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Dany, You are exactly right! I tend to be jealous and have to watch it. That`s not good at all. Just an example: last night she told me that somebody from her past (who didn`t know she was dating someone) messaged her asking her out. And she told this guy she has a boyfriend now. Just that fact drove me furious. Couldn`t control it and still can`t stop thinking of that. And then, anxiety goes to very high levels.

You are right, Jonathan! My partner became my support. And it shouldn`t! Before knowing her I was alone, happy and VERY SECURE. So why did I change? My goal is to see her as a "plus" in my life. Not the reason of my life. That`s not healthy. I see it clearly. My job now is convince my mind of it. Well, at least I`m taking medication since Tuesday. In fact my doctor increased de dose of what I already had and also prescripted a new drug in addition. I don`t know if is because of it, but my anxiety symptoms improved during this 3 days. To early to know. But the fact is that decreasing your anxiety makes easier to try to fix other things in your mind.

Jonathan, You`re right. I should have no fear of losing her. We talk about our relationship and we really love each other. When we are together, I`m completely safe and confident. When she leaves I begin with these stupid feelings. And anxiety takes command. This is not new. I remember being a little kid. I would never doubt my mom`s love. But I would get extremely anxious and insecure when she wasn`t around. I would be anxious all the time spent at school fearing that she wouldn`t be there to pick me up at the end of the day. That`s chronical. I agree with you. I should just take the course and see what happens. But my anxiety just won`t let me do it.

Bterflymom, Thanks for your reply! You`re perfectly right! Jealousy can`t bring anything good to anyone. Somebody with anxiety has fears that are absolutely ridiculous. Ok, my girlfriend is a doctor. When she says she won`t be available for the next 4 hours because she will be on surgery, that should be ok, right? But sometimes my anxious mind will make up a big story and inconsciently I`ll believe. I have to break free of that. I`m not being possessive. I`m suffering alone. She doesn`t deserve it.

Hello Folks! It was very nice to find these forum here. Before registering, I`ve read many topics and it's amazing how people can help each other. I`m from Brazil and also live here. 36 yo, divorced, one daughter. Well, I have problems with fears and anxiety since I was a little kid. First psychologist appointment I was only 4. I grew up with this. Always anxious but from time to time things get out of control. And that`s what I`m feeling as I write. I divorced 7 months ago. It was easy and smooth! Have a good relationship with my daughter`s mom (ex-wife). I was very happy until one thing happened: I met someone and fell in love with her. That would be great news for any person. Not as great for this mind here. Now that I have someone I love, it was triggered a fear of losing her. Is that a paradox or what? I can only think about her the entire time. Always anxious for a message, a call or next meeting. And, of course, jealousy comes naturally. This is terrible! Can`t work well, can`t spend quality time if my daughter, can`t see friends or do anything I like. My anxiety and fears will paralyze me. I know that I`m doing everything wrong and I`m afraid to lose somebody I love so much. If anyone can help me in anyway, I`ll really appreciate. Cheers!