shey 4 Posted January 17, 2015 there are lots of thoughts lingering into my mind right now. and while thinking about it, my tears fell down to my cheeks. i have a lot of question to myself. for the past 24 years, i live in lies and regret. im getting 25 this year. and yet, i dont have anything in my hands. i dont have anything that i could call my own. this year, i say to myself that i must think wisely, use my time wisely and spend it to people wisely. there is no room for major mistakes. i must be very careful when it comes to decision making whether its about small things. i need a regular job. i need to save even little by little. i need a peaceful and safe shelter. i must strive hard to live well so at least, i would never die in regret. i must start filling my heart with positive thoughts even without others help. i know i could make it as i let go all the bitterness i had in my life. i realize that i want a better future. im stuck blaming myself for everything that cause me not to get all of this and it ruined me, it stop me for believing in myself to achieve what i want and what i must have. i realize that i must use my mistakes as a stepping stone to move forward. even no one is here for me. self confidence is much enough to build a better future. and when we do it right, God will surely be with us. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
jonathan123 2368 Posted January 17, 2015 Hi shey. "I live in lies and regret". But isn't that what most people do? I am not being cynical but when I look around I see the chaos that we call living and the lies people tell. You are not the only one who feels as you do. But regret is of the past and you have to live in the present. Blaming yourself for past happenings is not good because there is not a thing you can do about it. If we have harmed others and we feel restitution would help then that's what we must do, but otherwise recriminations can drag us down even further. You know I see a lot of hope in your post because you are aware of what has happened and what is happening. "Do it right". Yes, that is the key. To do good and harm no one is the way to live, difficult as it may be at times. Any sort of action, whatever form it may take, unless it moves to GOOD is useless. I am talking from a psychological view. Yes, you can make it as you have the right attitude. Self blame, recriminations, regret are all of the past. Hope is of the future and no matter how bad you feel now there is always hope. "Think wisely". In those two words you have summed up what we all need to do. Keep the positive thoughts in your head and you will win. Jon. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
shey 4 Posted January 17, 2015 Thank you very much Jon i am really glad to be here and i find it helpful to speak out what i have in my mind, and release what i have in my heart through this good site. And i am encouraging everyone to post any positive thought they have in their mind even if it just little, even if it just one sentence because one day you'll just see that you'll have more. i believe through this way you would start to feel hope. And as you continue counting your blessings it will grow. One day you'll wake up free from negativity. Lets love ourselves, lets believe to ourselves. Maybe it is still dark, but on the right time, sun will shine for us. Just don't ever give up. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
jonathan123 2368 Posted January 17, 2015 You know, shey, a wise man once said "Love thy neighbour as thyself" The most important part of that is 'thyself' because if you don't love yourself how can you love anyone else? I don't mean self love, that is a selfish attitude, but a real respect for yourself; that you feel you have something to contribute, to help others over their particular hurdle, to contribute to their welfare and to do good wherever you can. Anxiety often robs one of self esteem, and we often feel worthless and this feeling is often encouraged by people who don't understand. We are all unique and we all have something to offer, however small and insignificant we may feel. Jon. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
shey 4 Posted January 17, 2015 i agree with that saying. If we will just strive hard to show some love for ourselves each day (though its kinda hard during our dark days) we could lessen our anxiety. and im working on that by making myself busy in good things like shopping a little at the grocery to buy some thing healthy to prepare and eat. you know just making a good meal for yourself feels like a success especially when you feel like you cant do anything good. and whenever i got extra time i surf the net about something inspiring or funny so that somehow i could laugh. every time i feel bad i write it down, by that i am releasing the tension inside. i share this because i am thinking that it could also help others. 1 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
jonathan123 2368 Posted January 18, 2015 Hi shey. No doubt about it, you have the right attitude and, to me, that is everything. It is not just a case of being positive although, obviously that helps. It is having the right attitude to every aspect of anxiety, good and bad. That attitude is one of acceptance. No fighting or struggling, in fact doing nothing. In that way you do something important; you stop the fear which creates anxiety by switching off the flow of adrenaline. (See lonesailors article on the 'Off Switch'). Well done shey, keep at it. Jon. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
shey 4 Posted January 19, 2015 Thank you Jon I would be interested to look for that article. I am glad that you continuously sharing sensible article that make me feel more brighter. I hope that everyone here were ding fine all the time. God bless us. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
