RebeccaB

Thank you for taking the time to reply - it helps to know that there are people who don't judge my silly brain!!

Thank you for your thoughtful reply. It's so hard not to worry when it's your child but I agree that Google is not my friend! I do know that I worry as a way to "fix" things.. like if I worry enough I can prevent bad things from happening. Your point about stopping the worry cycle by accepting the anxiety is well taken. Thank you again!

My daughters is like an ache. A lot of times in her shin. I had growing pains when I was a kid but remember them in both legs so maybe that's why it freaks me out... 🙂

Thank you Bob. Your response and experience does help. All I know is my own children so to hear similarities of other kids does help (at least I read it that your daughter has one-legged pain). Even you taking the time to respond makes a difference. Thank you for your suggestions as well. I will read up further on CBT.

Hi. I'm at my wits end and need some help or advice or support. I have a very strong attachment to my eldest daughter (A) and constantly fear that she has a fatal disease (namely the big C). Every headache is a brain tumour, every change in appetite is leading to weight loss, if she naps, it's fatigue, if I think she looks pale, well she MUST have leukaemia, etc. Lately her one leg has been aching at night to where I need to give her Advil. It's always the same leg - not both. My spouse says it's growing pains and that having a sore leg once or twice a week is not immediately pointing to cancer but of course I Googled it and all results came back to take her to the dr because "I thought my child had growing pains- it was cancer" and "a brace boys battle with cancer after what parents thought as growing pains". So I automatically panic and feel the urgency to have her assessed right that second. I feel like it's inevitable that she'll get very sick with something like cancer and it will be my fault for not helping her sooner. She'll feel pain and fear and will die and it'll be my fault I failed her. I lose sleep over it, get nauseous and shake with fear. My husband is not sure how to help me anymore. I e tired medicine, relaxation techniques and councillors- even a round of ECT. But am still fearful that my feeling is a premonition and cancer is headed our way because she is too special for this life. She is very athletic and active so I can see both legs aching at night- it's the fact that it is only one that really gets me. But over the summer I was fixated this heavily on how pale I thought she looked and asked to her dr for bloodwork, etc . She is an average weight and I admit that she is growing taller ... I just don't feel like I could get away that easy as it being "normal" growing pains. She is eight and a happy girl- smart and funny. I have a younger daughter who is 5 (H) who is equally smart and beautiful and loved - but if she says her leg hirts, I say Oh okay- must be growing or slept crooked, etc. I don't know why I'm so fixated in my older daughter and specifically cancer. its making me nutty and frankly, angry and resentful that I worry so much - her saying her leg is sore makes me angry in a way because it means my night is shot on anxiety now. I want to be better for her and my whole family and don't want to pass this fear on to her . sorry for the long post- any thoughts would help!

Hi, it sucks that you are feeling like this. I've had headaches all my life and it sounds like a sinus thing to me. Sinus headaches can be very painful and can affect your eyes and make you feel dizzy and nauseous and all around terrible. If they go away with rest and medication, I would think it's a sinus thing. Have you tried saline sprays, etc? my father died of brain cancer- not a headache to be had. He lost vision, forgot words and content of what he had just read, forgot how to get home one day and lost depth perception. He was also a white male in his early 50's- prime criteria. I agree that unless you see a rapid change in your cognitive ability, you likely have a crappy headache! Take care of yourself! :)

Hi. I'm at my wits end and need some help or advice or support. I have a very strong attachment to my eldest daughter (A) and constantly fear that she has a fatal disease (namely the big C). Every headache is a brain tumour, every change in appetite is leading to weight loss, if she naps, it's fatigue, if I think she looks pale, well she MUST have leukaemia, etc. Lately her one leg has been aching at night to where I need to give her Advil. It's always the same leg - not both. My spouse says it's growing pains and that having a sore leg once or twice a week is not immediately pointing to cancer but of course I Googled it and all results came back to take her to the dr because "I thought my child had growing pains- it was cancer" and "a brace boys battle with cancer after what parents thought as growing pains". So I automatically panic and feel the urgency to have her assessed right that second. I feel like it's inevitable that she'll get very sick with something like cancer and it will be my fault for not helping her sooner. She'll feel pain and fear and will die and it'll be my fault I failed her. I lose sleep over it, get nauseous and shake with fear. My husband is not sure how to help me anymore. I e tired medicine, relaxation techniques and councillors- even a round of ECT. But am still fearful that my feeling is a premonition and cancer is headed our way because she is too special for this life. She is very athletic and active so I can see both legs aching at night- it's the fact that it is only one that really gets me. But over the summer I was fixated this heavily on how pale I thought she looked and asked to her dr for bloodwork, etc . She is an average weight and I admit that she is growing taller ... I just don't feel like I could get away that easy as it being "normal" growing pains. She is eight and a happy girl- smart and funny. I have a younger daughter who is 5 (H) who is equally smart and beautiful and loved - but if she says her leg hirts, I say Oh okay- must be growing or slept crooked, etc. I don't know why I'm so fixated in my older daughter and specifically cancer. its making me bitty and frankly, angry and resentful that I worry so much - her saying her leg is sore makes me angry in a way because it means my night is shot on anxiety now. I want to be better for her and my whole family and don't want to pass this fear on to her . sorry for the long post- any thoughts would help!