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  1. Frank, a lot of what you said I can relate to. Mainly the point of "always feel I am being judged and not good enough". Also the fear of making or having friends and the constant comparison of myself to others and never really being able to look at and appreciate my own life situation, and I also constantly worry about my financial, living, and relationship status'. It took a long time for my anxiety problem to surface (23 years) but in just this last year I have been able to make some changes and do therapies that really have helped (I can tell you about them if you're interested). One thing I always try to remember in my day to day life is that anxiety stems from a chronic physiological response to stress. The body changes in reaction to stress. Heartbeat increases, blood pressure increases, elimination and frequency slow down, and the body conserves energy so as to protect us from a potentially harmful event. And so, anxiety is a chronic issue where the body and mind are reacting as if they are in a state of stress--and this leads to problems because the body creates a stress response to rather mild/normal/harmless stimuli. So, knowing this, I am often able to recognize the feelings of chronic stress = anxiety. When I am able to recognize that my body is responding in an inappropriate way, it makes it easier to calm it down. It takes some self-convincing. You have to tell yourself that your response in that moment is not appropriate, that is the first step. Some examples of inappropriate responses to normal/harmless stimuli are racing heart, shortness of breath, excessive worrying, and feeling inadequate. Once you are able to recognize these responses you can make the decision to change them. Start to think about your breathing...slow it down. Think about your feelings of inadequacy and tell yourself that you are just worrying excessively because of your body's inappropriate response. The more you take the time to do this in your times of stress, you will get better and better at it and develop a new pattern. The body will adjust to the changes you are trying to make and soon it will become your normal pattern. No one wants to be told that they need to do "mental workouts" (which is what I call it because that is what it is). It is not easy. But, it can change and that is an encouraging thought. Dee
  2. Great discussions. Mindfulness and any other treatment or therapy for anxiety really does take practice. You most likely will not be great at it the first time, but the more you try the more you will develop the skills. Also, guided meditation really helps me a lot with a busy mind. With GM you will be able to hear the words spoken to give your mind directions to follow so it has something to latch onto. Practice and it will come, don't give up. Dee
  3. I am brand new to this whole chatting thing. I just had a conversation with my counselor recently and she recommended I reach out and try something like this. I deal with generalized anxiety and over-eating habits. I am a full time student and sometimes feel like I will never amount to anything and constantly compare myself to others. I wanted to write this tonight because I just binge ate four pieces of bread with butter with no thought about it. A little much! Sometimes I eat mindlessly and I am not sure why. I think these eating habits play a part in my anxiety problem because it makes me feel bad about myself and doubt my self worth. Feeling bad right now and just looking for the light. Thanks