Bullying in College

[MrsRoryFromRunrig 13]

Well as most of you know, I have been a victim of bullying within the College.

This person had the idiocy (I use that lightly) to post on my blog from the college PC's. Therefore I hit back with a huge warning.... well not as such to them, but to the whole class. I emailed my course leader and showed her the evidence.

Anyway back to the point, this bullying has finally pushed me, I cut on the day it happened, yeh it doesn't fix it, but this made the college act, I am disgusted that it has taken me to do this before acting.

Of course, I have had a right tough 1 year, I have had my Granda Charlie's death, my great aunts death, my auntie's diagnosis, my other great aunts stroke and then she passed away a year to the day of my Granda's death, and do they care? NO. I told the college all of this and well, they didn't protect a student who was very vulnerable, it just got swept under the carpet.

I am very glad I have had AC to turn to for support, it seems to be that this is the only place (other than my parents and brother & group of friends) I can get the support and help I need. I am awaiting to see a CPN about my depression etc, but they will be told of this and well, I really don't think they will be utterly happy with how Aberdeen College has handled this situation. Many a complaints will be made, not only by me, but by my mum and possibly my GP too!.

Do you ever wonder why someone bullies others?.

[JOYCICLE 654]

Pamie, Others become bullies because their parents or family or even friends bully them. It's what makes a bully. So while it doenst' help YOU in your current situation, you should realize that boy has probably had a very sad and awful life and unlike all of US he has no idea that he's in need of help for his emotions. You should pity him for being so unaware of what goes on in his own mind. He's almost certainly in much worse shape than you are inside his own head but instead of trying to get help he lashes out at others and causes the cycle of pain to grow and grow.

Glad you're here kiddo !

[prescott911 1]

I don't mean to be insensitive but I hope that by "cut" you mean that you decided not to go to class as I truly cannot understand why someone would physically harm them self. While I would never agree with/endorse such actions I would love to understand why. If that is what you meant of course.

[char2011 1]

Bullies will be bullies and most of them only bully because they have had some sort of trauma or billing in their life. I think that the best thing you could do is fight back I think that when some you get bullied what makes the bullies go away is when you stand up for yourself. I think if you show the bullies that you aren't an easy target they will leave you alone. Focus on you work is the main thing because you are at college to get goods grades an that is the main thing that you should keep in the back of your mind.

[Esperahol 0]

Don't hurt yourself, it doesn't help and there is many a sick, sad freak who'll get some kind of enjoyment out of it. As for why people bully - there are a lot of reasons. Maybe they hurt others because they themselves hurt. Maybe they just lack empathy. Maybe people are just that small when it really comes down to it. Whatever the reason no person has the right to harass and/or harm another so don't let them get away with it. Freudian excuse or not a bully will generally not stop until they are made to stop. I hope something is done and that you are able to regain a sense of balance in your life. Don't give up.

[shaun 6]

Many of the colleges and schools in this country are negligable when it comes to bullying. Bullying should be taken a lot more seriously, the merest signs of bullying should be dealt with immediately and severely.

I think people bully others to feel better about themselves because of low self esteem. By lowering the victim they are raising themselves.

[kingusama92 0]

Sorry to hear about your experience.

People can often be insensitive. It's also become clear that colleges are just money making institutions and don't spend too much time on addressing issues like bullying.

I think it's important to understand that hurting yourself is not the answer. It is important to reach out to the right people and deal with this and get those bullies.