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    I'm sorry but there is no need to be condescending. This is a place to help ease one another's fears not to make someone who is obviously dealing with something feel like they're crazy or acting in a stupid way. Not to put words in anyone's mouth but by saying "of course I've been reading stories" I don't think she's actively trying to make herself upset. Anyone with health anxiety knows how it can affect your mind/body/actions. Sometimes by googling symptoms we're hoping against all hope that we find something on there that will in fact ease our minds. In fact, it was because I was googling my symptoms that I found this website and I couldn't be happier that I did. If you don't suffer with HA than I know you couldn't possibly know how our minds work but please when leaving comments to people take into consideration what they might already be going through. They don't need to read negative comments towards them when they're only feeling scared.
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    I have had cancer in my pancreas, liver, kidneys, lungs, colon, brain, spine. As well as a ton of other pretty life threatening ailments. My doctor has always checked a couple of things and said "It's nothing serious". Then I would go home and wait to die, because of course, my 5 hours on Google makes me a better judge than his medical license and years of experience. The strange thing is, he has always been right so far.....LOL Oh that's nothing mate!! I have had worse than you!! Shall we compare notes? Now there was that time..................!!!!!! Joking aside you are SO right. We have the lot don't we? I reckon the 100 symptoms of anxiety are only the tip of the iceberg. Anxiety is the best illusionist and conjurer in the world. Making railroad trains disappear is child's play to him. Conjuring up imaginary diseases is done in a flash. His best friend is a so called medical doctor called Google. Now he really knows how to put the frighteners on. He sure does know more than your average GP that's for sure. Or he thinks he does. Yes, it is an annoying thing about these doctors always being right when WE know there is something wrong. . Now I know I have all the things you mention, but I can't get a doctor to believe me. But then what do they know!!!! .
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    Our oldest son called and prayed with me and my anxiety has lifted. Nothing can happen outside the will of God and God isn't an Indian Giver. I believe I am 100% and forever healed of Colon Cancer and expect good news whenever that test result comes. The joy of the LORD is my strength! Psalm 16:8-11 I have set the LORD always before me. Because He is at my right hand, I will not be shaken. Therefore my heart is glad and my tongue rejoices; my body also will rest secure, because You will not abandon me to the grave, nor will You let your Holy One see decay. You have made known to me the path of life; You will fill me with joy in Your presence, with eternal pleasures at Your right hand."I will not die, but live, and I will proclaim what the LORD has done." Psalm 118:171 Peter 1: 18-20 For you know that God paid a ransom to save you from the empty life you inherited from your ancestors. And the ransom he paid was not mere gold or silver. He paid for you with the precious lifeblood of Christ, the sinless, spotless Lamb of God. God chose him for this purpose long before the world began, but now in these final days, he was sent to the earth for all to see. And he did this for you.
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    Hi Fw5 I don't believe the word cure is the right term. Here on AC we talk a lot about recovery. You can't cure anxiety. We all need a little anxiety to keep us from doing stupid stuff and planning ahead. Like right now, I'm on a yacht in gale force winds after cyclone Debbie here in Australia. I'm anxious and for good reason. But this anxiety has made me pull into a safe harbour, tie more ropes on and secure the boat more than I normally would. The anxiety is keeping me alert and watchful. This is all good stuff! I don't like feeling this way and can't wait until the gale is over but for now I have to accept the gale and my anxiety as a natural human reaction. The way I feel now is normal anxiety and we as humans need this in our lives. That's why anxiety can't be cured. You can however recover from an anxiety disorder. A disorder happens when the anxiety is out of proportion to reality and interferes with you living your best life. I have recovered so far. Sometimes I have setbacks, but mostly, my anxiety is in proportion to reality and doesn't interfere with me being happy. You can recover too. Have you ever tried cognitive behaviour therapy? This helps to teach you to challenge your thoughts and sort out fact from fiction. What I mean by that is...you can think you'll get cancer all you like...this is fiction. The cancer isn't actually diagnosed or real. The fact is right now at this moment you don't have cancer and are fine. You need to learn to separate what's actually happening right now in the present, rather than be anxious about non existant cancer or whatever else you think you have. "Think" being the key word. You can think you are a billionaire all you like but it doesn't make it true. The same way you can think you'll get cancer. Until you are sitting across from your doctor and they say the words "you have cancer" it is not a real thing. Even if your body is aching or giving you signs and symptoms, until that moment the doctor says those words, you are making yourself sick with anxiety over a non existant thing. It isn't real until a doctor says it's real. I learned to laugh at my thoughts. I would feel a cramp in my leg and my thoughts would say "omg it's a clot". Being mindful helped me to recognise the thought and just observe it rather than be carried away believing it. Then I'd laugh at my habit of jumping to the worst possible conclusion. "Of course it's a clot" I'd laugh to myself "of course brain, good work". Learn mindfulness. Learn to watch and observe your thoughts without judgement and without being carried away by them. Watch them as you would watch clouds passing in the sky. Don't become involved the narrative they tell. I'd suggest CBT therapy if you can find it. To answer your question, yes people have recovered and got on with their lives. It is totally possible.
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    Had the EMG earlier than planned. They checked my hands. All clear! Feeling a lot better emotionally, going to put all my focus on positivity and acceptance now instead of worrying about the symptoms.
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    According to many psyche doctors and I'll have to paraphrase because I don't recall the exact terminology, our negative and anxious thoughts have cut a new channel in our brains. So when a thought comes up it's automatically more inclined to go negative to fit into our big ' negative channel/ river' of where our thoughts go. The best way to counter that is to manually and intentionally think different thoughts. With enough positive thoughts we can cut a new pathway / channel where the good thoughts go. It seems hard because we are so used to doing it this way. But I think we all know these people who are happy and positive no matter what and when its' pouring rain and wrecking the whole day's plans, they just smile or even laugh and talk about what a beautiful day it is. They have a happy channel of thought and it's hard for them to see the negative.
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    Wow, that is so weird to see that AZ is gone... My anxiety/hypochondria has been very under control the past 8 months or so, but once in a while I would still go there for some support when needed. I had no idea all the banning and stuff was going on. I found most of the members helpful, especially a certain few, though there were some that were very less than helpful. I am glad there is another resource when we need it - I just joined this forum. My screen name at AZ was AirNomad. I remember seeing Greend, Bobnat, and CEH1354 over there, all of whom were always very helpful
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    Sometimes we are our own worst enemies. I've been there done that.. and learned a hard lesson!!!! It took a ton of power to stop "researching" but once i did, it did help a lot. My husband at one point took internet connection off my phone that was my Google Rock bottom. We can control it.. and when we do we will get better.
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    OK, everyone take 5 minutes and a few deep breaths. Arguing, falling out and drama helps nobody. It ain't a competition, we're all here because we're suffering or want to help others because we have been there. Try and be mindful and respectful of each other. Thank you
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    I so agree with RJ; probably the single most difficult part of HA in this day and age is the absolutely overwhelming urge to seek information (Google), and yes, in the hope we can ease our mind. We totally know that the odds are against us finding info to relieve us and are high that we will further upset ourselves. It's all part of the need to try to control our lives in an area where, to a large degree, we have no control.
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    Honestly I wish I knew how. I try my best to keep rational thoughts in my head etc but even as I type this I'm sitting at work freaking out that I have a feeling of shortness of breath/choking etc. I have a cold most likely since I have some mucus/congestion but in my head I'm thinking Asthma or Pneumonia. It's pretty crazy. The only way I have ever been told to look at things that helped is to imagine the likelihood of different situations as slices of pie. One massive slice signifying the likelihood it is nothing serious and a small sliver signifying the likelihood it's as bad as I've made it out to be in my head.
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    I got a phone call from the radiologist who read my Chest CT Scan re the cluster of pulmonary nodules likely infectious or inflammatory in etiology given the appearance. He wanted to know if I'd been put on medication for a chest infection. He said he is 90% (PLUS) sure that this has nothing to do with my cancer and wanted to know if I had started coughing since my scan was read a week ago. I started coughing about 3 days ago, tho it's a dry cough with a tickle, different feeling in my right lung. He said he'd like for me to be on an antibiotic for 10 days and have another chest CT after in a month to 6 weeks sent for him to read. He said 'nothing in medicine is 100%, but I feel very sure this has nothing to do with your cancer and is just a chest infection that was beginning'. He said 'I'd tell you not to worry, but I know that's pretty impossible once you've had cancer'.... what a NICE guy! So, I've called my oncologist to see if I could get a script through him. I talked to the first nurse who had a second nurse call me back. A third nurse wanted to know if I was having shortness of breath or night sweats. Nope, just a tickle dry cough. I don't see him until next Tuesday mid morning but he's calling in a weeks worth of Keflex. I told the radiologist that I usually post an NED (No Evidence of Disease) and didn't want to do that if 6 weeks from now .... He said 'we see these all the time and they usually resolve very quickly once the patient is treated for the infection so I have no problem with you saying you're NED. Also, it's been five years since your liver met and the four nodules we've been watching in your left lung have been there, unchanged, since your first CT scan in Feb. 2009.' I wish all doctors were as kind and conscientious as he. Diane Stage IIIB cc surgery 1/7/09. 5/17 nodes. 12 tx FOLFOX Stage IVa 2/15/12. CEA 6.4 PET = 1.5cm liver met. HR 4/11/12 No chemo NED April 2017 Eight yrs, 3 months since original dx. Five yrs. post liver resection. “O Lord my God, I cried out to You, And You healed me.” Psalms 30:2
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    Yes Diane. I have written before about the power of words and how they can help or discourage. We have to be careful how we use words. So many so called 'professionals' use words in therapy that the patient doesn't always understand and are sometimes afraid to ask. In counselling one understands only too well the problems a misplaced word can cause. When someone admits to a even mild mistake in their lives a sharp intake of breath from the therapist can ruin weeks or months of work. Why? Because it's judgemental. None of us have the right to judge others. "Judge not lest ye be not judged". We all have things that we may be ashamed of. But being critical of others when we have problems of our own is not good. In anxiety the critical onlooker can cause so much pain by a chance remark. Men are especially vulnerable to criticism because, even though we are supposed to be more enlightened, anxiety is still considered by many to be 'unmanly'; a sign of weakness. It is statistically said that more women than men suffer from anxiety. I question that. It's just that women are more prepared to come forward and admit they have a problem than men. Give me female patient anytime. A women will say more in one session than a man in ten. The classic therapist's story comes to mind. The patient came for six sessions and the therapists could not understand why they did not seem to be getting anywhere. As the man left after the sixth session he turned at the door and said, " Oh by the way, my wife left me six weeks ago". By the way!!!! Six weeks of wasted effort when a woman would have admitted to it during the first session. But he was ashamed of telling the therapist because it looked as if he, a man, had failed to keep a women happy. At the beginning of my GAD I was told by a so called 'healer' that I would never get over anxiety. Thanks!!!! That was all I needed at the time. Had I been even lower than I was a remark like that could have tipped me over the edge. I knew nothing about anxiety then, and neither did she apparently. So yes Diane, let's use words of encouragement. Not raising false hopes, but helping the sufferer to see that all is not lost. It never is. Even on the darkest days there is still hope; a glimmer of light in the darkness.
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    A disorder happens when the anxiety is out of proportion to reality and interferes with you living your best life. Thanks sailor. Every now and then someone says something that needs reading twice or more often because, in a few words it encapsulates what this thing called anxiety is about. when the anxiety is out of proportion to reality . Now that just about sums it up. Out of all proportion!! Things happen. Good things, bad things, but it's how we react to them that makes the difference. Only if you react inappropriately does it interfere with your life. OK, I hear you say, 'but I can't help the way I react, it just happens; takes me unawares'. Yes, it does; it does to us all and that's where something like CBT training comes in. But it has to be learned until it's firmly fixed in the mind. Just reading it once does very little. Acceptance is the same. There is a new kid on the block called 'Metacognitive Therapy'. Similar but NOT the same as CBT. I have only read a bit about it but, to me, it has promise. It suggests that two things perpetuate anxiety. Worry and Rumination. Worry is obvious, but rumination? We do don't we? We go over and over the same ground again and again and, like the dog chasing its tail, get nowhere. Cows ruminate! They sit looking into space while they chew the cud. How many of us sit looking into space waiting for answers. Invariably we never find them because there are none. It's a hard fact and one not many of us want to face, but it's all down to us. We can get help, advice, drugs and all sorts of help but none of that will do anything unless there is a WILLINGNESS to want to recover. We have to ask as painful as it is, 'Are we attention seeking'? Is it the only way we can find the love and attention we so badly need? Recovery can be daunting. It means responsibility for our actions. When we are well there are no excuses for bad behaviour. No 'oh I can't help it'. I would suggest that most of us with anxiety suffer because we have not been leading the life we should have. OK, so physical illness can cause anxiety. Of course it can, but how many with HA are actually physically ill? When I was in the middle of GAD I did some soul searching and realised that all was not well with my life and the way I was treating other people. That was only one 'wrong' aspect, there were many more. My anxiety was brought about by me being at odds with myself. Not living up to the standards I was so ready to impose on others. It goes deep, this anxiety. It's not a superficial thing that can be overcome by drugs or talks or books. There is a prayer that begins, 'Lord, save me from myself' !! We would do well to heed that plea.
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    I am appreciating everything I am reading in this post. On one level, I already "knew" much of it, logically, but to be reminded that neural pathways can be deeply grooved and it is easy to get caught in them is helpful as a reminder. I suppose I have always been an anxious person, but of a low grade, pretty functional type (perfectionistic, a touch of OCD, foreboding joy at times, could be testy if little things were out of whack, and rigidity in certain areas). Although not proud of these traits, they did not impact my life in a marked negative way. I worked hard in therapy on all those things, but still, they are just termperamentally part of my personality. And then the election of 2016 happened and my macro fears of what Trump and his minions might do, shortly followed by a very dear friend dying of a rare cancer created a huge "skip" in my brain and I have not been able to get out of it, trying though I am. It's been a month since the panic attack that kicked this into overdrive for me. I so want to return to a time this impending sense of doom did not follow me around. Like so many here, just trying to take it one day at a time, sometime just moments at a time. Thanks again for this thread.
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    Hi Blu. I'm 45, I never had any spotting or period weirdness until I was almost 40. It comes and goes but brown spotting mid cycle, around when you are due to ovulate is something that is very VERY common, and very normal. It can happen at any age and can be slight bleeding from the follicles that stimulate the egg, and it turns brown (old blood) as it comes out. It can be a little left over old blood from your last period that has come out with your discharge that is normal. It could be whacky hormones and perimenopause. DO NOT worry, I know that is easier said than done. I had it and had never had anything before, I've had cycles where I got my period when I was supposed to ovulate, I think that is called an anovulatory cycle, so far I think that has only happened 3 times but my cycle has shortened by 2 or 3 days regularly now. Possibly perimenopause but don't jump to that conclusion just yet, it might just be stress. I'm confident it is not anything serious. My doctor told me to go back if it continued every month and worsened, it didn't. It comes and goes. If it happens again have a check up but from my experience and all the research I did (cos I have to lol) spotting mid cycle, red, brown, pink.. is pretty normal, and not a sign of anything bad.
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    Hi Enid, Gosh, I remember when the water bucket challenge hit Facebook and within hours, people on Anxiety Zone were sure they had it. It's SO rare! I'm 66 and I've never MET a person with ALS. I've known about it my whole life because I was born in 1950 on Gehrig Street, named after Lou Gehrig who was the famous ball player who had 'Lou Gehrig's Disease' (ALS). Through a friend at church, I know of a man. Through another person, I heard of a woman who has been living with it for years. Again, this is super rare. The symptoms are common with everything from anxiety and stress to other conditions. The chance of you having ALS are so teeny tiny. TONIGHT, do not Google. Tomorrow, tell yourself, I will not Google just for today. Then try for another day and then another. The less negative we see and hear, the easier it is to rationalize that something isn't true. Here's a SUPER big hug and make yourself at home. This is such a nice and supportive forum! Diane
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    hi there, my 11 year old created this last year, today i came across it and it lifted me up, as i have had a rough couple of days .i wanted to share it all to you especially for those who, feel hopeless and feel like things will never get better. i hope you enjoy it.. i know i did Life How I live it.docx
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    I made my decision to Divorce Google as of yesterday. And I am proud to say our Divorce is Final!! And I get the house (little corny joke) And even better! I get full control of my MIND back. I hope for any of you who have a negative relationship with Google can do the same asap! Google is not a good wife, husband, friend in our time of need. I find this website to be more of a wife, husband or friend...Figuratively speaking Have a great Saturday everyone!!! And Thank you all for your help and support. This site is Awesome
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    I've had MANY AK's and SK's removed, 1 mildly and one severely dysplastic nevus removed (MOHS) plus a surface BCC on my shin that was just frozen off and never returned. Today he said the 3 red spots were AK's. They'd only been there for about 7 weeks or less because I'd gone in for a rash on my arm (eight weeks ago) that was waking me at night itching and I didn't have any spots other than the rash on my arm. Anyhow, he REALLY froze the 3 AK's OUCH and 5 (?) SK's that were just unattractive and show if I wear a scoop neck shirt or sleeveless (which I never do), several I'd not even noticed. He also removed a wart from a finger. The spot on my back is a new SK and since it's never going to be seen and never turns bad, we left it alone. I had the fluid drained from the cyst on my toe. I thought I might be going too soon but it was bugging me. It took 2 syringes of steroids to flush out the synovial fluid! It was pretty deep evidently. That isn't comfortable because he doesn't deaden it but it's less painful that the lidocaine shots. So, other than some AK's that could have become cancer in many years, nothing of any concern. Doc is Mayo trained and a MOHS surgeon/ dermatopathologist and a handsome young guy. My husband had a BCC on his forearm many years ago. One doctor removed it and it grew back. This doctor (that we have now) did MOHS and removed it. What was wild was I pointed it out to the doctor and he said it looked like a mosquito bite and I said 'It's been there for almost a year!' THEN he did get upset and did a biopsy and MOHS a week later. Jim was a red head and has thousands of freckles and moles. I probably have 4 or 5 moles total. I was totally at ease by bedtime last night and slept really well. No anxiety at the doctor's office today, either. Actually, I was more scared yesterday about the spot on my back that I could barely see because the severely dysplastic nevus was a new mole that was on my butt cheek and doctor found it during a yearly full body check. At my age, you don't get new moles. After 60, they're all suspicious. Glad this is an age spot. I only have a few on my back and they stay flat and small. Diane
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    All blood work was posted to my online portal and was normal, even my WBC count! Phew
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    I can't begin to describe how much I hate health tests. Even routine blood tests freak me out. So it takes a lot of energy (and emotional distress) for me to go through with one. Anyway, I started seeing someone and we may be getting serious, so I thought I'd get a STD test just in case. I always wear protection, so it's not like I'm at high-risk for one thing or another, but still, it's a matter of principal. It took a LOT for me to convince myself to go in for the test. It was like a whole day of me lying on my couching and running through all the worst-case scenarios in my head. But I finally did it, and the nurses and doctors were super nice, and the wait wasn't bad. Felt a little anxious post-test as I awaited results. But today I get a call saying that everything's good. Huge wave of relief. Anyway, I just wanted to bring this up because it was a minor victory for me; hopefully it helps others who are test-averse like I am. PS: In no way do I mean to stigmatize STDs. The "victory" is more so about me taking the effort to go get tested, and less so about the negative results. Certainly, a STD is far from being the end of the world.
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    Try to find a clinic that does sliding scale services. There are also counselors that do sliding scale that can help. Don't be like me. All the money I spent with going to the ER, cardiologist, doctor, neuro and therapy is probably around $3,500. After the twitching subsided and I felt better I started to get shaky and thought I had Parkinsons. Our minds can run real numbers on us on what may be just a normal bodily function. Under anxiety we also become hyper aware of our bodies. Every dent, ding, twitch, flutter, pain, twinge starts to make us think it is a symptom of whatever "disease" we have when in fact it may be something we've always had but never noticed. Get help, even if you have to shell out some money, small price to pay for piece of mind.
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    It's funny because I used to get this, and I posted to a different and very inactive online community about it. Years later I still get alerts about replies to that topic and it's always "I HAVE THIS! Same area! Did you ever find out what it was??" Nope, never did, but I'm still here so it can't have been deadly!
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    If it's limited to your earlobes, it's not what you're afraid it is. An acquaintance of my girlfriend has a life-threatening disease that causes petechiae. I saw a photo she posted to social media to show them. It was a mind-blowing sight; she's more red than skin-colored over her entire body (or at least what was visible). A small rash of them means trauma or irritation most likely.
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    How do you know it's actually petechiae and not some other harmless anomaly? It happens. Heat can cause little "rashes", and so can trauma, such as laying on a part of the body for a while.
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    You do seem to have a lot going on in your life right now and that could be causing your anxiety. Good thing you quit the chewing tobacco habit, wish my son would do that too. I would try to not overwhelm yourself with all of this at one time, take one issue and work on that if you can. Sorry about your sibling, that is surely a concern for you but also you can't do anything about it. You can only do so much and the rest is mental worry, try to read or think positive thoughts if you can. Write down 5 things you're thankful for every day, that helps me with my anxiety and I have a lot going on too. I'm also 74 and believe me that's not easy when anxiety hits me, I get worn out from it. Try the list and think one thing at a time if you can and ask yourself if you can do anything about the things that are bothering you. I wish you luck, take care
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    I have the same problem . Whenever I get any kind of chest discomfort , nausea , or shortness of breath I immediately think it's my heart. Of course all 3 symptoms can occur with a heart attack, so it's prudent to be checked out which I did, I had the cardiology blood work up , ekg, ecg, and a stress test, his answer was it's probably not your heart, The probably bothered me. I see my doctor,every 6 months and ask the same questions, my closterol is below 200 , both my blood pressure numbers are great. I was able to shovel heavy snow off my long driveway by hand without any huffing and puffing . I eat no beef, and try to limit all heart unfriendly foods from diet, though letting go of New York pizza is very hard. So why do I worry? Because in fact of the power of suggestion, the symptoms point to a heart attack. Google them and they tell you to immediately call for an ambulance. The internet scares us and it means to, for one perhaps someone's life will be saved by telling people who have those symptoms to get immediate help. My younger brother had chest discomfort and he went in right away and his heart was 90 percent blocked. They did an angiogram to determine it and then put in stents. He was home the next day, He however did have numbers off the chart when he went in, and I did not. He is a heavy drinker and smoker and 30 pounds overweight, and I am not, Yes we have to take care of our bodies, we have to have checkups . We have to be smart about it. But having done all of this does worry help? To the point where worry gets us to go get checked out. Yes. After being told you did not now have a heart attack, should you still worry, Knowing that worry causes stress and at stress is bad for you, we should say not. But how then can we not worry.? You cant just turn it off because you know that worry isn't helpful. It's not possible to turn off anxiety by not being anxious . It's a circular argument, worry begets worry, anxiety causes anxiety, when we dwell on it, it stays with us, festers , consumes , tortures our brains, So what's the answer let it go. Accept that you can't predict what is going to happen and be at peace that you are doing the best you can, which is all you can ask of yourself, you can't force yourself to not worry, that only makes you worry more, you move on, you enjoy your life and the proof of this method is very clear,over time, my chest pains happened in. 2014. 3 years ago. I did not have a heart attack. I am still here and ever more convinced to take care of my body to not eat junk, to get tested once a year and to,look back in each day knowing by the facts of each occurrence that at the end of the day that. Nothing happened. That's the proof, history, retrospect, knowing that yes I had the signs of a heart attack but also knowing that a panic attack has the exact same symptoms, They are so alike that it tricks us. Anxiety can cause everything . You get checked out and if you are cleared then accept that it is anxiety . I accept that I am anxious, I face this reality and know that this anxiety can manifest itself in every discomfort knownto us, the same nerves that react to something real are triggered by anxious thoughts, float thru it by letting go of them , pay them no mind and they will go away, rest assured however they will be back, expect them, and ignore them, each time say oh you again, and move on ignore it, don't dwell on it. Float and let time pass over it, and it goes away with no outcome. It's not real. Hang in there, truly. Just do that and it will pass. Don't react.
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    If anything they may not be as effective but they won't cause you any harm gemma. No need to worry.
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    I can't really say anyone in my family is that sick, but I definitely have HA not only for myself, but for my wife and kids also. I keep tabs on everything. Every time my wife goes to the bathroom I ask her if she feels okay or if her stomach is bothering her. I check on my kids in the middle of the night atleast 3 times each. I wake up in the middle of the night and watch my wife sleep just to make sure she is still breathing. None of them are sick or really have any medical problems at all. I guess our brains are just programmed to fear for them as we fear for ourselves.
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    If it was normal chances are they will not test you again. You said once you start thinking about it makes you itch. This happens often when for example someone has lice and we start itching.
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    Hi Olivia, Mucous is the WD40 of the intestines. We ALL have it ALL the time. It keeps the colon moist or slippery to help move the feces through. It is usually clear and you don't see it because it's on the poop. When it sits for a while, it picks up the colorings in the poop. It can be strange colors depending on what you ate. Some babies actually pass clumps of clear mucous and loads of mucous if they're breast fed. It's gotta come out eventually because the body keeps making it and a bf baby has loose stools. Chron's usually develops in very young people. Bowel cancer (you must be from the UK because we don't use that term in the U.S.) doesn't cause pelvic/ pubic bone pain unless it was rectal cancer that has spread to the bone and you'd be near death and know it. Two people on my colon cancer forum have this with advanced rectal cancer and say the pain is unbearable even with morphine. Doesn't everyone have pelvic lower abdominal pain? I get it with constipation, especially, or after pushing / straining to go poo.
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    Thinking about you Diane, I know how hard it is to not get consumed by the fears, hang in there xxx
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    "Likely to be infectious/inflammatory" Lord hear my prayer.
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    I've prayed and prayed since the middle of the night for the LORD to remove this fear and give me peace but I want to tell Him to give me peace and 'oh by the way', make sure it all turns out the way I want it to! Diane. The words 'Not my will but Thine be done' just came to me. The words of Christ in the garden before His crucifixion.
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    I'm not sure I can say "cured", but I (proudly) say that I basically don't experience health anxiety anymore. I'm not afraid to go to the doc. I'm not afraid to look at my lab results, even when my cholesterol numbers were screwed up recently. I'm also not afraid to go to the dentist for the extensive work I need done. I live happily and almost care free. I honestly can't recall the last time I had an irrational fear. I no longer self check or perform body scans. I've felt things recently that would have triggered major anxiety in the past, but they don't anymore. I don't think twice about then. I just keep going on.
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    Women are very prone to UTI for obvious reasons, so I would not worry unduly. If it really concerns you then get some advice, but it sounds very much like anxiety. This nagging pressing feeling happens to men as well in anxiety and is simply the muscles in the bladder tightening up under tension. It's worse for men because men have two sphincter muscles, women only one. The sphincters control the bladder and you release them when you pee. They are very susceptible to stress. It's back to the old fight/flight mechanism. You can't stop to pee when being chased!! so you are prompted to do it before. Try not to spend half your life worrying over imaginary problems. Oh I know only too well, but you said you were on vacation and lost 15 days in worry. Anxiety can mimic any known disease. Honest! And we HA sufferers have them all, if we put our minds to it. .
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    Hi, Davey; Has "anybody else" suffered with these things? How about the majority of people that post and read this site! Those are classic anxiety symptoms; couple that with all the normal testing and you have...try to guess...give up? ANXIETY. Consider therapy if you have not done so already; it helps some, others no but should be at least tried. Likewise, anti-depressants may be tried; they can be a lifesaver but again, not for everyone. For short term anxiety (like waiting for test results, or for an appointment date to come) Ativan/Xanax could be a good thing.
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    The Daffodil Principle Several times my daughter had telephoned to say, "Mother, you must come see the daffodils before they are over." I wanted to go, but it was a two-hour drive from Laguna to Lake Arrowhead. "I will come next Tuesday, " I promised, a little reluctantly, on her third call. Next Tuesday dawned cold and rainy. Still, I had promised, and so I drove there. When I finally walked into Carolyn's house and hugged and greeted my grandchildren, I said, "Forget the daffodils, Carolyn! The road is invisible in the clouds and fog, and there is nothing in the world except you and these children that I want to see bad enough to drive another inch!" My daughter smiled calmly and said, "We drive in this all the time, Mother." "Well, you won't get me back on the road until it clears, and then I'm heading for home!" I assured her. "I was hoping you'd take me over to the garage to pick up my car." "How far will we have to drive?" "Just a few blocks," Carolyn said. "I'll drive. I'm used to this." After several minutes, I had to ask, "Where are we going? This isn't the way to the garage!" "We're going to my garage the long way," Carolyn smiled, "by way of the daffodils." "Carolyn," I said sternly, "please turn around." "It's all right, Mother, I promise. You will never forgive yourself if you miss this experience." After about twenty minutes, we turned onto a small gravel road and I saw a small church. On the far side of the church, I saw a hand-lettered sign that said, "Daffodil Garden." We got out of the car and each took a child's hand, and I followed Carolyn down the path. Then, we turned a corner of the path, and I looked up and gasped. Before me lay the most glorious sight. It looked as though someone had taken a great vat of gold and poured it down over the mountain peak and slopes. The flowers were planted in majestic, swirling patterns-great ribbons and swaths of deep orange, white, lemon yellow, salmon pink, saffron, and butter yellow. Each different-colored variety was planted as a group so that it swirled and flowed like its own river with its own unique hue. There were five acres of flowers. "But who has done this?" I asked Carolyn. "It's just one woman," Carolyn answered. "She lives on the property. That's her home." Carolyn pointed to a well kept A-frame house that looked small and modest in the midst of all that glory. We walked up to the house. On the patio, we saw a poster. "Answers to the Questions I Know You Are Asking" was the headline. The first answer was a simple one."50,000 bulbs," it read. The second answer was, "One at a time, by one woman. Two hands, two feet, and very little brain." The third answer was, "Began in 1958." There it was, The Daffodil Principle. For me, that moment was a life-changing experience. I thought of this woman whom I had never met, who, more than forty years before, had begun ~ one bulb at a time ~ to bring her vision of beauty and joy to an obscure mountain top. Still, just planting one bulb at a time, year after year, had changed the world. This unknown woman had forever changed the world in which she lived. She had created something of ineffable (indescribable) magnificence, beauty, and inspiration. The principle her daffodil garden taught is one of the greatest principles of celebration. That is, learning to move toward our goals and desires one step at a time ~ often just one baby-step at a time ~ and learning to love the doing, learning to use the accumulation of time. When we multiply tiny pieces of time with small increments of daily effort, we too will find we can accomplish magnificent things. We can change the world. "It makes me sad in a way," I admitted to Carolyn. "What might I have accomplished if I had thought of a wonderful goal thirty-five or forty years ago and had worked away at it 'one bulb at a time' through all those years. Just think what I might have been able to achieve!" My daughter summed up the message of the day in her usual direct way. "Start tomorrow," she said. It's so pointless to think of the lost hours of yesterdays. The way to make learning a lesson of celebration instead of a cause for regret is to only ask, "How can I put this to use today?" The Daffodil Garden is no longer open to the public. It 'closed' in 2009. The owner/ planter is Artist Gene Bauer and her husband. 1 Corinthians 3:6 I planted the seed, Apollos watered it, but God made it grow. 7 So neither he who plants nor he who waters is anything, but only God, who makes things grow. 8 The man who plants and the man who waters have one purpose, and each will be rewarded according to his own labor. 9 For we are God's fellow workers; you are God's field, God's building. 10 By the grace God has given me, I laid a foundation as an expert builder, and someone else is building on it. But each one should be careful how he builds. 11 For no one can lay any foundation other than the one already laid, which is Jesus Christ.
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    Chicken or the egg question. Yes anxiety can manifest as digestive issues and a simple, benign stomach cramp can trigger anxiety. When it impacts us, I guess in the short term it doesn't matter what came first as we are dealing with it in that moment. Best wishes.
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    I don't know if you are old enough to remember the old gramophone records. (Probably not!!), but they got 'stuck' in a groove and just went on repeating the same piece of music over and over. Once that happened the recording was ruined. We get 'stuck' in a similar way, but the difference is we can be put right, the record couldn't. I have heard this theory Joy and it makes a lot of sense. They are called 'Neuron Pathways'. Another new theory which also makes sense is that we have in our brain a primitive and a modern part. The primitive comes into play when we are afraid. The fight/flight mechanism. The modern reasoning part is then put into suspension and the fearful part can take over if we are not careful and become a habit. The reasoning part is comparatively new, (I'm talking millions of years), but the primitive part is even older. Unfortunately the primitive part can't reason. It acts instinctively, so that panic and fear seem to have no cause that we can see. Bewildering is the word that comes to mind. Switching from the primitive to the reasoning is not easy, and we can get in a habit, (or groove as Joy says), so easily. The primitive will act instinctively, but the reasoning part will look for logical answers. Why would this or that happen? What makes me think that? The only thing the primitive knows is either have a good fight or run like hell away from the imaginary danger. I think that explains a lot.
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    That is anxiety's classic calling card ...... the Impending Sense of Doom! No matter how good things are, anxiety is always around to remind you of the worst case scenario. Don't fall for it. See what the doctor has to say so you can live your life!
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    I have trouble falling asleep and staying asleep. I have been diagnosed with Restless Leg Syndrome, and anxiety. I went a good 6 months without sleep and while holding down a very demanding career and kids. Suffered at work, divorce at home ... A mess. The result was a burnout. Since then I had to take 0.5mls of Clonazepam to sleep. Worked like a charm. Unfortunately, it's not a great drug to be on (longterm effects) so, I am currently trying other solutions, while tapering of the CP. Some things that work are: Routine ~ your brain needs structure to go into sleep mode. If your habits around sleep are random ~ your brain activity will be too. It may be up when you want to be down, and the reverse. Need to establish a routine, so the brain can "know" it's time to go into sleep mode. Hardest for me because I'm a creative person and I hate routine, but simple things to establish a bedtime "ritual" will help. Herbals ~ I drink "sleepy time teas" every night. Like every night. It's a routine. Not sure it's the routine or the tea that's at work here, but one supports the other so I do it. Also, Valerian is an herb that is purported to induce sleep. It worked for my 20 year old son during episodes of panic/insomnia, so, something to consider. Breathing/Meditation ~ It works. Often if you persist with it you can go into sleep mode right from it. Or do it before bedtime as part of your routine. Use a meditation tape and follow. Find one that works for you. There are 5min, 10min, 20 min ... ones ... Don't give up. It really works. Exercise ~ Need it. Do it. Anything that your enjoy. Days that have had good exercise and especially outdoors I sleep better. Don't exercise too late at night. It will energize you. Yoga ~ Don't need to join a class. Just get a mat and pull up a relaxation routine on Youtube. Even ten minutes. It's the stretching and breathing that will relax your body/mind. It's really that good. Do it. It really helps my RL syndrome by stretching me out. White noise ~ my dad used to make a big deal about me using a fan in the winter. It is a big deal. I can't sleep without it. Support ~ My BF is very 'routine' oriented and methodical. He's very supportive in helping to structure routines at night. Without him I would probably make excuses to stay up (Netflix) whatever. Support is great. If you do all theses things my guess is that you will sleep better. The hardest thing (for me anyway) is to do all these things every day. All the best RL
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    Hello Empathy.. Welcome... One piece of advice I can truly share.... We can not live in the past... We can not count every fault, mistake, or wrong doing we may feel that happened.... WHY? (easier said than done.. of course) Because.. We cannot change the past can we? All the fear , guilt, regret it cannot change it can it? As much as we hope it would it cannot.. BUT , we can take from it.. and learn from our mistakes.. and grow .. IF we never made any mistakes how could we grow and learn? We grow and change constantly and that is from the things we have seen and experiences we have gone thru. Here is a quote I saw that I truly like.. Never regret a day in your life: Good days give you happiness, bad days give you experience, worst days give you lessons, and best days give you memories...
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    Hey Joe I think the more you move about, the less you'll feel suck things. Go for walks or just get your body moving. Ive been using the "DARE response" lately and its been helping me. Its from a book called the Dare Response. The idea is this: When you feel some sensation, or thought that bothers you you apply the method: D - Diffuse: "so what? so I have a pain in my side, people get random pains all the time. Whatever!" A - Accept: "I accept and allow this anxious feeling" Truly accept that its just anxiety thats making you so uncomfortable. R - Run Toward: "Is that all you've got anxiety? Why not give me more pain?! See? Its not even that bad!" Challenge your anxiety. E - Engage: Engage yourself in an activity. Not exactly distraction, but giving no more power to the symptom. You might need to do some of the steps over again if its really bad. But it has been helping me Good luck!
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    I so wished that I had found this site earlier. I now feel like I have the answer of how I have been feeling for soooo long now, I actually feel like a weight has been taken from off my shoulders........Thank you so much
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    I would agree, I think it's all anxiety related and knowing me I would be back on xanax so I could function better. If you can do it alone good for you, and I hope you can. Have you considered therapy? I see a therapist now every two weeks and that has helped me out of a major anxiety period in my life brought on by a death in the family. It took a while and I had to have my meds raised but I'm doing good now and have my medication lowered. I find that getting out of my house is good for me but being retired I don't have a job to go to so I'm pretty much home much of the time. I have a ton of yard work to do but at 74 I don't feel much like doing it. Take care, hope you feel better.