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Hi, there! My name is Mira. I'm a high school senior and a concurrently enrolled college student. I started seeing a therapist a year ago for a number of reasons related to social anxiety, including extreme loneliness and s*****al ideation. I don't have social anxiety disorder; however, it's difficult for me to interact with people, talk on the phone, or do anything that draws attention to myself, including participating in class discussions. I haven't had any friends since I started public school seven years ago, and I'd love more than anything to have a close friend or two, and to feel connected to my peers. My therapist and I agreed that joining a supportive community might help me become more comfortable socializing, so here I am! Hopefully a precursor to face-to-face discussion! I'm working on accepting some of my enduring characteristics, such as introversion and neuroticism, while improving the things I can change. I want a more balanced inner life, and I want to learn how to be more self-reliant and self-sustaining, especially as I take on more financial and academic responsibilities. Let me know if you can relate!
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Tonight I am lying awake. I have been trying to get to sleep for four hours. I’m home from uni for Easter and Home is the complete opposite of my uni home. My uni house is quiet, very little noise, no loud bangs, shouting or anything disturbing. But Home, there is always noise, the washer, the dryer, my mum pottering, my brother screeching, the tv on too loud and do NOT get me wrong. I love my family, I love Home. But going from one extreme to another does something to a girl. Too much noise triggers my anxiety, crowded places, bars, cinemas, traffic, the tumble dryer. My ears are sensitive for some reason and all this can really disorientate me, it can give me headaches, makes me snappy with the people I love and then of course makes me hate myself. So in short, I’ve been surrounded by a lot of noise the last few days and my anxiety is building, I can feel it. Tuesday I go to Rome. On a plane. And I have a deathly fear of planes, every time I’ve been on one I have a panic attack, no matter how hard I try to stay calm. I also have my dissertation due in two weeks and I need to be researching and preparing for two shows that I start rehearsing for in three weeks. It’s fair to say I think that my brain has a lot of fuel for the anxiety fire. But what I’ve been thinking about for the last hour is how limited I feel by my anxiety. I feel very limited. I feel terror at the thought of causing a scene on the plane. Which makes me not want to get on the plane and see the world. Thus limited to England. I feel terror at the thought of not succeeding to the level I’m aiming for at uni, failing and embarrassing myself in front my peers. Thus limited to not achieveing my degree. I feel terror at the thought of auditioning and being in a movie or on stage and failing. Thus limited to mundane jobs and failing my dream. I feel terror at not living my life but not knowing how too and being scared to live it in case I get it wrong. Thus, limited to staying safe inside a house, safely existing but hardly living. And you guessed it, I’m scared of that too. Deep down I know you should always keep trying to matter what and failing doesn’t mean your the failure and there’s no wrong way to live your life but then there’s the conflict. Theres the reason I toss and turn and fight with myself for hours. Negative and Positive attitudes raging war within me. I miss my boyfriend, I feel inspired by him, he has a new job at an incredible place and he’s learning so much and working so hard and he’s tired a lot. And I want to be comforted by him so much but I don’t want to ask for it because he has enough to deal with. I need to support him too. I didn’t know what to do with my twilight thoughts and then I remembered I had this place and if I’m honest I wasn’t sure anyone was reading my blogs until I got my first ever comment from Jonathon on my last post and it filled me with lightness. Someone is reading this and understanding and I just can’t quite comprehend that. Because I don’t talk to anyone about any of this, not this honestly at least. So thank you. Thank you so much for reading. I’llbefineintheend
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After watch Guy Winch at TED about Emotional First Aid I got really pump up and it's look good for me, So I decided to create content about It. Hope you like it. So what it emotional first aid come for ? Imagine you are in park, observing a group of children playing around on the playground. Apparently, the taller of the two are pissed off because the shorter keeps following him around. Then he pushes the other, causing the latter to fall and scrape his knee. Three other kids stop playing. One runs to her home and come back carrying a first aid kid. Everybody is familiar with first aid kid, the little white box with a red cross on its front surface. The kid with first aid kid put a band aid over the fallen kid’s knees, and they’re back to playing. In a glance, it’s all sunshine and rainbow again for those children. But are they really? Everybody worry about the fallen kid’s knee, but it’s been treated and it will be okay. It will heal. But, who worry about the fallen kid’s heart? His feeling is very hurt, and it doesn’t show but from that time the younger kid is afraid to approach older boy. But there is no such first aid kit for the boy’s heart. No band aid to heal his hurt feeling and to recover his trauma. But, you see, just because it doesn’t visible to eyes, doesn’t mean emotional injury doesn’t need band aid. Because human knows the risk of leaving physical wound or illness untreated, they make first aid kid: a box full of easy to reach medication and health tools. Yet despite knowing the risk of untreated injury, people seem wonderfully indifferent toward emotional injury. But how about leaving emotional injury ? So, what do we need to do to make this emotional first aid? According to the book, the treatment will be different according to each type of the emotional injuries: rejection, loneliness, loss and trauma, guilt, rumination, failure, and low self esteem. Let's discuss one by one Loneliness Loneliness isn’t a ‘door shut on your face’ type of hurt like rejection. It comes slowly, creeping between your day and night, even when you’re surrounded with people. Loneliness makes you sad, constantly on guard and tends to mistrust other people. Often because of that it drives people away, so you’re going to be even lonelier. how about the first aid for loneliness ? Stop bullying yourself !!! We frown upon bullying when we see one, yet we often bully our own selves. We often blame ourself for everything that goes wrong, even when those things are just coincident. In our head, we often call ourselves ugly, stupid, and other demeaning words. When we succeed, we seldom praise ourselves. In fact, bullying ourselves will just add negative thinking into our head. When we’re too deep in negative thinking, we may regard everything in life with negative lens, including connecting to people. That makes us even lonelier. Borrow other people’s eyes Are you afraid you won’t meet other people’s expectation when you’re interacting with them? Let me ask you something. Are you afraid other people won’t meet your expectation when they’re interacting with you? No, right? You don’t expect something from others when you’re casually interacting with them, except basic manner of course. So, remember that that’s what exactly other people think of you in conversation: they don’t expect anything from you. Knowing this will help you relax in conversation. For rejection, loss and trauma, guilt, rumination, failure, and low self esteem, I will continue it If this is post get a good respond ;):throb: Source -
Went to the annual Christmas party with my colleagues, had a really nice time with everyone. Avoided alcohol because anti-depressants and alcohol dont mix well, but everyone else got very drunk and obnoxious. Several people spilled their drinks on me and were simply rude. There was a concert and i got stuck in a huge crowd which gave me alot of anxiety, because i've been close to being trampled on before in a big crowd. At about 1am i got really uncomfortable, felt very lonely and started to think about My ex who broke up with me earlier this year.. Bad idea.
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So my doctor prescribed me antidepressants, since therapy just isn't enough. I took the first pill last night.. I'm both relieved that I am getting help but also dissapointed in myself for not being able to "fix" it myself. My day today has been okay, still alot of anxiety about my drivers license and a party I'm going to on saturday.. And I feel very lonely at night. Hope things will get better soon.
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Hi everyone, I'm Adam, 29 years old. I'm currently struggling with generalized anxiety which always results in me getting very depressed when I go through these very hard stages of my life. I had my first experiences with anxiety and panic in my early 20s. I got very ill at the time because I wasn't aware what I was going through and didn't know the coping mechanisms. I came through though, and whenever I feel better I always just push on and get on with things. When I feel ok I always think It'll never come back again and I always seem to forget just how bad the anxiety is when I do have it. I'm here because I don't have much support and I feel very lonely when I go through these stages. I come from a naturally anxious family and the people that I would like to talk to about what I feel I can't because they are going through similar things. After my dad passed away in my early 20s, My mother, sister and myself began having issues with anxiety and we can all make each other worse by worrying about each other! The main reason I started having problems again in a large part was because I was worrying about my mother. Thanks for reading. Adam
