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  1. 7 points
    I'm advertising a cruise for anxiety sufferers. It's on a good liner and it's anchored at a warm holiday resort. There are a full complement of crew including six psychiatrists and four doctors. There is a pharmacy below decks fully stocked. Plenty of nurses in case of collapse. Every lifeboat has a full medical kit with tranquilisers and antidepressants. The captain is a qualified psychiatrist and the first officer a therapist. Meals are all tested by tasters whose job it is to ensure they do not contain any substances that could cause food poisoning. There are two helicopters ready to rush anyone to A&E (ER) should the need arise. All the toilets have urine testing equipment to test for diabetes. Deck games are not allowed in case anyone over exerts themselves and gets backache, which would bring on kidney trouble. There is a fully stocked library supplied by Dr. Google, an expert on nervous illness, containing all the medical books ever printed. You are encouraged to browse. Medical tests are carried out every day or more frequently if required. Results are given almost immediately to prevent nervous anticipation. You are allowed up to ten tests a day. It's not expensive to get a ticket. There are no sea sickness pills available because it never leaves the dock, just in case. Well, you never know, do you!!
  2. 4 points
    You might be a hypo if... youve ever woke up with a stiff neck and your first thought was meningitis. You’ve ever ate a slightly pink piece of chicken and immediately developed salmonella Getting a second opinion means checking webmd then mayo clinic You don’t get back aches you get kidney problems You go to the doctor for medicine only to panic over actually taking the medicine you go on a diet to loose weight, worry when you actually loose it, eat a lot to see if you can gain weight to make sure you don’t have cancer Lets hear yours! The first step is admitting you don’t actually have a problem!
  3. 4 points
    You know you're a hypo when... ...flushing is a sign of a carcinoid tumor, which you didn't know existed until you started Googling "facial flushing" last week. ...your doctor has had to tell you, "no, X symptom is not actually a sign of Y disease, please get off the internet." ...your doctor has said, "Seriously, where is this lump? I feel nothing" and you want to slap the crap out of them because it was just there ten minutes ago, I swear to God. ...you mistake your tear ducts for holes in your eyelids. ...every random cancer article you encounter is a sign you're destined to die, like, TODAY. ...you hit your deductible during the second week of the year (U.S. hypos only) thanks to that CT that you had to have to be sure a tumor isn't encompassing your pancreas and killing you RIGHT NOW even though you actually have all the wrong symptoms for pancreatic cancer but it doesn't matter because WEIRD THINGS HAPPEN TO THE PEOPLE DYING ON THE INTERNET ALL THE TIME and and and and...
  4. 4 points
    You know how to check several reflexes. You can rattle off the typical symptoms of multiple types of cancer. You get asked by doctors, “oh are you a nurse?” when you meet for the first time because of your vast medical knowledge.
  5. 4 points
    I've mostly reverted my thought processes to what many consider "normal." I don't "think" about it. I just do it. If I'm sick, I'm sick. I drink plenty of fluids and rest as much as I can and I look forward to feeling well again. In the meantime, it's no biggie, stuff happens. And it could always be worse, and I'm glad it isn't. I can't "tell you how," I just do it. "Normal" people simply don't think about it. They don't react negatively, and they don't get caught up in the what-ifs and all that not-so-fun stuff.
  6. 4 points
    I truly believe that HA is a form of OCD, and for that reason, "normal people" just don't have the same internal self-chatter that we with HA have. They experience symptoms, dismiss them until they become really bothersome, and then go to the dr. They do not hyperanalyze, interpret, overthink, self-monitor obsessively, etc. Curiously, I've always noticed that people with real diseases sometimes are much calmer about their conditions than those with HA. I've personally experienced this recently. Most of 2017, I was preoccupied with ALS fears, twitching, anxiety etc. Yet, having been recently diagnosed with MS, I am at my calmest ever. Truly ironic.
  7. 4 points
    Hey, @Jhope116. I'm so sorry you're going through this. I wake up anxious, too, and it's a terrible, scary way to start your day. I hope you're feeling a little bit better. I think your trip to the cardiologist will give you some reassurance. Your symptoms are scary to experience, but I don't think you have any reason to be concerned about severe heart disease. Your sister may have been doing well when she died, but she had a heart condition for most of her life, which can cause weakening of and damage to the heart that you don't have as someone with no prior cardiac issues. Your second cousin isn't related closely enough to be a good example of hereditary disease. Your EKG would have shown signs of a heart attack or any other irregularities. Lots of otherwise healthy people have high cholesterol - it can be hereditary or just "normal" for you - and can be easily treated with statins. You're already a healthy eater, so you'll have your cholesterol down in no time! All of the symptoms you have are symptoms of anxiety. You've had them for awhile, and they are probably getting worse because you are getting more anxious. If these were symptoms of a serious condition, you would have had a heart attack a long time ago! You are going to be ok. The cardiologist will tell you so. The symptoms can't hurt you. The thoughts can't hurt you. Everything's going to be fine.
  8. 4 points
    Again they are sensationalizing the news. Can it happen, yes. But 3 million people get the flu (1% of the US population) and less than 1% of those people have complications that result in death. That might seem like a lot but many are young or old or have underlying health issues. The news will say they were healthy one minute and dead the next but that's what gets people to listen and read. Do what you can to stay healthy, eat right, take vitamins, wash hands often, stay away from sick people. If you do get sick see a doctor so they can test for flu.
  9. 3 points
    That was i big hang up for me. I didnt want people to know the fear i felt. I was supposed to be my family's protector but i am scared all the time. The funny thing was only my health scared me. Not a car accident not a murderer. I am still a very strong individual who still can protect all those who need it even though i feel like i am dying. I agree with the up comment screw them! Everyone has had something inpact their life for the worse. I feel more impowered as a individual by saying this my issue i know i have ha. It feels great to say this is me at this time of my life and i am not embarrassed.
  10. 3 points
    ...if you read a tongue-in-cheek list and think "crap, I never thought of kidney problems!"
  11. 3 points
    Lmao wow checked off all of those!!! You might be a hypo if you always look at your bowel movements and worry when the color is diff. Depends on color, consistency and if it floats or not it could be gallbladder issues, pancreatic problems or colon cancer 😌 but NEVER what you ate 😝
  12. 3 points
    Oddly enough the flu and communicable diseases don't set off my HA and I do get sort of interested in them. In college I considered a career in epidemiology, but went elsewhere. Anyway, long story short, the flu this year is bad, but by no means the worst it has ever been. The media gets a hold of stuff and runs with it. So far I think has not caught up to how bad the 2016-17 season which was, so far, deadlier. It reminds me of the hysteria surrounding shark attacks in 2001. The media dubbed it "the year of the shark." The truth was, 2000 was a far worse year for shark attacks than 2001 and it was barely reported in 2000, but the media gets going and it is all about sensationalism. The flu has tragically taken the lives of 30 or so children, but literally hundreds of thousands, maybe millions of them have been sick with it and not died. I don't want to minimize the effect it can have, but the media is as bad as Google these days for health issues.
  13. 3 points
    Hey guys, sorry everything went OK. They're going to do a stress test, a 24 hour Holter monitor and a echocardiogram. Thanks for all the support and replies.
  14. 3 points
    I don't think 103/77 is low, that sounds like a great BP!
  15. 3 points
    Mumfie, I can relate to you. I’m in my 50’s and have suffered various symptoms since my teens that have truly freaked me out, only to have them dissipate after a doctor would say i was fine. When I think back I can think of light-headedness, weird feelings in my feet, stomach pains, irritated bladder and more. This time around they aren’t as quick to leave. I think I do myself a disservice looking for people who have identical symptoms to me who have recovered. If the symptoms are a bit different than mine I discount them. I think I also let my prickly leg feelings temper my good times. I’m always a bit worried or feel some sort of despair because of them. All consuming. When I write this it stands out as pretty sad. Mumfie, maybe you can relate to what I’ve written. It sure sounds like therapy is in order for me and I’m glad you’re already seeing one. Mumfie I’ve done enough reading to know that all symptoms can be caused by anxiety. Our symptoms might be different but don’t make my mistake of looking for the individual out there who is experiencing exactly what you are. This is a bad trap, in my opinion. Jon, thanks for pointing out clearly your view of therapy and the need for getting to the root of the problem. Best wishes to everyone, Debbie
  16. 3 points
    Needless to say, I'll never stay at that hotel again. On the 4th of July I did it. I told my sister and close friend I thought I had ALS. It was such a relief and they were convinced I was mad. It was good to hear someone so sure I didnt have what I thought was a certainty. Slowly things Improved. One Saturday in August, I noticed twitching between my right thumb and forefinger. A reminder that I wasn't well. That would last a month and a half. All day, everyday. In September, I ate Taco Bell and felt sick, crazy sick. I figured duh, you're almost 30 and eating taco bell, that doesnt add up. You lose the ability to digest taco bell after college. Everyday though, I felt nauseous, queasy at best. I was sure I had stomach or esophageal cancer. I'd read about a young priest and a 30something in my city that had died of stomach cancer and presented similar symptoms. One day in late September I left work, thinking I'd throw up on the way home. I belched so loud and gagged 2-3 times. While nothing came up, I felt better little by little the nausea went away and now, I feel fine. I still twitch but not nearly as bad as before. If I start to think about my digestive health or twitching, sure enough, it comes. While I think I've overcomed the worst of my anxiety, the scars remain, the additional weight gain makes it hard.to get a full nights rest because of snoring. Weight gain ALSO contributes to acid reflux and nausea. The dark circles around my eyes dont go away like they used to, my hair is a little grayer. I break out a lot. I'm trying to lose the weight. Trying to make sens of the why but here I am a year later still kicking and giving it a go. I can only thank God for this. I do notice that I am a lot more chill now, I used to cuss up a storm on my commute in the morning, feeling that every jerk cutting me off was after me. I rediscovered tennis and want to be a healthy, active 30 year old. The teenagers I teach in my Sunday school class drive my. The students at my job inspire , I want my parents to be happy. All I want is peace, calm and health. I hope I'm on my way.
  17. 2 points
    There really does seem to be a pattern developing with the 30-something yos
  18. 2 points
    Pray and ask God to help you carry this heavy load. I don't believe you are meant to do it all by yourself, especially if there are able bodies in the home. Ask God for wisdom on how to address the issue. He created and designed families to grow and to nurture each other. He promises to meet you where you are when you reach out to Him. My heart goes out to you, and I hope and pray you find a resolution that is good for everyone involved. I agree! But I will say something strange now: you don't have to believe in God to have that something in your life that is working all the time to good. Most religious people call it God, and that's fine. But it's a word, a name that has little meaning unless you have faith. I am sure most of us have felt the presence of some 'thing' when we have been low or dispirited. I have and do. 'Guardian Angel'? Maybe, but a presence. If you accept, as most do, and modern therapies are based on it, that we are but mind and body, then you go along with modern thinking. There is no 'IT' to help you or give you strength in adverse times. But if you accept that we are mind, body AND spirit, then a whole new prospect opens up. You are then in contact with YOU; the YOU deep down that is momentarily lost in this mess we call life and anxiety. It is always there waiting for recognition, but because it's associated with religion, so many just don't want to know, and who can blame them. But it has little or nothing to do with religion, which is mainly a power base for indoctrination. The teachings of Christ for instance, stand alone. No church or religious belief is required, just an understanding of what was said. "Do unto others as you would have others do unto you". Does that require a church, a parson or earthly teacher to be understood? Theologians will spend hours or weeks interpreting it, but it's plain to see. No! Look within for the answer because that's where the answer lies, not without.
  19. 2 points
    Hi Ruu, It was nice reading your post today, and even though it may have been challenging to write everything you did, I personally believe you took a step in the right direction. Sometimes just getting things out in the open can help release some of the pressure that gets built up. I had a situation occur the other night that got me all worked up, and the more I talked about it with a family member, I actually started to calm down. In the past, I used a variety of treatments to help uncover the root cause of my anxiety. I discovered there are many possible reasons why a person has it. It could be hormonal or chemical related, in which case, the best way to get a reading on what exactly is going on in your body is through a saliva test. Conventional doctors will not use this approach, because they are trained to dispense a drug for every ailment a human can have. But a functional doctor specializing in endocrinology will help you understand more fully how different foods and toxins disrupt the fragile balance of hormones in our bodies and cause anxiety. Even something as simple as drinking water from a plastic bottle, or deodorants, shampoos, lotions, and creams, can be disruptors if they are not completely organic and toxic free. Skincare products can really mess us up badly and cause so much undue anxiety, and yet it's so easy to fix. The other factor that I believe is critical when considering talking to a therapist or a counselor, is to pick the right person. Not all practitioners are the same, any more than people are the same. They are all trained differently, hold on to different convictions, and bring conflict resolution into your thinking by using a variety of methods. I would urge you to do your homework, and get a complete profile on whoever you choose to see. Have you ever considered setting up an appointment with a Christian counselor? I say this because a Christian will look at your whole life in much the same way God looks at you, and therefore, see things that a visit in a doctor's office will not reveal. The mind, body, soul, and spirit, are all inter-connected and affect each other, so when one is hurting, they all hurt. Thank you for letting me share my thoughts, and my own personal experiences. My hope and prayer is that God will lead you and guide you in exactly what needs to be done.
  20. 2 points
    😦 i would be like nope getme to the doctor ASAP lol. It sucks to have episodes like that I’ve had days where I wake up morning and I have felt the palpitations going wild and go on for the whole day. It’s usually in between my anxiety spells. So I can go a few days were I can be anxiety free and bang my chest starts with anxiety. Palpitations, palpitations all day. And then you see me on here, haha. I would say, and it’s with just really thinking about it right now; that it’s like when my body is trying to get to sleep and I get these jolts, these jolts are known as the body’s way to finally relax and release the tension in the body. Right? So I’m having these days were I’m finally at ease so my body finally releases tension and this is the result, the palpitations. At the end it is your call. I have been told by my cardiologist that it is on the safer side to just run it through them. Just to be sure it’s nothing. The only thing that I will admit Bin is since your family does have a history with heart issues, to just run it by your doctor and ask them if you should be worried? And if it happens next time, should I run it through them or just try to walk on through those suckers. I hope everything goes will today.
  21. 2 points
    Hi Zelda. This is all surmise and conjecture and very little fact. We all do it and it's called HA!!! . YOU are sure it's cancer? So you have diagnosed it already! Why bother going for tests then if you have already done the diagnosis yourself? You are fighting an unseen enemy, and that enemy is you and your thoughts. The belief in lies does not make them true. A lie will always be a lie. I was told when young, (Dinosaurs were around then!), never assume! It's a truth that has stuck with me. So many assume, and in anxiety it's always the worst possible scenario. This is a temporary dip in your life's spiral. Take it as it comes. Go with it. Bend with the wind. Stop fighting yourself.
  22. 2 points
    Lmao!! ^^^^^^^ allowed 10 tests a day with same day results?? Where's my ticket lol, dream Vaca right there.
  23. 2 points
    Yes Nutmeg, old impressions and beliefs die slowly. Many people hear hypochondria and think of the little old lady who can talk of nothing but every little pain she feels. She's hurting emotionally though. Many consider people with our condition as fakers, attention seekers and as weak people. What do I say to all that? Screw them! Just let any of them actually suffer a bout of HA and see how quickly their impressions change. In this world today, people want to make themselves feel better at the expense of others. You're weak; I'm strong. thus I am a superior person to you. Maybe that takes away some of the real pain those people suffer in their lives, like family crises, financial problems and the like. That's why people with conditions seek out support groups. there is no judging. We're all in the same boat. And finally, mental health is still getting very little attention in society. If someone can see an ailment, like a missing arm, or someone in obvious physical pain, they buy into that; but you can't "see" mental illness. Yet, mental illness, in all their many forms, can lead to personal misery as we all know with HA, and in other situations, can lead to awful things like shootings and s****des. I feel safe here in this forum with "my people" Bob
  24. 2 points
    Hahaha. My doc was baffled yesterday when I told her the doc I saw previously in the office diagnosed "episodic non-intractable cluster headaches" and she looked at my chart and said "that's exactly it." LoL. And she's always kind of surprised when I know other things and sometimes can finish her sentences. 😂
  25. 2 points
    I am sorry you are feeling this way. I am very prone to breast anxiety myself. You mentioned above that you aren't mentally in a good place right now. You just went through midterms and moved away from home. All of that is incredibly stressful! It also sounds like you are away from your support system -your family, friends, even your dr. So now your mind has latched on to a lump that you have had for what sounds like quite a while. And being a few days out from your period, you know the hormonal changes are going on and things are swelling and so is your lump. And from all I have read and been told by my drs, cancerous lumps stand out clearly and are unquestionable, which does not sound like your lump at all. It sounds like you are overwhelmed and feeling a lack of control which is driving you to doubt what you are feeling. Plus, I have also heard how overly checking alone can cause the breast tissue to swell. Considering that you have had this lump for a while, are there things you can do to distract yourself and calm your nervous system down until after your cycle? To which then you can recheck, and only then? To at least give yourself some time to heal from the checking and maybe some compassion toward yourself for all that you are going through emotionally right now? Hope this helps.
  26. 2 points
    Yes, constant poking and checking can make things hurt, red, inflamed, etc... but if it's been there a while I wouldn't worry about it. Breast checks should be done no more than once a month and not until 4-5 days after your period because hormones can fluctuate and breast will be least tender. Check at the same time each month so you are comparing apples to apples. Im sure being in nursing school can be tough with HA. All of us on here know the evil Dr. Google is off limits, and getting a doctorate from Google U is also discouraged, but you are exposed to medical stuff all the time so I can see how it can make you worry about things that most of us wouldn't even know about. I don't really have any advice other than that I'm sure there are others in the field or in school with you that feel the same, perhaps talking to other nursing students and having an outlet where you feel comfortable sharing your concerns might help? That's pretty much what us non-medical folks are doing when we visit this forum. You're welcome here too, obviously, but those closer to your situation might have other ways to cope with the constant barrage of medical info you have to deal with.
  27. 2 points
    Hi. Shanow. When you feel panic don't try to fight it off. This is the mistake so many make. When you feel it arise LET IT COME! Oh yes, I know, it goes against what you feel you want to do, but by allowing the panic to 'take over' you begin the process of 'second fear'. You panic because you are panicking! The 'what ifs' and the 'OMG's' begin which adds to the flow of adrenaline and furthers the anxiety. It's the adrenaline flowing through your body that makes you feel bad, but this is perfectly natural process your body is undertaking as a reaction to FEAR. Let the panic come. Go through it. Allow it to happen without resistance. Difficult? I'll say, but it can be done and is part of the process of ACCEPTANCE. You will be fine, but take it easy. Go slowly in whatever you do. Rushing around trying to solve problems helps not one bit.
  28. 2 points
    I drove 8hrs to Florida a couple years ago, only a couple of stops. Talk about cramps! Geez!
  29. 2 points
    Had my first screening mammogram a couple of days ago and got called back a few hours later because additional imaging was needed. As everyone here probably knows, "come back for more imaging" sounds just like "this is ALMOST DEFINITELY TERRIBLE NEWS!" to someone with HA. So I spent the last few days terrified (and googling, of course). Follow up mammo and ultrasound showed nothing to worry about. So a relief (for now, until the next worry takes over), but I wanted to post for anyone else who gets called back after a mammogram.
  30. 2 points
    It is so hard when the little ones aren't feeling well. Big virtual hug, and I'm glad you were able to take her.
  31. 2 points
    Thank you so much for saying this! I'll keep you posted. P.S. Idk why there are so many text boxes and i'm too tired to figure it out. lol
  32. 2 points
    Your Dr doesn't think it's cancer. You are skipping a million steps. But that's HA if you are a waitress and you carry heavy trays and you are placing heavy plates on tables all day then if course you are going to have shoulder and back issues. Sorry... I wish I could tell you something more to help you with this fear. The answer is almost always the simplest one
  33. 2 points
    To me.. a person on the outside looking in... You have had two people in your family pass from heart related issues. You are looking for these "issues" as you yourself said it's constant from the time you wake till the time you go to bed. You have been checked by your Dr. Who did NOT order further testing. So that right there tells you that the issues you are having are anxiety induced. When my anxiety is high I have palps. I get those big ones that take your breath away then that scares the hell out of me and it's just a cycle.. shortness of breath and exhaustion is so common with anxiety. Your mind is going all day about this worry so of course your exhausted!!!! I lost a lot of people in 2011 to cancer and I thought I had every cancer they did when your close to something like that you worry and you zone in on your body. Our minds are powerful!!! Have you tried talking to a therapist? Did your Dr mention this is anxiety related?
  34. 2 points
    At the very beginning of your period, it's not unusual to have brown discharge and a little bit of blood for a while before bleeding begins in earnest. That often happens to me on the first day of my period. You're definitely being paranoid. Relax. You had sex with a condom, which is perfectly safe, and now you're cramping and spotting to start your period. You're not pregnant.
  35. 2 points
    Scans for pain look for any damage that may be done to the bone, tendon, nerves, and muscle, anything that may not heal on its own with normal care or may take a long time to heal. Don't be alarmed. Your doctor is looking for injury (the most likely cause), not cancer (super super rare!).
  36. 2 points
    The feeling of disorientation, of unreality and a lot of other 'weird' feelings are very disconcerting and upsetting. They are the cause a lot of the time for the beginning of an anxiety state. People are thrown into anxiety because of these symptoms. They are bewildering. It's because they are not only very uncomfortable, but they also frighten. They set off the train of 'what ifs'! The realisation that they are NORMAL in the circumstances help relieve the tension. They are symptoms NOT causes. I would describe is as being there but not! That sums up the feeling pretty well. The feeling of unreality is so common in anxiety. We become self centred; turn inward so the outside world seems unreal. Sight can be affected too. Blurred vision, ghosting, spots, flashes........etc, etc. Oh yes! . BUT all caused by stress and tension. If you have been checked out and told you are OK, or maybe have a minor problem, then FEEL unreal and not 'with it'. So what! These are symptoms only and as such can't harm you, only if you allow them to do so. You are being fooled, bluffed, taken for a ride by Mr. Anxiety. He's a very clever guy and his tricks are endless. ACCEPT his rubbish. Talk to him. Ask what he wants and why he does this to you. Externalise him. See him out there and not in you. Objectify him. Then tell him he's not wanted any more. You have had enough of his nonsense. Seriously, many find talking to anxiety can help, but don't allow 'him' (or her!), to take over the conversation with negativity.
  37. 2 points
    Don't try to suppress your anxiety, that will only cause it to flare up worse later. Like Holls said you have to allow the anxiety to be what it is but not react to it, not let it ruminate in your mind. That's hard, too, but also like Holls, I talk to myself and say no, not today. I know you're there but you are not going to get me to obsess over you, I won't google, I won't panic. The anxiety may not go away but because you're not giving it what it wants (attention) eventually it will weaken. It may come back again (anxiety is persistant!) so you may have to repeat the process often.
  38. 2 points
    Medication will never 'cure' anxiety. There is no 'cure' other than what comes from within you. The 'cure' lies in your mind. Medication can bring relief, but it should be short term. To rely on it means you have not come to terms with the problems you have, because behind all anxiety there is a problem of personality or thinking the wrong way. Many have been on meds for so long they have come to rely on it totally. This morning on the UK new we were told that over the past ten years the antidepressant drug prescriptions had doubled. I am not at all surprised. They are also concerned about the use of prescribed drugs and addiction. Doctors often over prescribe. With anxiety most of them have no training in how to deal with it so go straight for the prescription pad. Some DO understand and may pass you on for counselling or suggest alternatives to drugs. They are in the minority. Short term medication is very useful and often very necessary. It enables you to take stock of your life; your situation and to look for causes for your anxiety. But long term you can become reliant on drugs. Talking therapies are so much better and you have someone to help out when problems arise during recovery.
  39. 2 points
    Hi Poppy, First lady to respond Kudos for practicing safe sex and also being on top of any unusual symptoms afterwards. Honestly, a little bleeding after the first time is to be expected and was certainly my experience as well. As for the re-appearance later, could be lots of minor things completely unrelated to your sexual encounter. However, I think it is a good idea to see your dr just in case, although I really suspect that you have nothing major to worry about. Best wishes.
  40. 2 points
    I was listening to an interesting podcast yesterday that suggested that exactly this would be the root of all our issues. For me at least, i think it is true. I want 100% certainty about my health and those around me. I cannot have it, so i panic about it and then the circle starts (symptoms--> worry--> focus on symptom --> worse symptom or more symptoms--> more panic--> more focus etc) So yeah... i KNOW this and still cannot let it go. I get your frustration. The not trusting doctors part, i get that too.. My grandma was told not to complain, she was just getting older.. Untill they found out she had cancer that was now everywhere.. And for myself also, i had excruiting stomach aches at age 16 (29 now) and went to the ER more then once.. They always sent me home with a OTC painkiller en hushed me.. i was too young for it to be anything serious, they all said.. 3 years i lived in pain, missed school, missed going out with friends etc etc, untill at one point i was again at the ER at 5 in the morning throwing up what we think was blood and finally one doctor decided to do a sonogram. Guess what? IT had been gall bladder stones all along. The whole gallbladder was taken out and i never had the pains again.. So yeah, when a doctor tells me im fine i DONT believe them.. i want proof.. i want scans and bloodwork and everything, because i will not believe them otherwise.. and you know what? for someone having anxiety those kind of experiences DO NOT HELP.. it makes it even harder to find reassurance and to calm down.. but we have to try, because you know what? if the dreaded were to happen (even though we hope and pray that it will not untill we are very old and lived a very full life) what would you want your last 'healthy' weeks/months/years to be like? Crying in a corner scared to death about something that MIGHT be (and probably isnt) OR having fun, making memories and LIVING that full life we long for to look back on when we are old and wise... Then again, even though this sounds totally logical I absolutely seem to fail my own advice as well haha.. we (the anxiety touched) are just NOT logical beiings I guess.
  41. 2 points
    Also want to say that I’m sorry for your losses. I can see how that triggered this health anxiety for you. And I wanted to say I’m right there with you—I’ll often feel okay anxiety-wise, then notice a sensation and fixate on it, then anxiety ramps it up to a whole different level. There are two things I try to do when this cycle starts (currently in the middle of a fright over dizziness, of all things). First, I ask myself if a reasonable person would rush to the doctor over this. Sometimes the answer really is yes (like when my kid had a raging fever and was super droopy), but it’s usually no. So then I try to wait it out. If the thing I’m worried about is still bothering me some distance in the future (a week, a month, whatever I can handle) I go to my pcp, because that’s a perfectly reasonable thing to do. Second, I try to remind myself that physical symptoms can have a million causes, not just Scary Diseases or anxiety. There may be a physical cause, but it might be as simple as not drinking enough water or getting enough sleep. (Breast pain, for instance, can be caused by caffeine!) And certainly anxiety heightens our awareness and assigns terror to what really may be no big deal, physically. Now, this is what I TRY to do—in practice, I often can’t manage it and try to do anything to escape the uncertainty (which is where the evil dr google comes in). But we’re all works in progress, right? Hugs to you!
  42. 2 points
    Hi.. I can relate but my symptoms are diff now. I also thought no way this is anxiety but I like you can not live with uncertainty. I also don't know how people do it. It's just how we are wired. It makes things a little harder Bec we over think everything including like you said our body sensations and over focusing. Your mom passing away has definitely effected you. I'm so so sorry you lost your mom. I lost my best friend to cancer and it has completely changed me. I've always been a worry wart but now I panic when something feels even the slightest bit off. I went to the e.r. 2 yrs ago with the pains you describe.. the exact pains. They said it's probably a pulled muscle.. but I demanded a CT scan. Everything was clear, I walked out of that e.r. and never felt those pains again!!!!!! Just goes to show what over focusing really can do. Hugs. Continue with therapy it will help.
  43. 2 points
    Hi cKelley. WOW!! It's good to see the old flag on the site. You are welcome to come here any time, the UK would welcome you. We have such changes taking place here of late it's difficult to keep up with them. AND you liv07, you would be welcome too. I still love England. It's cold, wet, damp and miserable weatherwise in the winter, but a good English summer takes some beating! It's still a good place to live and the people are still caring in the most part. We have our problems, well who hasn't, but it's all OK. I think most of your queries have been answered by others, so I will just wish you both well.
  44. 2 points
    I have no idea what’s going on What's going on Ashley is nervous anticipation. A real curse in anxiety. Us humans were gifted (!!!) with an imagination. Now this is the source of all great works of art, music, books and any form of creation. It has it's reverse side in it's expression of fear and anticipation. We fear the worse because we imagine the worse. Some have a very vivid imagination and some of the things I have heard from those in an anxiety state beggar belief. Once we get so involved with symptoms we are in trouble. It's causes we should concentrate on not symptoms. Once you have been checked out and are found OK then try and find why you feel as you do. What in your life or in the past could be throwing up so much fear. This sometimes takes a skilled therapist to sort out, but it's the only way for any sort of complete recovery.
  45. 2 points
    Ohhh ellebel, please don't worry for a year I missed so so much. My son and daughters bday are in March.. I was there but not mentally. My husband went and bought the decorations and cake Bec I physically couldn't.... I was like a zombie. I mentally missed Valentine's day, Easter, my other daughters bday, our summer vacation, first day of school, Halloween... It can seriously take over your life. On the als forum there is a great guy named Vincent, he said one day after like the 5th twitching question is a row that he wishes twitches would be dropped as a symptom and weakness too.. he said it should say paralysis when you google ALS and that's it. And so many people with als commended him and agreed. Sweetie, that tells you everything.
  46. 2 points
    So how could you determine by looking at a list of symptoms/lack of symptoms whether or not you have or don't have RA? My opinion is it would be difficult because you are not medically trained. You said you don't have the typical symptoms of pain, swelling, etc. and the reasons you do have it is that you have this tendon issue in a few joints that might be an early indicator. Now I'm not saying the tendon issue you have won't turn into RA as you mentioned, but at this point it would seem as though that hasn't happened. I would focus on what I could do to lessen the risk of having RA down the road. Maybe look into eating an anti-inflammatory diet, doing moderate exercise, not smoking, etc... I'm not an expert but I would take a preventative approach at this time and not worry about what happens if it does turn into RA. Do something about the things you can control now so you have less of a chance of having to deal with arthritis in the future.
  47. 2 points
    Oh, that is GREAT news. I swear I’m scared of the dumbest things. No you are not Ashley. There are no 'dumbest things' in anxiety. Nothing is ever silly, stupid, irrational or childish. No way. It's all symptoms of HA or just plain anxiety. We have to realise that everyone worries about something. Even so called 'normal' people worry. The difference is we EXAGGERATE it all and blow it up out of all proportion. Many worry, but soon forget it and move on. We don't. We hang on to it and worry it like a dog with a bone until it becomes a habit. That's when we have to do something about it, because habits can stick, but they can be broken.
  48. 2 points
    This does raise the question of Avoidance. So many, when they go into therapy of any sort, have expectations. They are asking for help and getting it. But any good therapist knows that there comes a point where the patient/client, whatever you like to call them, begins to doubt if it's worth the bother, because NOTHING IS IMMEDIATELY HAPPENING. This is when so many give up. The therapist feels somewhat frustrated because he/she knows that they may well have been at a point of breakthrough. The patient can't see it, the therapist can, and knows often from many years of experience. The patient loses patience!! The expectations are not being realised, and to say that it takes time to recover is no help because the patient has been ill for so long and is on the point of despair. The whole object of any therapy is to bring hidden avoided feelings and emotions to the surface where they can be dealt with. Seen in the light of day, of understanding and new found knowledge. But this can be painful, and often the patient would rather avoid the pain and remain in an anxiety state. This is avoidance. Dr.Weekes talked about Facing and Accepting our fears and frustrations and doubts. Going around them; avoiding them or trying to 'get over' them is to no avail. Facing head on is painful but the rewards are great.
  49. 2 points
    Kindra!!! I saw that on you tube and I told myself if I woke up again with the dizziness I would do it. I felt like my head was full the next day too. The sinus meds seem to help with that. Today I feel back to normal. Idk what caused it. I had a few ideas but I'm not for sure. I hope you feel better soon. Sorry you even had to go through that. Hugs
  50. 2 points
    As far as I am convcerned Facebook is out, but being of an older generation I need personal contact rather than virtual ones. Can you get out?There is no substitute for personal meetings and real dates. Or are you too shy? If so then that has to be looked at. 'Why am I shy?' What does 'to be shy' actually mean? It's a form of embarrassment, but more often a lack of self worth; self esteem. You don't feel on the same level as 'them', whoever they may be. You are afraid of making a fool of yourself in some way, although you never do. By your name you are a guy, so does it ever occur to you girls feel the same shyness? Everyone attemps to put on a brave face. They ACT as if they are OK, but deep down they are fearful of what others think of them. This has resulted in somewhat drastc action on Facebook where young people have done things to themselves. Self harm is caused by this lack of self worth. 'I must suffer because I am not living up to the standards demanded of me by society'. But are the standards society wants the standards we should live by? Look around and the question answers itself. Davide, you are YOU. A unique one off and you owe no one anything, but you owe yourself a lot. You owe yourself a good life with the right sort of companionship and the right environment. You can have all that if you stop putting yourself down in your mind. I had many social disappointments last year and I wanted this year to be different You didn't really expect it to happen, did you? So you projected negative thoughts and got them back. "As you believe so shall it be done unto you". These are true words. If you go out there with optimism and the belief it will work out the results will be entirely different. Good luck.