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Taran

Prom Nightmare :I

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Right so as a few of you might know, it was my school prom last night. I've never really had much anxiety about being in large social settings, but I have struggled with going to school. Last night was really horrible, I had a few panic attacks and had to leave early, which made me feel bad because I was giving someone else a lift home as well. Has anyone else had anything like this? I think one of the major things was that I knew there was a large after party happening, which I wasn't invited to, and that's all anyone was talking about. Today I was supposed to meet a friend from outside school in town and I was too scared to go so I chickened out. How can I get over this because it's really knocked my confidence in social settings!!!

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Hi. Taran. If you look under RESOURCES on the site and go to the bottom you will find a write up on Dr. Claire Weekes. She specialised in the sort of problem you have and her last book (A compilation of all her books) "Essential help for your Nerves" is available from any good bookshop. It could be the best £10 you ever spent. What you went though was distressing and awful. I know. Been there many times. But you did mis-manage the whole thing. Now don't get upset by me saying that. First of all you retreated. A perfectly natural thing to want to do. "Let me out, let me out I can't stand it". One of Dr. Weekes sayings is "Recovery lies in the places you fear". Hard? Yes but that's where the real answer lies. When you feel a panic attack coming don't panic! (Sounds daft but hang on). It is the SECOND panic that reinforces the first. "Oh dear, here it comes again, what will I do?" First panic will always pass if left to itself. Adrenaline has a limited output and by one panic attack it has used it up for that occasion. It is the second fear the 'what ifs' that cause you to run away. "What if I fall over" (You never will). "What if I make a fool of myself", a big one that with young people. STOP. Take deep breathes and carry on with what you are doing. You may not believe this but no one ever knew I was having a panic attack. I managed to disguise it so well and, no doubt, so do you. If out you can go to the loo. Sit down and take deep breathes until it passes. IT ALWAYS WILL. Nothing will happen to you. Then come out and carry on. Don't fight or struggle with it that just makes it worse. What I have said is not easy because it goes against your natural instinct which is to run. DONT! You will win but get the book if you can. Good luck.    J.

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Aww taran, I'm sorry, I just saw some pics on fb, you looked lovely in your dress. J has some good advice tho ^^ Claire Weekes was a very smart lady.

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I know exactly how you feel. I force myself to go out into social settings sometimes and I almost always feel uncomfortable socializing even if its with friends. I'm proud of you for going to your prom.

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