Catherine84

One thing he is not is patronising and there wasn't really any need to reply to him the way you did. All the time he has been on this site, no one has ever accused him of being patronising before and he would never do such a thing either. All Jon ever does is help people on here. He is the most caring and kindest person and has helped so many. So he doesn't work in Mental Health like you do and he might not know a lot about serious health problems which he never implied he did, but he still knows a hell of a lot about things especially when it comes to Anxiety and the effects of it through his own experience with it and with him having been a counsellor for so long. I know you're entitled to your opinion but the way you spoke to Jon was uncalled for and he didn't deserve it.

I'm sorry but your reply to Jon was uncalled for, nothing he said was. He is the most helpful, kindest, caring, understanding, supportive and encouraging person there is and really knows what he is talking about. Condescending is something he is not and making people feel bad in anyway is something he doesn't do. In his whole three, almost four years of being on this site he has never been condescending and he has never made one person feel bad at all and no one has ever accused him of either things. He has helped so many people, and a lot of them have been in real trouble. I honestly would not be here today if it wasn't for Jon. I had been suffering from Anxiety and Depression continuously since i was 18, i am now 32. Last year i reached my absolute lowest point and i mean lowest point. He came along at exactly the right time and he gave me the help i needed and wanted so badly. Not even my psychiatrist of 14 years had ever given me the help i truly needed. He saved me, and thanks to him my life has already changed in a way i never thought it would. I hope after what Gilly, Mark and myself have said, you now have a better idea of what this man is really like because he is not that man you were talking about in your reply.

Hi Agentofshield and welcome back . Congratulations with your improvement and college. Its great you're doing a lot better now, good work!!!!

Hi Anne and a big welcome to AC . You've certainly come to the right place. Here you will make friends, be able to help people and get all the help, support and understanding that you need.

Hi ORmama and welcome to AC . You have chosen the right site for your new home!!! There are plenty of people here going through the same thing as you so you will get all the support and understanding that you need, you will have no worries there. Its good that your family try as much as they can to support you, and unless they have or do suffer from anxiety themselves, then they won't understand. Only those that have actually been through it, truly know what it is like and fully understand. And you will find those people here. Come back and talk whenever you want to, there will always be someone here to listen and talk to you. All the best to you.

That's alright. No problem at all Just remember, you're not alone and whenever you want to talk or you just want someone to listen to you we are all here to do so and to help.

Welcome to AC . You're being too hard on yourself and you shouldn't be. You need to stop beating yourself up over things that have happened in the past, you can't change any of it and worrying about it all the time is not going to do you any good. You've said and done things that you regret; we've all been there and done that so you're not alone there. We're only human. The things you did say, you didn't mean any of it out of nastiness. It all got misjudged. You're not a horrible person in any way, you've proven that. You need to forgive yourself and believe that you deserve it, because you do. Let go of it all and leave it in the past. Don't let what has happened in the past eat you up. Think about the now and the future. And never think of yourself or what you say as being stupid. All the best to you.

Welcome to AC . You have definitely stumbled onto the best site there is, you won't find a better one!!! People on here are very welcoming and helpful and are happy to talk or just listen at anytime. Everyone speaks from personal experience and have a real understanding of what you have been through and what you are still going through now.

Hi BrookeAshley. I know all too well what that's like, believe me!!!!. Quite often, what seems like a huge imperfection to us, other people don't even notice or think twice about. And chances are, everyone else will be too caught up in what they're doing and enjoying themselves to notice if you have any bad features. As for your boyfriend, i'm sure all he will see is the beautiful woman that he fell for. Try not to let this anxiety ruin what is suppose to be an enjoyable and fun time for you. Don't let it fill your head with all negative things. You keep saying that you're just as beautiful as any other woman out there and that nothing is going to spoil this weekend for you. All the best to you.

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Hi Niccla. Its nice to meet you. Welcome to AC

That doesn't sound selfish in the slightest. Its a big help and relief to know that there are other's going through what you are and that they understand.

Hello Cmay. Welcome to AC . I suffer from Social Anxiety and though I was diagnosed with it when I was 18, I had been suffering from it long before then. I have had plenty of people think that I was being rude and ignorant and a snob and i'm pretty sure they'll be other things too. It really took over my life and ruined it. I couldn't make friends so I was a real loner, i suffered from agoraphobia for two years or a bit more. Then i was finally able to start to leave my house a little bit more but only if i was with a family member each time. Its still the case now and i don't really leave my house unless i really have to. I still have a way to go with it yet but since being on this site, there has been some improvement and i know its going to continue to improve. Me, you and other's are going to get there. Yes, its going to take time but i honestly do believe and have faith that it is going to happen. All the best. Catherine

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