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Is it normal to feel this way after a vacation?

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So early this morning I got back from a 3 week vacation in Canada and the USA.
This trip has been on my bucket list for the past 5 years, and I finally bit the bullet and decided this was the year I was going to do it, despite my anxiety.

The entire trip I just couldn't accept what was happening was real.  I had to keep pinching myself, because the experiences I had just felt too good to be true.

I'm home now, and I feel so low. I keep randomly crying, and everything seems unfamiliar, even my bedroom.

I had an amazing time, and am so proud of everything I achieved (including a 15 hr flight alone), but I just hate that today I am feeling so awful.

Why does this happen? When something good happens in my life, I cant accept it's real, and then once it's over I get extremely emotional.


Has anyone else felt this way?

 

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14 minutes ago, cutecat25 said:

So early this morning I got back from a 3 week vacation in Canada and the USA.
This trip has been on my bucket list for the past 5 years, and I finally bit the bullet and decided this was the year I was going to do it, despite my anxiety.

The entire trip I just couldn't accept what was happening was real.  I had to keep pinching myself, because the experiences I had just felt too good to be true.

I'm home now, and I feel so low. I keep randomly crying, and everything seems unfamiliar, even my bedroom.

I had an amazing time, and am so proud of everything I achieved (including a 15 hr flight alone), but I just hate that today I am feeling so awful.

Why does this happen? When something good happens in my life, I cant accept it's real, and then once it's over I get extremely emotional.


Has anyone else felt this way?

 

I used to feel that after really fun vacations I was so sad it was over.. and maybe the freeing feeling you feel on vac is so good that when you go home to the room that you worry in.. realty sorta slams you and it's emotional. You aren't alone. Good for you though for traveling and doing things you have always wanted to do!!!! Just remember you aren't alone with how you feel.. but also remember how awesome you are to have had an amazing trip!!!! 

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Many people would be afraid to fly for 15 hours, so that is an accomplishment in itself to be proud of!!!

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Sometimes when we've been away on vacation for more than a week I feel very down when we come back home. Some call it post vacation blues. I think when you're on vacation it's almost like you're living in a fantasy world, I mean, you don't have any responsibilities, you're spending money on things you usually wouldn't, you're staying in a nice hotel, you don't have to cook, clean, pay bills etc... So I always find it difficult coming back to "reality" and in some ways, at least for myself, I can even kind of escape my worries and anxiety while I'm on holidays, at least for the most part! (except the flying bit ;)

This also sounds like something you had been planning for sometime so it's normal to feel down or even emotional that it's now done. They always say that kids cry on Christmas Day after all the gifts have been opened because there's been so much anticipation and then suddenly it's all over.

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Thankyou for your replies! It's been a rough week, I know I should be grateful for the experience, which I am! But I just cannot help but feel down and confused. I thought this trip would help me find myself, but it's actually done the opposite. I'm now more confused about the direction of my life, than I was before my trip. 

I loved Canada so much, i've even been considering the idea of living there for a while, but that idea terrifies me, more than it excites me.

I guess i feel so low, because i'm 24, and I had a lot of hope that this trip would help me decide what to do with me my life, now i'm absolutely clueless as to where i should go from here. 

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I take vacations and worry the whole time that I am not home doing what needs done. Hopefully there is peace for all of us one day.

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Hey iceman!  You are not alone -- I can never relax on vacation and I cannot even shut off my anxious mind when I'm on the beach hearing the waves crash -- ugh :(   Even if I can manage to relax a bit, it takes me until like three-quarters of the way though the vacation.  My husband, boys and I go to Florida every year -- last summer when we were there I had just weaned off Cymbalta, learned that I needed to be on something, so my doctor put me on Wellbutrin, which I was on during vacation.  Absolute nightmare -- it had the effect of making my anxiety twofold.  I remember being in the pool and watching other parents taking pictures of their kids.  I did a lot of that when my boys were much younger, but haven't for quite awhile now (they're 19 and 15).  I sent myself into a panic attack in the pool thinking of all the moments in my boys' lives that I completely failed to capture on film and that were lost forever.....as you said, I'm hoping we all have peace some day.  Since I started back up again on this forum hadn't been on since late last year) I've felt so bad for everyone here and have been praying for all of us.

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I haven't taken a vacation in a looong time, hence my dumb joke, but last weekend I spent an enjoyable evening with several friends, many of whom I'd not seen in a long time. After I went home I felt a crushing sense of sadness and I'm not really sure why but it does sound a bit like what you described. Maybe it's because after a high I've almost come to expect a low.

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On ‎5‎/‎18‎/‎2017 at 5:05 AM, cutecat25 said:

I guess i feel so low, because i'm 24, and I had a lot of hope that this trip would help me decide what to do with me my life, now i'm absolutely clueless as to where i should go from here. 

FWIW, I'm 47 and I still don't know what I want to do with my life  :)

Although its portrayed like that in the movies a lot, I have yet to meet anyone who made a major life decision based on a vacation or a trip.  And if they did, it would most likely be a bad one - vacations tend to show the best and most sanitized version of anywhere you visit.  I like visiting Las Vegas.  However, there is no way I would live in that town (no offense to anyone living there).

My suggestion - if you want to know what to do with your life, first start by thinking about what you think you are missing from your life now.  Then come up with a plan.  Rinse and repeat.  That's the fun of the journey!

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On 7/12/2017 at 2:42 AM, davide.h said:

I haven't taken a vacation in a looong time, hence my dumb joke, but last weekend I spent an enjoyable evening with several friends, many of whom I'd not seen in a long time. After I went home I felt a crushing sense of sadness and I'm not really sure why but it does sound a bit like what you described. Maybe it's because after a high I've almost come to expect a low.

I realise now how ungrateful I must have come across in this post.
These past three weeks i've been dealing with some physical health issues, and it has really put things into perspective. I cannot believe a couple of months ago I was complaining that I felt low and depressed because my vacation of a lifetime was over.

I'm glad you had a nice night out with your friends, maybe you can try and organise to get together once a month?

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