacks just keep coming and hammering me, seem to never go away no matter what I do. I've read at last a life, anxious truth etc and still don't understand, still terribly sensitised.

 

I don't get what I'm doing wrong.

 

Even if I lie down and let it come let it all happen, completely surrender and resign myself to them, I somehow get more tense and apprehensive and frustrated and my symptoms get worse during the attack 

 

Any advice?

Well, we do have to "go with the flow", but we also kind of have to address what is causing the panic itself.  For instance, it's actually a panic attack that wakes us up from deep sleep, so there is that kind of activity that is normal.  We kind of have to have that one lol.  

Then, there are the panic attack situations that we have to look at to find out if we are reacting correctly or not.  They are our reactions.  The goal is to change the way we think so we can change the way we react.   -  How we think determines how we feel.

Anticipatory anxiety is always worse than the actual event itself.  We come up with the most crazy stories thinking they are going to happen.....and then they don't - what a letdown, right?!  Well, we were the ones who put all of the thoughts into something that ended up not happening.

Panic attacks?  Same thing - what if thinking.  What if I leave my house and forgot to turn off the iron or the coffee maker?!  What if I locked my keys in my car?  What if I get rejected? (A big one for me).  What if I burn my kid's birthday cake in the oven and ruin his five-year-old party?  (Wishful thinking, I'm single with no kids)  What if my dog runs away with the poodle next door?   There is a lot of catastrophizing on things that don't have a likelihood of actually happening, but we put our all into worrying about it, right?

We get the panic attack - but we need to find out how much of that we can take on, what we can change about the situation.  If we can change something, turn the panic into confidence and change it.  The rest, we release - but with self-reassurannce.   Yes, I can let this go, but the panic is there and I can't do anything about it and it doesn't make me any less of a person.

This all takes practice and time - changing the way we think changes the way we feel.