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  1. Hi Fw5 I don't believe the word cure is the right term. Here on AC we talk a lot about recovery. You can't cure anxiety. We all need a little anxiety to keep us from doing stupid stuff and planning ahead. Like right now, I'm on a yacht in gale force winds after cyclone Debbie here in Australia. I'm anxious and for good reason. But this anxiety has made me pull into a safe harbour, tie more ropes on and secure the boat more than I normally would. The anxiety is keeping me alert and watchful. This is all good stuff! I don't like feeling this way and can't wait until the gale is over but for now I have to accept the gale and my anxiety as a natural human reaction. The way I feel now is normal anxiety and we as humans need this in our lives. That's why anxiety can't be cured. You can however recover from an anxiety disorder. A disorder happens when the anxiety is out of proportion to reality and interferes with you living your best life. I have recovered so far. Sometimes I have setbacks, but mostly, my anxiety is in proportion to reality and doesn't interfere with me being happy. You can recover too. Have you ever tried cognitive behaviour therapy? This helps to teach you to challenge your thoughts and sort out fact from fiction. What I mean by that is...you can think you'll get cancer all you like...this is fiction. The cancer isn't actually diagnosed or real. The fact is right now at this moment you don't have cancer and are fine. You need to learn to separate what's actually happening right now in the present, rather than be anxious about non existant cancer or whatever else you think you have. "Think" being the key word. You can think you are a billionaire all you like but it doesn't make it true. The same way you can think you'll get cancer. Until you are sitting across from your doctor and they say the words "you have cancer" it is not a real thing. Even if your body is aching or giving you signs and symptoms, until that moment the doctor says those words, you are making yourself sick with anxiety over a non existant thing. It isn't real until a doctor says it's real. I learned to laugh at my thoughts. I would feel a cramp in my leg and my thoughts would say "omg it's a clot". Being mindful helped me to recognise the thought and just observe it rather than be carried away believing it. Then I'd laugh at my habit of jumping to the worst possible conclusion. "Of course it's a clot" I'd laugh to myself "of course brain, good work". Learn mindfulness. Learn to watch and observe your thoughts without judgement and without being carried away by them. Watch them as you would watch clouds passing in the sky. Don't become involved the narrative they tell. I'd suggest CBT therapy if you can find it. To answer your question, yes people have recovered and got on with their lives. It is totally possible.
  2. That sucks Cowboy! Hope it is suspended with pay. If you did nothing wrong, you shouldn't have anything to worry about. Hard not to I guess. Hang in there bud and keep us updated.
  3. It could be anything. I once had these strange boil like things flare up in my armpits when I was a teenager. They're very very painful. Stop telling yourself the worst case scenario! There's a heap of things it could be and many of those things are harmless. Why assume the worst? Don't let anxiety do this to you. Go and see a doctor and get a definitive answer. You've already made the smart move by not googling it, now make the smart move and ask a professional. Don't ask on forums like this, we're only using guess work. Once you see a doctor you will know for sure and can ease your anxiety.
  4. HAPPY BIRTHDAY (yesterday? since you're in Australia?) 


    1. lonesailor14


      Thanks very much😀 half an hour left of the day. 

  5. Happy Birthday! 

    1. lonesailor14


      Thanks very much Miss LLL😀

  6. Hi bearhunter Sorry to hear you're having a hard time. All of these symptoms are normal for anxiety. The good thing is they won't and can't harm you, so try to relax and calm down as best you can. You're not dying or in any danger. I know it feels horrible and your thoughts are telling you to be afraid and alert, but you are going to be ok. Close your mouth and breathe through your nose, slowly and gently. Calm yourself. AC is a great site. If you look around you'll find some very helpful information. You'll learn a lot about anxiety here and knowing all you can about it will help you recover in the long run. Start with the post called New to Anxiety amd bewildered. Do try to calm your mind anyway you can. Your thoughts are what cause this. The self talk and negative, fearful "what if" thoughts. I hope this helps. Hang in there!
  7. Starting a new job tomorrow! It's a week on, week off where I have to stay in a mining camp 5 hours from home for the week I'm on. The good thing is free food for the week and they never really offer much that isn't healthy. It's all salads and veggies. So I always lose weight when I'm away working. I'm normally anxious when starting a new job, I guess I am a little but I've been doing that buteyko breathing for a few weeks and feel really good. It's been a godsend. Anyway, just thought I'd check in and let ya know I'm still kicking ass. Happy International Women's day for the 8th! Here's a pic of me at work😉
  8. Miss LLL I haven't read dare but he's right. Our bodies know what their doing. Breathing is automatic and when we interfere with it too much it becomes worse. That being said though, if you find yourself yawning and sighing, do the exercise. That's what I've been doing this past week. Just for a few minutes until my breathing feels light and not forced. Deep breathing is the worst advice for panic and anxiety. I say, don't worry about whether it is deep or shallow. Normal breathing is shallow and almost imperceptible. Just close your mouth, breath through your nose, pause after the out breath before breathing in but at the same time try to let your body do the breathing, not your conscious mind. I've found pausing and waiting until my body wants a breath before breathing in helps. Rather than consciously taking over and forcing my breathing, if that makes sense. Most of the day, I'm fine and don't even think about it. But any time I feel anxious or I start yawning or sighing, it reminds me to shut my mouth and do the exercise. Your counsellor maybe right. I think I breathe fine until I get even the slightest anxiety. Then, unconsciously I start breathing through my mouth and getting all stuffed up. Thankfully I found this exercise and can do it anywhere at anytime and calm things down. Jonathan is right about keeping a sense of humour. I have many stories where anxiety has made me and my friends laugh!
  9. Oh I forgot he mentions in the video a trick to unblock your nose. I just did it and it worked! #winning
  10. This technique has helped me so much lately. I would get breathless and then anxious about that feeling. Now if I feel breathless I do the exercise, it works, I feel I can breathe fine and it has eased so much anxiety. I've been able to discover that humidity is making my nose blocked and it's not anxiety. Sometimes it's hard to tell what's real and what is an anxiety symptom. I was in a dry climate last week and feeling fine. Now I'm home where it's humid the nose block is back. But because I have that breathless thing under control and zero anxiety, I'm able to determine the cause of my blocked nose. Sounds silly but I'm excited by this! Haha. I also tried to just breathe through my nose while jogging and keep a slow steady breathing pattern. I didn't run out of breath and could run much longer. So yes, I think it would help your friend a lot!
  11. Hi cowboy I'm going through this shortness of breath thing now. I have been for about the last year. It comes and goes in my life. It's taken me until now to figure out this last year the breathlessness is an anxiety thing. Though it's hard to believe it's not something more at times, especially since I'm very rarely anxious anymore. But here I am, trying to deal with it. Bloody thing. I feel like I was almost free and anxiety is just hanging on by it's finger tips giving me this one last thing to try and keep me from breaking up with it. Anyway I just posted here... http://www.anxiety-central.com/index.php?/topic/6539-help-for-that-short-of-breath-feeling/ about a video I watched last night that helped a lot. Hopefully it helps you too.
  12. Hi guys. So for a while I've been feeling out of breath from time to time. It took a while for me to figure out this is an anxiety thing and not something else. Some days, it's all day and then I can go for a week or so and I'm fine. I'll find I have to take a deep breath or yawn sometimes. When it's really bothering me I yawn a lot or sigh. The whole feeling itself makes me anxious and of course the anxiety makes it worse. I have to stay calm and let my breathing do it's own thing but sometimes I interfere and stuff up my breathing more and over think making myself worse rather than calming down. Anyway, I'm pretty sick of it and last night I found this youtube video that helped a lot. The guy explains the relationship between breathing and anxiety. It has some good exercises to focus on rather than panic in the moment of breathlessness. It explains why we get lightheaded or cold hands and feet. It shows a good way to unblock your nose when it feels stuffy. I'm not normally an advocate of breathing exercises but this vid made a lot of sense. Maybe it will help others too. My only tip is to let your body breathe naturally, don't force it or interfere. It does it on it's own and has done all of your life, it won't quit on you now. Anyway here's the link....Anxiety and breathing.
  13. Hi Gman Yes I have experienced this mental panic. It's horrible. I remember experiencing it and not being able to produce a calm, logical thought. Luckily it didn't last long so in 5 or 10 minutes I could calm myself down but in the middle of it, I felt I was losing my mind. As for feeling like your chest is empty, I wouldn't be surprised, anxiety does some strange stuff to you.
  14. Hi Pinky Sending big virtual hugs your way☺ If I were to answer your question, I'd write something I've already written so I'll just leave a link here for you...New to Anxiety or Panic. In this post I've tried to explain how we get to where we are at. If you read it, it will then prompt you to another post called "the off switch". I wrote these a while ago when I had just figured out what acceptance really meant. More recently I wrote a post called Letting Go. Which is also worth a read. Hopefully these posts help a bit. You sound clever in that you know it is anxiety but have spotted your thoughts trying to tell you it is something more. I had this too because I didn't trust the doctors in my home town, they had misdiagnosed me before. In the end I had to keep asking myself "what are the chances this symptom is anxiety related or something else?" It was always anxiety related and I kept telling myself that. Anxiety related symptoms are harmless. They can be scary and a bit painful, like sore muscles from tension or irritable bowl. But essentially harmless. There is no one reason each person develops an anxiety disorder. But there are some things we have in common in that we think with certain patterns that are detrimental to our mental health. We always think in the future, of "what if?" Rather than stay in the present. We imagine the worst possible outcome but never tell ourselves "maybe it will go really well?" We imagine things will go wrong but never right. We over think and over analyse everything. We don't trust our anxiety and think it is something more, often leading to health anxiety. We tell ourselves "I can't" when you in fact can but are unwilling to try. We lose self confidence and forget our capabilities often fearing you won't be able to accomplish something so never try. We fear anxiety and panic, what it can do to us, when will it show up & how to manage it if it does? We internalize and scan ourselves looking for something to be wrong. These are thinking patterns that hopefully a therapist will help you with but you can work on yourself. Things like mindfullness helped me and challenging the thoughts, rather than believing everything they say. Getting busy helps a lot. If you're focussed on something else, you're not internally scanning and monitoring yourself. We cause our anxiety with our own thoughts and perspectives. We talk ourselves into it. If you watch your thoughts closely you will spot yourself telling yourself to be afraid, that things are going to be terrible or hopeless or that a particular symptom is way worse than it is and not anxiety at all. The good news is you can think yourself into recovery and eventually manage your anxious ways. You can function and enjoy life again. Just give it time. There's a lot to learn and habits to unlearn but you'll get there in time. I hope this helps☺
  15. Hi MSTI At first I started having panic attacks. It was all very strange and scary. I didn't believe the doctors that they were panic attacks because I'm such a calm laid back person with no real trauma in my life. They lasted about 6 months and I hung onto my job by the skin of my teeth. I had zero sick leave left! One day I just got sick of this dizzy, lightheaded thing. I got angry and told it, either come get me, do you worst or piss off! And it went away. I taught myself to stop scanning my body for something to be wrong and kept getting angry at it and it left. I really didn't know as much as I do now. I had a year of being fine until another panic attack got me. After that I had another 18 months of pure hell. I had panic attacks and severe anxiety. It was really bad. I avoided work and changed jobs frequently, looking for something easier. I think the worst I became was when I was afraid of swallowing food and lost a heap of weight. I was afraid of my shower for some reason. I became agoraphobic. I was afraid of driving, especially bridges. I constantly felt under threat but had no idea what the threat was. I was constantly monitoring my heart beat and breathing and scared my body would just stop working. I had health anxiety as well. I constantly felt this pressure on my arms like someone was squeezing me to death. Everything made me anxious. Everything. It was this period I joined AC. At one stage I was ready to have myself committed to a mental hospital. I battled for a few years all up. AC and Claire Weekes taught me to stop battling. Stop fighting. I did this and while I still have anxiety & am still prone to think anxiously, I haven't battled it for about 2 years now. That doesn't mean it isn't there. It means I manage it, mostly very well but sometimes, rarely, not so well. The last 2 years have been great.