guidinglights

hey guys.i was feeling pretty bad so i thought i would come vent it out here. Im almost 30 and this week ive just been negatively analyzing my current life situation. ive been single for years and sometimes the lonliness just overwhelms me. i feel like i am too emotional and complicated to ever connect with a girl. its hard for me to meet people because at my age everyone is at the bars or whatever. and i have been sober for 3 years and i still go to bars sometimes but it is just not fun anymore. i dont have many friends left due to them moving away or getting married ect. i just feel like i must have fucked up in life because i am one lonely guy and i am sad as hell. i am going to a new psych doc in a few days. so theres something positive. thanks for listening

Welcome Alby. Tell us more about yourself! How old are you..what do you like to do? Any experiences in your past that can better help us understand your life. What happened 5 years ago? We have all been through bad times and we can help. Youre not alone.

Welcome Flower...and if that is your real name that is pretty awesome. I do not share the same experiences as you..but from what I read, you are one strong woman. Through all those experiences you are still here..and here for a reason. I hope you find some peace soon.

Gilly and Bterflymom... thank you for your replies. they mean a lot to me. I know im a good guy and someone is out there for me...but you guys know how it is...it just builds up and you dont believe it anymore..but i appreciate your thoughts and they have made me have a better outlook this morning. your guys stories are awesome and i am happy for the both of you! Ill update you guys with any future dates i have hahaha...

jonathan123 thanks so much for your reply and advice. im glad someone understands these situations out there. when i ask girls out i just obsess over it not working out and it causes all these damn emotions. but i know the end result of finding love is worth the risk. im working on my shyness daily but i know its gonna take years to improve. i guess im just envious of those outgoing people in relationships. thank you for your reply

Hey guys. Ive been reading these forums for years but this is my first post ever. Im 29 and have had anxiety/depression since I was about 15. all the sadness/lonliness resulted in me being an alcoholic from age 21 to 26. But Im now almost 3 years sober! Ive hit a all time lonliness and thats why Im here tonight. I finished college but never went back for a masters because i am so afraid of the presentations. If i know i have to do one i will worry for months and usually throw up...and ive walked out/dropped classes cause of it. Ive applied to go back and im so scared i cant even think. Im gonna start therapy soon to see if i can do anything about it. Ive been on 300mg of wellbutrin for about 6 months and it has helped a lot. I work full time at a retail job. I make ok money but I still live with my parents. I wont be able to get a good job until I am done with school in about 2 years. All my best friends have moved away or got married. My other friends have their girlfriends and their own lives. Everyone at work loves me and they tell me Im one of the best people they have ever known. I care a lot about the people i know and they come to me when they are depressed or have problems. My main problem is that i have not had a girlfriend for about 10 years. It just depresses the hell out of me. im ok looking...not "hot" but i think im decent. but because im a shy guy it has basically ruined my life. ive gone on a few dates over the years but there was no chemistry with them. i feel like ive screwed up every chance i had in the past with women and maybe im getting punished now or something. i recently asked a girl out and she set up a date. then she canceled the day before.. im just so exhausted from all of this. i just wanted to vent and see if anyone else related with me. i hope one day ill meet someone. i think my anxiety and depression is getting the best of me. but im doing what i can to improve it.