all i want is the ability to talk to someone

[jakk111 0]

every time i come into the situation where i have to be social i just freeze. Its getting worse and worse everyday and i just cant take it any more

[JOYCICLE 654]

Hi Jakk , Welcome I understand . It can be really tense talking to people. Do you mean a social thing like a group of people or even smaller? I say practice on small groups or one on one , until it gets easier. I am chatty with the gal who checks out the groceries or the man who takes the money at the gas station. Not like a long convo, just a  small ' holy cow, it's hot today huh?' or ' omg, so glad oreos were on sale this week ' will do t he trick. Every chance you have to speak to someone do it, just a little bit and it will get easier. 

[kristenmichelle 0]

ive been trying to make new friends and I honestly haven't been able to do that since I was a freshman in high school. I don't know why. I have lost a lot of friends and people that are close to me. I was always shy but never this bad. people have been making comments to me lately about how quiet I am and how I cant talk to anyone.  this one girl made fun of me saying how she wouldn't be able to hold a conversation with me and how anti social I am.  I want to talk to people and make friends but I am never able to open up and be myself and show them that side of me I freeze up get too self conscious and I feel like I say something stupid or they loose interest in me I need help

[Morgan45 0]

@Kristenmichelle I understand how you feel completely! I never really notice how quiet I am. It took me over half of the school year to make one friend, when ever some one tried to start a conversation with me I didn't really include myself self. I was distant from everyone, and after a while people stopped trying to talk to me. Now that I have a friend I have started talking more. It really annoyes me when people talk about how quiet I am, they don't understand why!!! Once I was talking to a girl in class and this guy overheard me talking and said " Wow that's the most I've ever heard you talk before!" He doesn't understand why I'm quiet so why would he judge me on how much I do or do not talk. Even my parents get on my nerves when trying to throw me into all these social events, they know I have social anxiety and yet they act like it's not there. They need to understand I can't do everything they can do or would do without having a panic attack.

have a nice day.

[ArrowHawk11 30]

I know exactly how you feel! Ive struggled with that all my life and it can be very frustrating so your not alone. Starting a conversation can be a difficult task so I try to break the ice and it seems to help. Sometimes it works, sometimes it doesnt. It depsnds on the situation. Breaking the ice is a simple conversation and if you keep it going, the longer and easier it will become. Hope fhis helps.