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Started reading "change your thinking" by Sarah Edelman to help with cognitive behavioural therapy it is a good read and has good strategies and suggestions to follow. Can anyone please recommend some other self help education content to be viewed? Frank

Hey Jonathan I do often wonder if others are putting a mask on for their outgoing personalities and who within public are living with constant fear of their actions in groups large and small. I guess it is because I am not experienced with gestures and emotions and it is something I should look into more to understand how people are feeling rather than just thinking everyone has hatred for me and as you said 'be yourself' and just practice social situations more until I get used to them. I can see where you coming from. Some people may but most people will not think i am 'weird' it is more likely that I am trying to match the way I am or feel I am against society and people I know, and comparing what I think is normal but everyone is individual and different in their own ways so technically we are all normal in our own ways. appreciate the kind words, it is good to see people out there like yourself helping others.

Hey Amber Thank you for your suggestion much appreciated. I think that is a great idea for most people it would help greatly with getting yourself into the community and just talking in general. For me personally I doubt I would enjoy it much. I am still contemplating going to see a psych and working on a plan but for being social I just need to find something that like the public speaking but for what will motivate me and make me want to go see people. I happen to work in a small cafe/small business in a town in NSW, Australia. So I see people and make myself talk to people every day but I still find it hard and try to avoid people as much as possible. Even being social via the internet is a struggle. For myself I don't want people to know I am weird and think that the stuff I post is weird but I am slowly starting care less and just posting on here is even a greater step than I have taken in years.

The feeling over being very awkward socially and not knowing what to say or do to people at social events because you either dislike the things people do or just not confident enough to talk to people. When you would rather stay in and enjoy a nice show or relax reading a book rather than battling the conditions outside and needing to relate to the people around you. Often you might see old friends you rarely see anymore due to your work commitments and hear stories about their new friends and where the go and enjoy themselves but you think in your head "why haven't I been able to make new groups of friends" its a tough world out there. Also struggling to pick up the emotions and thoughts of people around you resulting in you thinking no one out there likes you because you can't tell what they are thinking about you or if they actually want to be your friend. Your not alone.