Stress anxiety!!!!

[anthonycain 15]

I am now fully convinced that my anxiety is completely related to stress... The stress about my financial state of being... The stress of bills and life responsibilities, and the stress of my health itself...I'm tired of being stressed and the ailments stress has caused. I don't know what to do... I'm drowning in debt... I'm not making enough money and my anxiety is the result of all the above... Now I don't know how I'm supposed to get better if my stress level isn't getting any better... Life is difficult right now, so if I need to bring down my stress level to heal myself of anxiety, that's a long shot from where I am currently. I just need some help. I want my children to get the best of me. I may need to relocate. But that cost as well... I think I'm trapped. Dying slow from wrecked nerves and a broken spirit.

[jonathan123 2368]

Hi Anthony. You are despairing and of all the emotions that can make anxiety worse it's that. It lowers your energy, and when you give up you create so much negative energy. BUT, you have not given up have you?

 I just need some help

That's it! The fact that you are reaching out for help is the first step to recovery. You must believe that help is possible or you would not seek it. Right? Now you may feel you have given up, and as I say, that's not good, but I do suggest you give in! Now this is a bit difficult to explain. Giving in is NOT giving up. They are poles apart. Giving in means letting go. Dropping all the fears and worries and letting your reasoning Higher Self take over. In other words stop fighting 'IT' and not try and control 'IT'. Our natural instinct is to control, fight and struggle with 'IT'. No, don't do it. At the same time we have to realise that being in a state of despair will hinder our progress.

Oh yes, your reasoning Higher Self is still there, buried beneath all the problems and fears that have accumulated. You now know your problems are anxiety related which means you are beginning to understand. Anthony, everything passes and often when at our lowest we turn a corner and see daylight ahead. TRY not to despair. it's not easy and I know only too well, but it can be done. Take heart, all will be well.

 

[Bobnnat 496]

Hi, Anthony

Once you "give in" as Jonathan correctly suggests, and your mind calms a bit, your brain can stop despairing and start acting. You need to, calmly, assess your situation. You're not the first person to have money issues and there are solutions. By continuing to freak out, you won't be able to see the answers but they're there.  For example, sit with a qualified debt consolidation consultant. While it sounds scary, determine, again calmly, if bankruptcy is the answer. If so, there are far worse things. Millions of people and corporations go through it and come out the other end.  Relocation? Think it through. Research it. Talk to people in the know. If it makes sense, this can be an adventure if you look at it that way. If you look at it as a step down, you'll stress more, impeding the process of recovery.

Im still a work in process but I've learned that negativity is an easy emotion to have. It takes no effort. But it also colors your whole life black. My wife copes with life's challenges by looking at her/our issues and seeing how other peoples problems make ours seem small. Are debt issues a problem? Sure, of course. But realize life hands us some wonderful things, but also some garbage. All of us. None are exempt. 

You can move forward and then be able to look back and be so proud of how you dealt with this personal "garbage".

Bob

[anthonycain 15]

Hey guys.... I want to start by saying thank you for taking your time to give me some feedback back...I really appreciate talking to people who understand anxiety and the hell it puts us through....I don't think I have given up... Yet I am despairingly crying out for help.. I have a problem that's seems like a infinite loop... I have anxiety because of the stress I'm under, but yet I'm under alot of stress because I'm constantly dealing with anxiety. My issues are one of financial and physical, but the physical part of it is dominated by anxiety. The anxiety is throwing everything off balance...my breathing isn't the same, my sleeping isn't the same, my energy is depleted.. I'm constantly getting all kinds of sensations and pains throughout my body.. my whole anatomy just feels broken and in need of serious repair...when I go outside, I have panic attacks...I have breathing issues.. I get wobbly legs.. I get dizzy...I always end up calling an ambulance... But when they arrive they say my breathing is ok... My pressure sometimes is a lil high but nothing drastic... They always think it's just my stress level...and they are right, but I feel the symptoms like everyday!...my breathing doesn't feel like it circulates properly to the right area of my lungs.   It feels shallow .. it feels inadequate. If I can just feel ok.. I can tackle all of my financial problems with a clear head... But dealing with both at the same time is killing me slow..I don't think my heart can take much more of this ..  next thing I'm afraid of is a stroke or a heart attack...I want to get better quickly.

[Iugrad91 501]

You could be hyperventilating if you feel weak and dizzy and are taking shallow quick breaths. You can teach yourself how to breathe deeply, just search deep breathing exercises and give them a try. Deep breathing also helps calm the mind so it is also great for anxiety.

[anthonycain 15]

16 hours ago, Iugrad91 said:

You could be hyperventilating if you feel weak and dizzy and are taking shallow quick breaths. You can teach yourself how to breathe deeply, just search deep breathing exercises and give them a try. Deep breathing also helps calm the mind so it is also great for anxiety.

 

Yes, thank you.... I will give this a try.. I really need something like that to help me  breathe properly

[Cherished Gal 2]

It sounds like panic attacks.  The best thing you can do for panic attacks is calm the mind.  I have been underwater with debt before and it does cause all kinds of health problems.  But you need to realize it will change if you tackle it paying off the little things and putting that money toward the next larger one and so on.  Also getting the word "need" out of your mind.  You only need things to survive on until you get a handle on your situation.  Next concentrate on what you are thankful for.  I had to keep a "Thankful journal" and write in it every night before going to bed.  I started with 5 things and built up from there...it gets easier as your mind starts paying attention to the little things in life.  In the last several years I've found I've become a minimalist just because I've found happiness isn't things.  Praying you find a calmness that sets you free from your anxieties.

[anthonycain 15]

3 hours ago, Cherished Gal said:

It sounds like panic attacks.  The best thing you can do for panic attacks is calm the mind.  I have been underwater with debt before and it does cause all kinds of health problems.  But you need to realize it will change if you tackle it paying off the little things and putting that money toward the next larger one and so on.  Also getting the word "need" out of your mind.  You only need things to survive on until you get a handle on your situation.  Next concentrate on what you are thankful for.  I had to keep a "Thankful journal" and write in it every night before going to bed.  I started with 5 things and built up from there...it gets easier as your mind starts paying attention to the little things in life.  In the last several years I've found I've become a minimalist just because I've found happiness isn't things.  Praying you find a calmness that sets you free from your anxieties.

I really thank you for taking the time to respond... Sometimes I run to this site to see if anyone has replied to my post, so that I might receive some sort of comfort in knowing others are experiencing similar things...