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Hi, there! My name is Mira. I'm a high school senior and a concurrently enrolled college student. I started seeing a therapist a year ago for a number of reasons related to social anxiety, including extreme loneliness and s*****al ideation. I don't have social anxiety disorder; however, it's difficult for me to interact with people, talk on the phone, or do anything that draws attention to myself, including participating in class discussions. I haven't had any friends since I started public school seven years ago, and I'd love more than anything to have a close friend or two, and to feel connected to my peers. My therapist and I agreed that joining a supportive community might help me become more comfortable socializing, so here I am! Hopefully a precursor to face-to-face discussion! I'm working on accepting some of my enduring characteristics, such as introversion and neuroticism, while improving the things I can change. I want a more balanced inner life, and I want to learn how to be more self-reliant and self-sustaining, especially as I take on more financial and academic responsibilities. Let me know if you can relate!

After watch Guy Winch at TED about Emotional First Aid I got really pump up and it's look good for me, So I decided to create content about It. Hope you like it. So what it emotional first aid come for ? Imagine you are in park, observing a group of children playing around on the playground. Apparently, the taller of the two are pissed off because the shorter keeps following him around. Then he pushes the other, causing the latter to fall and scrape his knee. Three other kids stop playing. One runs to her home and come back carrying a first aid kid. Everybody is familiar with first aid kid, the little white box with a red cross on its front surface. The kid with first aid kid put a band aid over the fallen kid’s knees, and they’re back to playing. In a glance, it’s all sunshine and rainbow again for those children. But are they really? Everybody worry about the fallen kid’s knee, but it’s been treated and it will be okay. It will heal. But, who worry about the fallen kid’s heart? His feeling is very hurt, and it doesn’t show but from that time the younger kid is afraid to approach older boy. But there is no such first aid kit for the boy’s heart. No band aid to heal his hurt feeling and to recover his trauma. But, you see, just because it doesn’t visible to eyes, doesn’t mean emotional injury doesn’t need band aid. Because human knows the risk of leaving physical wound or illness untreated, they make first aid kid: a box full of easy to reach medication and health tools. Yet despite knowing the risk of untreated injury, people seem wonderfully indifferent toward emotional injury. But how about leaving emotional injury ? So, what do we need to do to make this emotional first aid? According to the book, the treatment will be different according to each type of the emotional injuries: rejection, loneliness, loss and trauma, guilt, rumination, failure, and low self esteem. Let's discuss one by one Loneliness Loneliness isn’t a ‘door shut on your face’ type of hurt like rejection. It comes slowly, creeping between your day and night, even when you’re surrounded with people. Loneliness makes you sad, constantly on guard and tends to mistrust other people. Often because of that it drives people away, so you’re going to be even lonelier. how about the first aid for loneliness ? Stop bullying yourself !!! We frown upon bullying when we see one, yet we often bully our own selves. We often blame ourself for everything that goes wrong, even when those things are just coincident. In our head, we often call ourselves ugly, stupid, and other demeaning words. When we succeed, we seldom praise ourselves. In fact, bullying ourselves will just add negative thinking into our head. When we’re too deep in negative thinking, we may regard everything in life with negative lens, including connecting to people. That makes us even lonelier. Borrow other people’s eyes Are you afraid you won’t meet other people’s expectation when you’re interacting with them? Let me ask you something. Are you afraid other people won’t meet your expectation when they’re interacting with you? No, right? You don’t expect something from others when you’re casually interacting with them, except basic manner of course. So, remember that that’s what exactly other people think of you in conversation: they don’t expect anything from you. Knowing this will help you relax in conversation. For rejection, loss and trauma, guilt, rumination, failure, and low self esteem, I will continue it If this is post get a good respond ;):throb: Source

Hi everyone, I'm Adam, 29 years old. I'm currently struggling with generalized anxiety which always results in me getting very depressed when I go through these very hard stages of my life. I had my first experiences with anxiety and panic in my early 20s. I got very ill at the time because I wasn't aware what I was going through and didn't know the coping mechanisms. I came through though, and whenever I feel better I always just push on and get on with things. When I feel ok I always think It'll never come back again and I always seem to forget just how bad the anxiety is when I do have it. I'm here because I don't have much support and I feel very lonely when I go through these stages. I come from a naturally anxious family and the people that I would like to talk to about what I feel I can't because they are going through similar things. After my dad passed away in my early 20s, My mother, sister and myself began having issues with anxiety and we can all make each other worse by worrying about each other! The main reason I started having problems again in a large part was because I was worrying about my mother. Thanks for reading. Adam