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Hi everyone,

 

Apologies for not posting in a while...

My Aunt died and we had my Uncle stay with us for a couple weeks until after the funeral.

Then a friend gave me grief, and so much has happened.

Home is kind of getting better-ish for now...

 

But my boyfriend has been there for me throughout and he's been amazing!

And yesterday afternoon, he set up a really romantic proposal at my house and of course, I accepted! So now, he's my fiance!   :)

Also, a few hours after that, because I'd been feeling so crappy lately (and I thought it was down to stress!), he bought me a pregnancy test which we took together, and I'm pregnant! :)

We were both shocked but really pleased, and he's been great and so caring already. That has to be the best day of my life so far.

I've had a friend give me grief about it all already, though, and vocally state her opinion that we are 'moving too fast' and telling me to call off the engagement and wait, or abort our baby, but the truth is, I don't want to.

Neither does my fiance; I know it's early, but we feel ready. (And to be honest, she doesn't have much luck with men, so my O.H thinks she's jealous. I don't know? She's acting spiteful anyway.)

Shockingly, my parents have been really good about it!?

 

Anyhow...That's why I haven't been around, and it's kind of given me a little more hope; I have something to live for now.

 

Of course, my illnesses will never be gone, and I'm still battling. 

I'm hoping that Social Services don't take our baby away; I'd never dream of hurting it or letting it suffer like I've had to, and my O.H is the same! He loves kids!

I just don't trust people not to call them on me...

 

Anyway, I've rambled enough. Sorry...I just wanted to share my news with you. Sorry if this was the wrong area? It's not a success story, but it's given me hope and some inspiration to carry on, that's for sure! :)

Thank you also to those of you who talked to me a couple weeks ago through my really dark time; I felt so low then. It really meant a lot to me xxx

 

 

- Kala xx

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Woohoo! 

Great news , especially since you're so happy about it. Shame on your friend ! 

Why would social services take your baby ? Is that just an extra anxiety " what if ' ? 

You've been given some new things to look forward to in this world. 

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Congratulations Kala! :) Don't pay attention to who is giving you grief, like you say probably jealous, trust your heart. I'm really happy for you, see good things can happen! Embrace it and let it help you heal :)

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Why would someone call social services? That's just spiteful, just because you have this illness doesn't mean you wouldn't be a great mum, you haven't done anything wrong there is no reason for them to be involved. Don't worry yourself about that.

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Thank you so much! :) :) 

Yeah, she did say something...I know her Dad used to work for social services, and she said "Ka, you've been s*****al and self-harming. I think social really need to know so they can keep an eye on you. What would happen if you got all depressed and wanted to k**l yourself again? For your child's own good, they need to know." 

I don't know what she was getting at; whether she would call them or not? But my fiance went crazy at her and told her to mind her own business and let us live our lives and as my friend, she shouldn't be talking to me the way she does, and I agree! I never do it to her!

Luckily, I have iOS 7 on my phone now, so I can block numbers (thank you Apple; at long last!!) And I blocked her, but she still has my home number and calls up, making my parents pass me the phone, just so she can yell at me for blocking her.

She kept going on about how new my relationship is and how 'young' I am (I'm 21...not 12) but the truth is I am in love with my man and he's the same; I can tell by the way he treats me like I'm made of gold or something! :)

 

I agree, it's spiteful and I'm terrified she will tip off her Dad...Some 'friend' huh?

I barely have any these days but that's okay with me to be honest. LOL

Sorry...Rambling again!

 

Thank you for the support :)

xx

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She needs to keep her nose out of your business! It sounds like shes talking complete crap to be honest, it doesn't work like that. If she ever said anything to her Dad he would probably tell her so. Suffering depression and self harm in the past has no reflection on your ability to be a mother in the future, none at all. Plus you are not going to be a single parent either, and you have the support of your parents. 

 

And yes the block option on iOS 7 is brilliant, I've already used it too, the AA kept calling trying to sell me breakdown cover, BLOCK! lol

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She does; I've had enough drama and negativity to last me a lifetime...Literally! If she was my 'friend', she'd leave me to it, or be supportive, not tell me to call off my engagement to the man I love or abort our baby!

I'm probably only a couple weeks pregnant, but I love it already; we both do. (He can't keep his hand off my stomach even though it's obviously still flat as a board lol! Bless him.)

I don't know about her Dad...If that's his job, he might listen, especially as it's his daughter?

I have no idea...But no, I've no intention of letting our baby come to any harm or suffering. I don't want it having the life I've had - I wouldn't wish that on anybody! So if Social are called, I will be so mad!

 

Oh God, really?

How on earth did they get your number?! :s Insane...a company pretending to be T-mobile keep calling me, so I blocked them too. It's a wonderful feature, isn't it? ^__^ LOL

xx

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My husband used to have breakdown cover with them, and I'm using his old number now I think that is where they have it from.

 

Honestly don't worry about social services, just look after yourself and look forward to the future, they always try and keep the children with their mother even when things aren't ok, you haven't even had the baby yet, she has got nothing to report. Stay away from her and look after that growing bump :)

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Oh I see...What a pain! Thank God for the blocking feature! 

 

Thank you, I'll try not to. 

These are the first couple good things to happen to me in a long, long time. I don't want anyone to ruin it for me...

I'll stay well away from her; I didn't do anything to provoke her...She found out from someone else, and called me to give me an ultimatum.

But she's not going to win.

 

Thank you :)

x

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An update to this post: Said girl bombarded me and my fiance with calls all morning because we blocked her number.

She then turned up at my door, whilst fiance and I were cuddled up in bed for a lazy Saturday, and proceeded to tell us that we are 'childish and pathetic' for ignoring her, and saying she's 'entitled to her opinion and can say what she wants and she's not going to apologize because she's right.' And  I'm apparently 'too mental for a baby' too and she then went on to tell C why she hates him so much, even though this is literally the first time they've ever met or spoken!? He told her we're not interested in her games or childish behavior and asked her to leave, but she continued to insult us.

I eventually told her I want her out of my house and to stop contacting us; she's not going to get her way and she's no friend of mine.

She then went to slap me but C got in the way, before physically escorting her out.

I'm shaking...I can't understand why someone who calls themself my friend would go to such extremes?

She continued to yell at my closed front door for a few seconds before storming up the road, doing something on her phone.

I'm terrified that she has in fact called Social Services now, even though I am still only early on in the pregnancy.

We didn't attack her or provoke her in any way; she came to us.

I don't know what to do...She's completely ruined what was meant to be a happy time for us :'( 

 

Does anyone have any advice please?

x

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OMG she's not right..........shea this is me Gill, sorry I'm just testing somethings on the forum with my test account. Call the police and report this, its OK! She came to your house. I have been in a situation like this with a previous landlord who came around drunk, call the police now, tell them she is harassing you, came to your house, attempted to assault you. Get your side of the story across to the police, she sounds unstable, get it on record. 

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Hi, thanks for your reply.

I'm a little apprehensive to call the police; they are incredibly useless round here, and I'm worried they will just brush it off with a warning, and it's not like we have any evidence other than the calls and a voicemail she left saying she's coming over, but we thought it was an empty threat... :(

I'm thankful to C for jumping to my defense in protective fiance/daddy mode, but I'm worried about him too; he's quite sensitive himself and not really a fighter. This has affected him too...

 

Thanks again 

x

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A warning might be what is needed, she is harassing you and she needs to be told to stop. I'm just thinking of you and your baby shea, you do not need the stress! 

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Yeah...You're right.

We called them, and because I'm pregnant they're taking it a lot more seriously than they would if I wasn't.

We now have her brother whom we have never met or spoken to either, harassing us and calling us rude names, saying he'll hunt us down and beat the he** out of us for "bullying" her, and that we need to go k**l ourselves and the baby and jump off a bridge!!. She is so twisted to feed him such absolute tosh! Oh well...

We haven't responded to anything they've sent; kept all the evidence though.

Police officer should be here within the next few minutes...

 

Thank you so much for your help

xx

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Why do people have to be so hateful? Disgusting, I'm glad the police are taking it seriously, stay strong!

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Thank you :) 

I don't know what her problem is? I've done nothing but be a friend to her until she started this...Ended up getting so stressed and worked up that I got pains and needed an emergency ultrasound at hospital to check everything was okay. :/ Panic attack galore!!

Everything is okay though; I'm 5 weeks and it seems to be healthy (how they can tell at that size, I don't know?) :) Daddy cried LOL xD

Been told to take it easy and stay relaxed and eliminate anything that causes stress.

Police have been to see her; they left a message while we were gone and she's been told to stop contacting us etc. and for the threats, they apparently were very strong about that. 

 

Thank you for your kind words :)

xx

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